If You Cheat On Your Spouse...Are You A Bad Parent?

[ha-it]

i'm against cheating but if u look at it closely dli man tingali ka bad parent kng mo cheat ka sa imong spouse...being a husband/wife is totally different on being a parent...kita naman cguro mo sa movie na liar liar no?...although dli cheating ang reason sa ilang break up but i think the movie is a very gud example of being a bad parent and how it affects ur child

[mondai75]

mas maayo pa ang cheater na partner kaysa sa kanang manapat or drug addict or rapist....

there's only two reasons why a husband/wife would cheat...one, theres' something wrong sa relationship or sa pikas partner mismo...or two, daan na gyud na "wandering eye" or ganahan gyud ug daghan siya ug kapilian...

but again, that doesnt mean that you are a bad parent when you cheat...mapakita man ang imong pagkaginikanan in other ways besides not cheating....

[LytSlpr]

in my own POV, 8 doesnt mean na u cheat on ur spouse, automaticaly ur a bad parent. their are diferent reasons why pipol hooked up into forbidden relationshps. its either der already unhappy with their married life, or their partner seemd to be distant, cold and ocupied with his/her own life or simply because the other half is having an affair too. but evrythng has no conection with how you treat your children, how you show your love to them or how you've ben their most in their time of needs.

downside of this is everytime you preach morality to your kids, you fel guilty. it is mainly because ur teaching them the right things to do but you yourself is doin the oposite.

i'm against cheating but if u look at it closely dli man tingali ka bad parent kng mo cheat ka sa imong spouse...being a husband/wife is totally different on being a parent...kita naman cguro mo sa movie na liar liar no?...although dli cheating ang reason sa ilang break up but i think the movie is a very gud example of being a bad parent and how it affects ur child

mas maayo pa ang cheater na partner kaysa sa kanang manapat or drug addict or rapist....

there's only two reasons why a husband/wife would cheat...one, theres' something wrong sa relationship or sa pikas partner mismo...or two, daan na gyud na "wandering eye" or ganahan gyud ug daghan siya ug kapilian...

but again, that doesnt mean that you are a bad parent when you cheat...mapakita man ang imong pagkaginikanan in other ways besides not cheating....

IMHO, these are very interesting logic or shall I say justification, hehe!! Personally, I cannot comprehend the reasoning.

Call me self-righteous or old fashioned but it's black and white, if one of the spouses cheat then definitely you are a bad parent. Do not separate your being a spouse to being a parent because they go hand-in-hand. One of the factor of being a good parent is upholding morals and if you are not such then you can not say that you are generally a good parent.

If you no longer love your spouse or even if you still love your spouse but the domestic responsibilities or relationship just don't seem to work for you anymore, then go your separate ways, DO NOT CHEAT. It's like enjoying a good lover and the warmth of your kids at the same time which just don't feel right. Don't you think?

[dexterdal]

If you cheat during an exam are you a bad student? hehhehehehe

[i am jasmine]

If you cheat during an exam are you a bad student? hehhehehehe

hahahaha! yes and no. 8 doesnt make any sense at all esp f evry1s doin 8 n ur clas. oh come on, who of u here an la pa naka xperience ug cheat for their entire student lives, dat ncludes askng frm a seatm8 4 an answer, or mere glancing at hs/her paper or the kodigos?

blatantly, i smetyms cheat durng exams. esp f i had ben out and drnkng d nyt b4 dat hahaha

[i am jasmine]

IMHO, these are very interesting logic or shall I say justification, hehe!! Personally, I cannot comprehend the reasoning.

Call me self-righteous or old fashioned but it's black and white, if one of the spouses cheat then definitely you are a bad parent. Do not separate your being a spouse to being a parent because they go hand-in-hand. One of the factor of being a good parent is upholding morals and if you are not such then you can not say that you are generally a good parent.

If you no longer love your spouse or even if you still love your spouse but the domestic responsibilities or relationship just don't seem to work for you anymore, then go your separate ways, DO NOT CHEAT. It's like enjoying a good lover and the warmth of your kids at the same time which just don't feel right. Don't you think?

u got a gud pt too. as i said earlier, we have difrnt perspctives n lyf......

