Where is he? ... we didnt even have a proper closure..... :(

[chik_08]

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I want to share my "5 and 6 months relationship". I met this special person 2006, i was like a princess for our first 2 years and he made my first 2 years magical. I moved out from our house because my mom and i had an argument. We were both college students during that time, he is a graduating student and im in my 2nd year. When I moved out, he pawned every little thing he had, cellphones, ipod, watch and even his shoes so he could find me a place to stay. When he did, we lived together happily, he stop going to school and instead he work to support my needs and even my tuition fee. But then I saw how tired he is working, I decided to stop going to school and help him. At first, he approved, but that made our relationship rocky. He accused me of having an affair in the office when infact I am with him all the time, he picks me up everyday in the office. His insecurities came out of the blue, DONT's were set, LIMITATIONS and RULES made. Since I love him, I listened and followed him, I gave up MAKE-UP, I gave up FASHIONABLE clothes, I gave up HANGING OUT W/ MY GIRLFRIENDS. My routine was work and home.

Then it came to a point that he physically hits me in accusing me of things I didn't do. Talking and texting to my co-workers who are guys are not allowed, no guys name in my phonebook, I should gave him my friendster,multiply,facebook logins, even my personal email account. He decided to bring me in his house and we live with his parents for 3 months. We talked about it and he said he doesnt want me to work, I explained to him how good both of us have income. He proposed and I didnt answer since i was so confuse. Then he resigned, and surprisingly applied in the same company I am in. He got the job, but still he accuses me many things because I cant answer his proposal, to a point that he physically hits me again. So I decided to tell my family and go back to them. We sued him and imprisoned him, but since they do have money he bailed out. We decided again to be together and dismissed my first VAWC case. But then the same thing happened, he hits me again. He was in and out of jail 3 times, I told him to stop stalking me and following me but he won't. So I decided to take an emergency leave and went to CDO to relieve myself from a stressful relationship. But then he bothers calling me, emailing me etc..

After a month in CDO, I came back to work and was surprised he finds out. Since I had no one in cebu, my mom moved in cdo for a job call and my dad abroad and me being the only child. I had no permanent address and its too risky for me. I have an ongoing case for him now, VAWC & SERIOUS ILLEGAL DETENTION since he grabbed me in the office last April, locked me up in his tita's guest house and beat me with a wooden stick, kicked me, punched me and smashed a bottle in my head due to his anger of not answering his proposal and going to CDO w/out his knowledge. Luckily I survived, by taming him and promising him that I will agree and we go to CAPITOL for civil wedding. He informed his family about my decision, when we arrive in capitol, we spoke to my fiscal since they want me to sign a desistance of the first 2 cases against him and unfortunately it was already dismissed so no need of my signature. I then cried and told the judge and the fiscal the truth, showed them my bruises leads me to my ongoing case against him. Since I have an ongoing case, my company allowed me again for a month leave. I went back to CDO and now I am back in cebu. We had this secret communication when I was in CDO and promised he learned his lessons. I gave my trust back to him and decided to go back in cebu last May 17, he picked me up in pier 5, since I had no place to stay yet. He checked me in a pension house and we had our 1 week romance, it made me happy. He promise to find me a place to stay but he didnt showed up for 2 days after that week so I decided to stay in a Ladies Dorm for my safety. He called me and asked where is my place now, at first I didnt spiel it cause I was angry that he didnt help me find a place. He reasoned out that he had to make sidelines to earn money since he has no permanent job.

