The value of GIVING is always two-dimensional:
joy in the part of the giver, and the uncertain
response of the receiver. This is the adventure in
making someone feel special and letting him
experience the unconditional love that you want to
give.
Unconditional love can be expressed in various
ways --- seeing the best in the other person,
sharing time, communicating needs and wants, or
simply making him part of you without strings
attached.
I was asked once, "How can you say you love me
if you won't be here?" The word 'here' may
suggest physical presence, but is it the only way
to express one's love?
I was once stuck in that definition of love. In a boy-
girl relationship, especially the less mature ones,
physical presence counts a lot. It was so childish,
but during then, I thought time expressed thru
physical togetherness was the best way to show
affection. It's normal to feel nice to see
that 'significant other' face to face and enjoy the
holding of hands and cuddling. But making
someone feel really special entails so much more,
and it's usually expressed in little things.
Remembering occasions, especially birthdays is
the most common way of showing that you care. It
is the most common, but should not be the only
way. I still can't get over the flick "50 First Dates".
It gives me a lot of inspiration in giving my best
each day to the people I love. In romance, I want
every kiss to be the first kiss; every date the first
date; everyday a courting stage. It's very similar to
how God loves us. Everyday is always a new day
with Him, and there's always something new to
learn.
I wish I could have the kind of relationship I've
been dreaming about. Others say that there's no
such thing as perfect relationship, but for me,
there could be. It all depends on how we see
things, and how we want things to work out.