[happyfeet]

i think that if you cheat on your spouse, in a way.. yes, you are a bad parent.

marriage is the very foundation of a family. by cheating, you are destroying that foundation, thus, depriving your child/children from a whole and happy family. and i personally think belonging to a happy family greatly influences the emotional well-being and over-all upbringing of a child. sure you can still provide emotional and financial assistance, send your kids to good schools, give them all the material things they need & want, but does that fill the void you've created by tearing your family apart simply because u cannot work things out (whatever problem it is) and you resorted to cheating?! of course no. and come to think of it, cheating is a choice. i don't think you can cheat and say.. "wala koy mahimo." believe me, the best sense of security a parent can give to their children is providing them a strong happy family to always come home to from all the endeavors they'd wish to pursue in this world.

and being a spouse and parent is not connected? HAHAHA.. think again! juz don't expect that your kids will not treat you with resentment once they know the truth nga u cheated, mao nahimo silang gikan sa usa ka broken family. and don't expect them not to call u hyprocrites too once you teach them about morality. as we all know, example is the best teacher.:mrgreen:

[joshualiston007]

simply yes. Madamay man ang mga bata.

[ha-it]

IMHO, these are very interesting logic or shall I say justification, hehe!! Personally, I cannot comprehend the reasoning.

Call me self-righteous or old fashioned but it's black and white, if one of the spouses cheat then definitely you are a bad parent. Do not separate your being a spouse to being a parent because they go hand-in-hand. One of the factor of being a good parent is upholding morals and if you are not such then you can not say that you are generally a good parent.

If you no longer love your spouse or even if you still love your spouse but the domestic responsibilities or relationship just don't seem to work for you anymore, then go your separate ways, DO NOT CHEAT. It's like enjoying a good lover and the warmth of your kids at the same time which just don't feel right. Don't you think?

u also got a point!no offense ha pro hatag lang pud ko ako p.o.v...I personally don't cheat!...pro let's try to open our minds!

1. kadungog naman cguro mo sa pangutana na pirting dugaya na no nga d gyud matubag?!..."nganong lami gyud buhaton ang bawal?"
2. leaving ur spouse if u don't love her anymore doesn't make u a good parent either dba? nd try to think of this...cheating may even be a solution to those hu doesn't love their wives/partners anymore kay dba daghan naman gyud gasulti nga maapektohan ang mga bata...being a good parent maka huna2x gyud ka ana that's why cguro ang uban mag cheat nalang kay d man pud cguro nimo ingnan imong mga anak nga nag cheat ka diba?...that's why it's called cheating...ako mismo naa koi kaila ga antos sa iyang asawa kay d mada ang personality pro d gyud nya buwagan kay hibaw cya dako kau effect sa mga bata ug mag bulag cla!...

pro like i said lain2x ta ug p.o.v.
hatag lang ko sa ako opinion!
peace! :mrgreen:

[LytSlpr]

u also got a point!no offense ha pro hatag lang pud ko ako p.o.v...I personally don't cheat!...pro let's try to open our minds!

1. kadungog naman cguro mo sa pangutana na pirting dugaya na no nga d gyud matubag?!..."nganong lami gyud buhaton ang bawal?"
2. leaving ur spouse if u don't love her anymore doesn't make u a good parent either dba? nd try to think of this...cheating may even be a solution to those hu doesn't love their wives/partners anymore kay dba daghan naman gyud gasulti nga maapektohan ang mga bata...being a good parent maka huna2x gyud ka ana that's why cguro ang uban mag cheat nalang kay d man pud cguro nimo ingnan imong mga anak nga nag cheat ka diba?...that's why it's called cheating...ako mismo naa koi kaila ga antos sa iyang asawa kay d mada ang personality pro d gyud nya buwagan kay hibaw cya dako kau effect sa mga bata ug mag bulag cla!...

pro like i said lain2x ta ug p.o.v.
hatag lang ko sa ako opinion!
peace! :mrgreen:

probably it is lesser evil but if you are "clean" before you got out of a bad marriage, there is still a big chance that you are good parent. at least you have a logical and moral explanation to give to your children when the time comes. the bottom line is that you can explain the separating part but probably not the cheating WITHIN the marriage. i believe that you should come out clean for your children's sake.

as what they say, you cannot make a wrong thing right with another wrong. it is all about putting everything in place at the right time.