I forgave him and trusted him back so I told him where my place was. When he knew that its a Ladies Dorm, he ask would it be okay to find a place where he can go inside anytime he wants and where he can sleep with me. I agreed and he said, okay we will find a place for bboth of us. But everything changes, he doesn't call me 3x a day, which he always does. He only calls me once a day and sometimes drops me in the office, instead of everyday. I asked him why, he said that this is what I've asked for eversince, not to tight and he is just showing it to me so that I would believe that he's change. And he is also FINDING MONEY cause he is shy to let me spend, everytime we go out. He's AWOL for 2 days and he won't tell me where he is staying bec he's afraid that I will lead the police when his warrant of arrest comes out. I respect that,the last time we met was last june 4, when he gave me a chocolate without any reason at all, and said this is my only savings. And june 5 I decided to be absent at work because I want to spend time with him but he wont agree and insisted that I should go to work because he do not want to be blamed and he do not want to be the reason. June 6, he called and he said "HI BHE, HOW R U? TAKECARE OF YOURSELF ALWAYS ha and REMEMBER THAT I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT". I responded, huh? nganu ka? then he ended the call not answering my question. When I called him again he wont answer and when I txt him he wont reply. From JUNE 7 up until now JUNE 13, I cant contact him anymore, SUBSCRIBER CANNOT BE REACHED and on his other number INCOMING CALLS TO THIS NUMBER IS NOT PERMITTED, his last recent FB activity was last June 7. I cried everyday and do not know what to do... it's very unusual of him to go AWOL, now that he got me back. I am going crazy, thinking of where he is now and what he is doing now and what's the reason behind all these...

I chatted and txted his friends, his close friend w/c was his co worker b4 sed that the last conversation they've had was last JUNE 4, about referring him to work and he decline the offer cause he said he decided to go to dubai with his dad and brother and work there, his friend said il try to contact him or check his activity in fb, and i said I did that already, he said he is online YESTERDAY at 1:48am. Up until now I am waiting for him to call me or even show himself in my door. Did he already gave up on us?? is he already tired?? did he met someone else?? did his dad send him out of the country?? where is he? huhuhuhuhuhuh......we even didn't have a proper closure and im missing him so bad.........IM GOING CRAZY......my eyes, mind,soul, heart is too tired.......

[iwantmyboyfriend]

Girl, sa imong story. murag na praning naka anang lakiha. wherever he is, it is good that he is away from you.
Some things are better left undone and unsaid. To think naabot naka sa point na kiha2x nya nagkig balik pa giud ka niya? Asa man imong baruganan ana? I know it's hard. And it's going to get even harder before everything will get better.
But I salute you.. I just hope you will understand that it's time for you to move on. And closure really doesn't mean anything to anyone. You can surely live with it. TC lang. balik ug work, stalker-free naka!

[chik_08]

im still working man ghapon mam...ako xa gikiha for him to learn a lesson and change.. pero nag wonder lng ko nganu wa nya ggaan ug proper closure.... d jud nako ma deny nga love nako xa sa amung 5years.. halos tanan naagian na namo... wala lng ko naanad cguro nga alone ko... its been 7 days na nga wala jud xa ni bother pakita or communicate... im trying to move on jud mam, but d jud malikayan ang emptiness and longing nako for him kng kanus.a mi tarung mwala xa... he is silently torturing me... and i hope someday il get the reason why and will learn to accept it... naglisud pajud ko....

[ayki]

omg.
he's not good for you & maybe now, he realized it too.. siya nalang cguro ang ni leave kay ikaw if mo leave ka, mobalik raman ka dayon even though you've been physically and emotionally abused.
nalooy nalang cguro to nimo TS.

[Crimson_Viper]

private istoryan: "commander viper, we have a problem, there's a big wall of bricks blocking our way.."

me: "fire in the whole.!"

[aldrin89]

ganahan unta ko mo basa sa story pero sakit man sa mata imong font color oi.

[*sludge*]

basin na priso to siya miga?

laina sad anang bunalan ug botelya sa ulo oi...

[kenniku_you]

siya nlng cguro ang ni palayu, para sa kaauhan ninyong duha..

[azaleayve]

pwede favor? magsakit ako eyes og read, change the font color please?...medyo daut ning mata nako...thanks

[gian_101]

pwede favor? magsakit ako eyes og read, change the font color please?...medyo daut ning mata nako...thanks

copy and paste to your word processor and change fonts as desired. btaw mam, sakit sa mata.hehe