Are You Attracted to Someone More Similar or Different From Yourself?

[Innosaint]

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In this question I am referring to personality and character rather than physical appearance.

I know that probably in most cases people are attracted to those who are similar enough to themselves to make communication and mutual understanding possible, but different enough to make the relationship interesting.

In some cases opposites attract. But I wonder how often that really occurs, and whether it really works out when it does occur.

And then there are cases in which a person becomes attracted to someone who is very similar to him/herself. Most people would probably say that this will become boring and stifling because it would be like being in a relationship with yourself. But on the other hand, two people who are on a very similar wavelength could result in a deeper connection.

So which is the case for you? Do you tend to be more attracted to someone very similar to yourself, very different, or somewhere in between? What has been the case in your past/present relationships?

I'm also wondering what people think of the concept of soulmates. Putting aside the issue of whether or not you think such a thing exists in reality -- what, to you, constitutes "soulmate"? How would you define it? Do you think that two people have to be very similar to each other in order to be soulmates?

[ianina]

i dont know with other couples, but in my case...i have a boyfriend who is a lot different than me. hmmmm wa pd ko mag expect na magkasinabot mi hehe.

basta, all i can say is that we don't have a lot of similarities, but are differences complement each other.

[Zahara]

So which is the case for you? Do you tend to be more attracted to someone very similar to yourself, very different, or somewhere in between? What has been the case in your past/present relationships?

I'm also wondering what people think of the concept of soulmates. Putting aside the issue of whether or not you think such a thing exists in reality -- what, to you, constitutes "soulmate"? How would you define it? Do you think that two people have to be very similar to each other in order to be soulmates?

For me, there's no trend in falling in love. Sometimes, you fall for someone like you and other times, completely your opposite. In my limited experience, i've fallen in love with both.

I believe in soulmates (soulmates can be of the same *** 'coz there are three types of soulmates. Theoretically, we meet up AGAIN with people who we had unfinished business in the next lifetime [if you belive in reincarnation]) Romantic soulmates are called twin flames.

[MALDITA_YLLYZA]

My boyfriend and I are very similar. We have loads in common, sometimes it's even scary. But I love it, I've never felt more connected to someone as I do him. I can't imagine being with someone that I didn't have a decent amount in common with.

Not that we're always alike. We do differ on things. Like how we handle situations. If there's a problem, I'm the type where I want to talk it out, fight it out, whatever to get it resolved one way or another or I can't feel right whereas he's much more laid back and would rather take the "sleep on it, you'll feel better in the morning" approach. And yeah we've clashed sometimes because of it. There are also some interests we just don't have in common. Like he's very into games and gaming and while I like it to an extent, I'm just not a gamer and not that into it. And I'm an avid reader, and would prefer a good book over most other mediums and he hardly ever reads unless he has to.

I would say I'm probably more mature than him as well (despite him being almost 9 years older than myself) and it's pretty noticable, but actually that's one of the differences that I like that we have. I like that he's more childish than me, it keeps me more grounded and he helps me relax when I'm taking myself too seriously and can't realize it myself.

I don't think I could ever be with a complete opposite. Not that I'm saying it doesn't work, as I'm sure it does for some people but I need common ground otherwise I just feel awkward and lost with someone.

[Dark_Hero]

We are similar in our values. What we believe in, what's good and bad...we're definitely on the same page.

In all other aspects we're pretty different, but we compliment each other, and we teach each other about our own quirks and interests. It's a continual learning process. No complaints here :mrgreen:

[browser]

we're different..

he's frugal, i'm not
he's pessimistic, i'm optimistic
he's a homebuddy, i love going out

but we both compromise and respect each other... *click*

[silent-kill]

depends. id rather go with similar in interest.. with different attitude

[sparrow]

hmmmm much better if you're similar...... like the saying goes "birds of the same feather, stick together" :mrgreen:

maybe not all simililarities but almost........

[shaxyra]

most of the time.. different sa ako batasan.. hehe

[grlnxtdor16]

wer very much different from each other. but i think ok ra jud kay we complement each other ba... example, super kaau ko ka tabian.xa kay hilumon...nya kung times na gae mag away mag yaw2 man jud ko.mu hilom ra xa. so that's the beauty of it kay dili mag clash ang among personality ba....

"opposites attact" but not true for all gyud.