makigbuwag or dili?? advices are highly appreciated....

[sugarcakes_babe]

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Thank you for all your support istoryans!

[Echelnalf]

dugay2 napud mi galive.in, wa pajud mi makasal, 3yrs old nlng among anak wa pajud, next year napud kuno, hahay, im a girl d i by the way, im planning to break up with him, sakto kaha ni akong buhaton? as in dli jud niya priority ang kasal, kay pang karaan ra daw na, karon dili na kuno uso ang kasal importante, way gabinuang nya love ninyo ang usag.usa, nya unsaon paglove nga dli gani ko secure sa akong status, sa among status... hapit najud ko mugive.up, you know diba we girls are so sensitive and big deal kaayo nang wala paka makasal, esp. naa nay anak, nya gipuyo2 raka.... haaaay..... galibog nako unsa akong buhaton.... and gusto ko naa koy buhaton...



your advices are highly appreciated....

Okay maayo kay na balhin na nimo ang thread.

Unsa man sad mga rason niya ngano pirmi man ma postponed?

[yvonne6]

ts, sorry to pop your cherry but kasal is not an assurance of anything. i was married and had 3 kids from the same guy but that didnt stop him from what he did, broke my and the kids' heart. nangita lang gihapon ug lain ug nangabit. did that piece of paper stop him from philandering? NO! gusto kag assurance, you assure yourself nga kung unsay matabo, makaya nimo, makaya nimo buhion ang imong anak. kadaghan minyo dinha nga gamahay lang after, just like me. mahal ang magpa annul ug dugay pa jud. 3 years is too early. i had an 8 year relationship, still ended to nothing. i empathize with you being a woman, its our dream to get married but in reality, it does not give you anything but one, gives you the right to sue your husband for bigamy

[sugarcakes_babe]

ui, hi @Echelnalf... pinaka.unsa reason niya back in 2011 when our daughter is still one year old, wa pay kwarta, kay gusto lagi niya daw bongga among kasal, i told him, the heck ok raman bongga pero sa among sitwasyon and sa akong nafeel pud sa a mong status i think dili na xa practical, but then i kept mum and told him ok... lain sad kayg mamugos ko, then came his 13th month on nov2011, nagpaminaw rajud ko niya, gasto dri, gasto didto, till ni.open.up napud ko, d ka magbilin para sa kasal? gusto man kaha kag bongga ana xa gamay ra kayng 13th month pay para magbilin pa... then came 2012, naabot napud iyang tax return pay, dako2 jud bya kay call center man xa trabaho, well-established pajud nga call center, till gitagaan nako siyag ultimatum, if dli pa gani this year, i'll call this quits... then he agreed to have it on our daughter's b.day, bale double celebrxn, b.day and civil weeding... sus kay two months before the said date, wa gyud siyay preprxn gibuhat ni ha ni ho sa coming event walay nigawas sa iyang baba, till my brother called and beg to postpone our coming wedding (since i told it already to my mother, perhaps my mother told my older brother) kay lagi sila sa magpakasal sa iyang new found gf, so i gave in.... next yr nlng daw mi kay masukob... haaaay, then came 2013.... we planned again to have it this may or june, and we started canvassing for ring, he wanted to surrender upon seeing the prices of the ring, i told him, pwede raman walay ring gud.... then wa xa kaagwanta, niana napud siya, dli sa lagi ta magdali2, kay bati kaau atong kasal, gamay rag budget.... haaaaayyy.... i could see his coward soul whenever he utter those words jud... then came late march, my mother opened up to me that my father and are planning to have rush civil wedding pud, kay dli papud sila wedded, since kasado akong mama, though dli xa legally nulled pero 40yrs na sila walay commu sa iyang first husband... then i gave in again... haaayyyy, then i told my partner, postpone nasad kay silang mama sa una.... but then came june and my mother unexpectedly died froma heart attack,,, samot dli mi pwede kasal kay sukob.... pero i told him, evercince that walay sukob2 sa civil, since it just composed of a lawyer and papers, sukobs are those held on churches, and the stuffs that could make sukob happen are the rope,candles, everything used in church weddings....then he told me, ayaw lang sa lagi.... tskkk.... im so insecure with my status.... am i just too negative and paranoid pls help me enlighten, i got no one to open this up, i feel like this is too sensitive, and as to my father, he also doesnt mind whether we are wedded or not.... too depressive...

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[m_a_r_k_u_z]

wala nay plano imong ka live-in nga pakaslan ka....or basin gi postpone kay magtigom pa cya....unsa may reason niya? naa pud raba uban nga willing ka pakaslan, pero sa ngadto2x mogawas na ang kolor.....dapat cgurado ka sa imong ikauban sa tibook nimong kinabuhi, para walay mahay inig human bah.....lisod na baya karung panahuna, dghan kaayung lami sa katilingban.....

[sugarcakes_babe]

ts, sorry to pop your cherry but kasal is not an assurance of anything. i was married and had 3 kids from the same guy but that didnt stop him from what he did, broke my and the kids' heart. nangita lang gihapon ug lain ug nangabit. did that piece of paper stop him from philandering? NO! gusto kag assurance, you assure yourself nga kung unsay matabo, makaya nimo, makaya nimo buhion ang imong anak. kadaghan minyo dinha nga gamahay lang after, just like me. mahal ang magpa annul ug dugay pa jud. 3 years is too early. i had an 8 year relationship, still ended to nothing. i empathize with you being a woman, its our dream to get married but in reality, it does not give you anything but one, gives you the right to sue your husband for bigamy

foreigner na u partner dha sa prim pic?? i am desperately thinking of hunting one...heheh

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wala nay plano imong ka live-in nga pakaslan ka....or basin gi postpone kay magtigom pa cya....unsa may reason niya? naa pud raba uban nga willing ka pakaslan, pero sa ngadto2x mogawas na ang kolor.....dapat cgurado ka sa imong ikauban sa tibook nimong kinabuhi, para walay mahay inig human bah.....lisod na baya karung panahuna, dghan kaayung lami sa katilingban.....

haha nagpada pud dayon kos lami sa katilingban, i was too young then... thanks a lot sa advice...

[m_a_r_k_u_z]

basin bayot na imong partner TS.....

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OT: basin usa pud kas lami sa katilingban TS....aw...

[sugarcakes_babe]

@yvonne: sakto jud ka yvonne, as for now, what i could think best is kaya ba nako buhion akong anak whatever happens..... bahala nlng cguro, malas lang jud cguro ko kay he couldnt even commit himself on tying the knot with me... tsk, im actually a master's degree holder on a said course, and registerd one... so addxnl shame xa sa among clan... that i think im becoming depressed too due to this sitution i have....

[letsee!]

You are in a difficult situation.First, dapt wala unta ka musogot mag-live in gusto mn diay ka ug kasal....you see ikaw medyo conservative pero siya dile...try to talk with him one-on-one regarding what you wanted for your family...if wala gani effect japon niya try to talk with your close relatives or his family about the matter....If wala gani japun effect sa imu partner thats the time you need to stand with your decision. dile pwide sunod-sunoran lng ka pirme,think also about your self & ur child...you are in the right way.
Please dont' leave your kid.
gud luck to you.

[sugarcakes_babe]

basin bayot na imong partner TS.....

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OT: basin usa pud kas lami sa katilingban TS....aw...

lol ana jud , bayot jud! i was thinking the same, sauna pa, paita, pero dli man gud, cguro dri nga aspect nga pag.commit kay bayot siya.... hahaah ahaka sad anang lami sa katilingban ba.. mao na g.ingon cge pa! haha too bad...