ex boyfriend who is still my friend

[writers_gon_write]

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I'm up late tonight and got myself lost in this part of the forums... so I thought of asking something...

my ex and I broke up in 2009... it wasn't a pretty break up. we were only together for 3 months. he was my first boyfriend. that day, that was the first time we fought and it got really ugly. actually, kung buot huna-hunaon, it just ended with a fight and a walk out scene. nobody said it's over or we're through. nobody even said I hate you.

but anyway... we became friends again after a year and two months and we're like our normal friendly selves again. no more hate. ikapila na siya nagka gf after me. ako wa pa jud. I think after that relationship, murag it's difficult to love again - however cheesy that sounds. I tried to open to others but I easily shut myself out.

pero kami sa akong ex, friends pa kaayo mi. we did go out more than a few times. i convinced myself and other people that I'm completely over him. pero usahay maka-question ko ana. wa naman nuon koy na-feel nga any romantic feelings towards him. pero I still care for him. to be honest, maalagaon jud ko nga pagka amiga. So to say that I still care for him is normal.

pero ngano man? he still makes me smile. he's still the person I run to when I got problems. he still makes me cry.

I can never imagine getting back with him or being married to him. I'm just thankful he's still there.

correct me if I'm wrong: maybe I just feel this way because I have no one after him yet. maybe all there would go away if I already have a new boyfriend.

[MollyMillions]

I'm up late tonight and got myself lost in this part of the forums... so I thought of asking something...

correct me if I'm wrong: maybe I just feel this way because I have no one after him yet. maybe all there would go away if I already have a new boyfriend.

Maybe you're right ! =)

That's a possibility. Have you dated and gone out with other men after the "break up"?

[writers_gon_write]

p.s.

we're going on a trip on March with two other friends who are couples. so it's like one couple and one ex couple ang combination. when we planned that trip, wala pa xay gf ato.

but around August this year, he have a girlfriend already. I asked him if if wants to invite her, he said no. and the last time I asked him... around two weeks ago... I asked him if his girlfriend knows about the trip, he said no. it makes me feel uncomfortable na nuon. murag di na ko ganahan mukuyog...

[MollyMillions]

I like this!

Abangan Ang Susunod na kabanata... =)

[quirkychinita]

it's because you're single TS and you envy the fact that he's always taken and you're not and you're still fond of him kay he's your first one. Once you break up with someone, never come back. daghan masakitan TS.

In my end, my first exbf I barely remember. my 3rd exbf however, friends kaayo mi pero basta gani ang topic is about our past na nya i-open up niya, DUKOL iya makuha nako. isa ka dakung friendly dukol na makahubag ug buko2. I don't know why but I don't feel any love for an exbf bisag unsaon. but I do understand where you are coming from

[writers_gon_write]

no. two reasons:

1. I'm too busy with work to go out and meet new people (because people in the work place doesn't interest me).

2. maybe nobody is just interested in me.

Maybe you're right ! =)

That's a possibility. Have you dated and gone out with other men after the "break up"?

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thanks @quirkychinita!

sometimes I'm even thankful nga wa mi nagkadayon although sayangan ko kay wa mi nagdugay. wa man lang gani mi naka-spend time together. murag after the break up, namawi man ang buing!

[MollyMillions]

Then it could very well be some of the reasons why there wasn't anyone after him =).

no. two reasons:

1. I'm too busy with work to go out and meet new people (because people in the work place doesn't interest me).

2. maybe nobody is just interested in me.

[writers_gon_write]

@MollyMillions haha atangi inig March... )

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haha! maguol ko if ang #2 . not to praise myself, but I'm not much of a bad egg. bugayon lang jud ko from the outside... haha

but #1 is more likely it. and maybe I'm picky...?

ambot jud nako ay...

Maybe you're right ! =)

That's a possibility. Have you dated and gone out with other men after the "break up"?

Then it could very well be some of the reasons why there wasn't anyone after him =).

[MollyMillions]

@MollyMillions haha atangi inig March... )

Will do =) Noted. Update pud mem ha.

I would think going out with a group of friends is fine. I would look at it as a group of friends wanting to have fun traveling.
I agree, it would be very tricky though on the ex's part not telling his gf about it. Ideally, you shouldn't worry as you don't owe anyone any explanation, kiwaw lang sad nuon.

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@MollyMillions haha atangi inig March... )

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haha! maguol ko if ang #2 . not to praise myself, but I'm not much of a bad egg. bugayon lang jud ko from the outside... haha

but #1 is more likely it. and maybe I'm picky...?

ambot jud nako ay...

I would not bother figuring it out sad if I were you. There is no assurance which of the two is the case. =)

Chiiiiiiillllll... =) If you're fine as your self, then there's no problem with no. 2. If you aren't fine with no. 2 , then you could do something about it. =)

[vahnhelsing]

maayong gabie sa tigpasiugda ning kutay..

pagkabugnaw sa huyohoy sa hangin samtang nagbasa ko ning imong gidalit.
boot ko tugkaron ang tanan apan daw may mga lamas pa nga wala masaysay dri.

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kadasig, makapatulo sa luha, ug siya ang imong hangopan sa panahon sa may gikagul-an
o may kalisdanan nga gisanati. Usa ra ang akong napanglantawan niini, may pagbati pa ikaw
ngadto kaniya. Mahimong dili na sama kaniadto apan nagpabilin siyang mahinungdanong
tipik diha kanimo. Usahay mgay mga butang nga daw dili nato sinati, dili nato masabtan
apan ang atong mga lihok magahatag niini ug katin-awan. Tingali usab tungod kay ang inyong
pagminahalay kaniadto sa kalit lang nawalay klaro. Nahanaw sama sa usa ka bula nga wala
mahatagi ug katin-awan ang tanan.