Bullying in School

[angelfyre]

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is ur child being bullied? or the bully? istoryan parents i need ur inputs here on how you deal wid dis

[Velvett]

angelfyre, i feel so strongly about bullying. you shouldn't tolerate this, nor should your child's teachers. any mild tolerance will send the wrong message. if i were you, i'll call a meeting with the school staff.

[crinkle]

kids get bullied when they let other kids do that to them. seriously, i think, it's good to be bad sometimes.

[splendid moonlight]

In school as a kid I was among the bullied ones. Among kay daghan man sad mi. Naay bullies strike anywhere. But I don't think I was bullied because I let them. The will to fight back doesn't happen to every kid, and it's not their fault. It doesn't occur to them what to do. Of course if things get from tolerable to worse, I knew di man ko mahadlok mo sumbong sa teacher. Although kausa ra pud, unya gi kasab-an siya in front of the whole class so na konsensiya na pud nuon ko.

Which leads me to think it is not good for bullies to be reprimanded in front of other students pud. Teachers should talk to them alone; to show them what respect is like, so they can show the same to others. Or simply because after a 'publicized' sermon (which is likely in some of our schools), they might try to show others they are okay (even if they're not), and still continue bullying as a defense mechanism.

I had a group of friends. So I guess so long as you know your child has someone they can relate to (or know they can tell you and not be ashamed), they'll be alright. Make sure your child has playmates (hopefully not just the computer) and that he/she develops certain interests so that she can eventually be able to relate them to others. Remind your child that he/she can tell you anything - anything. I read parents of bullied children don't know anything about what's really happening to their children in school, because for most it is a shameful subject for the children to talk about to their parents. Labi na tingali sa atong society nga dili pwede mo sumbong kay "palaban." Kung mo sumbong gali, sungugon dayun.

[DebutsAndIDos]

I would teach my son to walk away and not say a thing, if it was only verbal bullying...

But, if the bullies are hurting him, enroll your child in self-defense.

[d`monyita]

it is never good to teach your child this early to fight back. parents can deal with this siguro with the teacher and the parents of the other child. and luthienne is right...public reprimands usually just boomerang.

[yokam]

IMO, most of the time it would depend as to how the child is being brought up and as to what kind of environment is he/she exposed to. This would all boil down to the parents themselves. At that point in time, they should keep a close eye most of the time to their children. For children, a wrong is a right not unless he/she's reprimanded.

[crinkle]

you're right peeps. to fight back is not always the #1 solution or even never. especially when they're too young to actually understand the circumstances and should-be reasons for such actions. violence is violence, no doubt about that.

i had a different experience as a child. i grew up being bullied, and feeling aloof all the time. there used to be this kid who loved to shove me around each wretched day of my 3rd grade life. i used to be frail, petite and fragile so it was easy for her to do that. everyone knew and i think her parents were aware of how she was behaving but i guess nothing seemed to work that time. one day, i decided that i've had enough and just won't let her do that to me again. of course i didn't do anything brutal. there was a little pushing is all i remember now but one thing's for sure; that incident put a stop to her bullying on me and my friends. i felt that i made her feel that she can't just do that to other kids.

oh well, perhaps we all just have different approaches when it comes to these kinds of things.

[splendid moonlight]

Good for you, crinks. =) There was this girl who bullied me pud pag elementary, and she was very physical. Once (ang pinaka grabe) I almost fell off a jeepney because of her. Nangapyot man kaha mi with some of my classmates (ambut unsay nasulod sa utok), unya she tried to shove me repeatedly, pushing her whole weight on me while the jeep was in motion. I remember hanging on tightly for dear life. When it was all over I was so happy I was still alive I forgot to be angry.

Anyway, sa una pa listahon man ko sa maestro kung kinsay mga tabi-an, I would stare at her direction and I could see her trying to behave herself (which was hard for her then). I guess mao toy akong panagang.

[LytSlpr]

if akong anak ang i-bully, which is most unlikely i'll teach him to walk awy if it is only verbal. if it is physical i'll call the attention of the school and teach my kid to fight back for himself. i will never allow my kid to be bullied because that will leave a stigma to the child and he will have suppressed emotions. mahimo unyang freak imong anak, mahimong bayot or very introvert or a sociopath. bullying can even create terrorists especially if the child is intelligent.

if my kid is a bully, i'll teach him to let other kids be.

bullies are products of dysfunctional homes and relationships.