HELP What to do with Husband's mistress? Confront or not?

[joshbonz]

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I say confront, but you have to put professionalism and 'delikadeza' in confronting her.. even if you might think dili nimo cya ka level but you still have to.

big robbery came from petty miscellaneous ones before. Stop the mole hill before it becomes a mountain.

I agree with XoXo.. ayaw dayon padalos dalos..

It is really your husband who you should confront first.. After all, he's the instigator in all of these.
if you had done tallking with your husband, then the best you would do is to secondly, level with the mistress. Mistresses often or not exist because they can give moreover sexual libidos that husband's are having hard time looking for in their wives. Mostly mistresses fills the gap on whatever wives are lackof..
But no matter what are the reasons of your husband's infidelity and whatever outcome it may lead to. Do not sink into self pity and remorse.

There are more single happy people in this world than those who have entered matrimony. You can file a case with your husband and his mistress.. but the stigma and the embarassment it had given to your family cannot be undone already. Whatever it is worth. It will be your children who suffers more.. A Broken family is not something that can be digested by a child right there and then (depende lang pud sa ilang age) but in time they will understand ra.

Pick wisely your decision. Weight things carefully, then put your decisions into actions...

[XoXo_L_XoXo]

joshbonz, correct.... the kids will suffer jud. luoy kaayo.

Watch Tyler Perry's, WHY DID I GET MARRIED? movie.

[Sol_Itaire]

maybe confront one time and that's it. energy should not be wasted on destructive things.

[XoXo_L_XoXo]

KABIT

Kay sakit naman isipin na
Sa puso mo ako'y pangalawa
Sa tuwing makikita kitang kasama siya
Pinipikit ko ang aking mga mata
At sa gabing kasama mo siya
Halos hindi ako makahinga (ugh)
Kayakap ko ang bote ng tequila
Nagmumukmok sa ibabaw ng lamesa
Naghihintay hanggang sumapit ang umaga
Nang muli kang makasama

Ano ating lagay, hindi mapalagay
Ako'y nasasaktan 'pag hawak mo kanyang kamay
Sa kanya ka sa tanghali, akin ka sa gabi
'Pag dilat sa umaga, yo, wala ka na sa tabi
Merong kahati, gusto kita na mapasa'kin
Kung pwede lang ba sana sa kanya kita nakawin
At lagi mong iisipin, kung hindi ka para sa 'kin
Huwag mo lang basta limutin na ika'y mahal ko rin

Sa puso ko'y nag-iisa
Kahit mayroong iba
Kahit hindi tama ang ginagawa, sinta
Basta ba'y makasama lang kita
Kahit kapiling mo pa siya

At huwag nang mangamba
Kahit sabihin na kalimutan ka
'Di ko 'to makakaya
Basta ba'y makasama lang kita
Kahit kapiling mo pa siya

It really hurts ang magmahal nang ganito
Kung sino pang pinili ko, hindi makuha nang buo
Hanggang gano'n na lang nga, kailangan ko 'tong tanggapin
Na sa puso mo, mayro'n na ngang ibang umaangkin
At alam ko na rin na mayro'n nang nagmamay-ari
Sa pag-ibig sa iyo, ako itong nakikihati
At ano man ang mangyari, 'di ko kayang manumbat
At kahit pa nga ilihim mo ako sa lahat

Gaano man kabigat sa puso ko itong aminin
Hindi dadaing, huwag ka lang mawalay sa 'kin
Masakit man ang isipin na ako ang nanghiram
Kaya pinasya mong huwag na ngang ipaalam
At kahit hindi 'to tama, ako ay sumugal
Kahit na nga alam kong mayro'n kang ibang mahal
Binigay ko ang lahat kahit gan'to ang natamo
Sa pag-ibig ng iba, ngayon ako'y nakikisalo


Sa sitwasyon natin na 'to, 'di ko alam kung sa'n tutungo
Alam ko mahirap at mali pero mahirap din isuko
Pa'no ko masusuot singsing sa 'yo na dala
Kung sa paglalagyan nito, mayroon na palang nauna
No'ng nakilala mo ako, 'di ko binalak manggulo
Gusto ko lang mapatunayan na ika'y mahal ko
Iyong binuo ang buhay ko sa mga nakaw na saglit
Kahit ang tawag sa'kin ay 'di hamak na kabit

Oo nga, ika'y sa akin at ako'y sa iyo
At ikaw din sa kanya at siya din ay sa iyo
'Yan ay aking tinanggap para makasama ka lang
Pero sana huwag sabihin na "nakasama ka lang"
Pero sana rin, huwag tayong dumating pa diyan
Titiisin ko ang lahat, kid, basta huwag lang 'yan
Kahit na alam ko mahirap 'tong tanggapin
Na mas nauna siya sa 'yo kesa sa 'kin, huh

[[SCP] Shawnboy]

I think the best way would be the wife should talk to the husband and settle things out. If what would be the outcome of the descision its the husbands perogative or responsibility to do the explaination to everybody, to his mistress, to the children and to everyone who are affected with the situation. Hope the husband would realize his mistakes and be a man to face and explain everything to all the affected loved ones.

[XoXo_L_XoXo]

The Rule:

"In our relationships, our partner is most likely only able to offer 80% of what we need. There are times when we will find someone who fills in the holes, offering the other 20%…and because it’s been missing for so long, you think you’ve finally found what you truly need. But be careful taking risks of cheating, or leaving your 80%…because what you will be left with, is that 20%. Obviously this is no where near as fulfilling as being with someone who offers 80%."

[morokporok]

Now, the wife finally after all the evidences and other forms of reaching out to the hubby filled a CASE (abandonment)...with matching DAMAGES...kay mura raman wala ang lalaki...nagpalabi sad ang lifestyle sa kabit...thank you all for your time and effort to give your advices.