handling a girl who keeps hiding her problem.

[SymphonyEtude]

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What if there is this girl. You like her and close mo but she doesn't spit out her problems.
You are always on her side. You stick with her all the time. You are always on her side at her worst. Your shoulders are open when she cries because of her problems but she will never tell you her problem.


Musulti sya sa mga minor problems but she will never tell you her very big problems. She will tell you about what it is but she won't fully explain it in detail. Mu ingon ra sya "I will end this conversation here in period because I don't wanna talk about it" . Am I doing it right of letting her solve her problem?

I'm worried because she might break. Well actually she is always breaking if she will remember her heavy problems and she doesn't wanna talk about it! She ended up crying in my shoulders and I left there sticking around her and nothing to do. I always compliment her to cheer up. But I have a feeling that my advices are not working at all anymore.

Mu ingon sya "dili man mo kasabot gud, dali ra ninyo ma conceptualize pero dili nimo masabtan kung unsa ka lisud" . HOW THE HELL am I suppose to understand if dili sya musulti kung unsa iya problema?!


Usahay bitaw kay makahimo sya ug doppleganger nga problem! Kanang sulti.an ka nya ug problema pero dili na mao jud na problema iya gihilakan! Naa pay mas labaw pa jud nga problema pero dili sya mu sulti!

Happened last week! She was drunk and depressed as hell cause of her problem. She was with her friends adto sa song hits. I trust her friends kay kaila nako nila. She called me nga okay ra daw sya! But I'm freaking worried so ako sya gi adto.an sa Songhits. In fact, why the hell is she calling me late at night on the first place?!

ako : okay ra jud ka ?!
ex : okay ra ko oi, lipong nako. ikaw nlng tapal sa ako shot beh, sundu.i nlng ko diri. Ay ayaw nlng kay layo ka!
ako : mu anha ko.
ex : ayaw lagi! okay rako! ngano man ka?! ( random words sentences etc.)


She was cursing me nga "P*ste ka y*awa ka ayaw lagi ko sundu.i! Okay ra lagi ko! ngano man ka?!"
Nag sulti ra sya ug random sentences and calling me late at night. I can tell that she is hell drunk and has a big problem again. So ni adto jud ko.

She was there wasted. I escorted her home. She was crying again on my shoulder tungod sa iyang problem but in fact that was only her minor problem! The real problem is covered up until she spit it out pagka ugma! Sulti.an ra ka nya about unsa pero dili na sya musulti sa problema nya in detail daun! Murag sulti.an raka sa title sa salida nga "titanic" dayun hantod dira raka makahibaw sa iya bug.at na problema! kanang dili ka sulti.an sa rest sa story sa movie ba

By the next day, she said that she was fine. She'll ignore that problem. NO! SHE IS NOT OKAY!

Unsay buhaton nako ani nga sitwasyon?
Should I just watch and let her be?

another problem I'm facing with my ex

she looks strong cause of her maldita personality but some parts of her are weak.

[vahnhelsing]

maayong buntag kanimo higala. Matampo ako ug gamay nga panahom ning imong sugilanon.
May mga binuhat nga boot lamang nila iluom ang tanan nga kasakit nila ug alang nila mas maayo pa nga ibakho
nalang ang tanan nga kalisdanan labi na ug mga dili na nila madala.
Itambag kaniya nga anaa ka nagpakabana busa makiangayon nga iyahang ipahungaw ang tanan niyang
gibati diha kanimo. Nga maguol pod ikaw sa higayon nga nagsakit siya.
TS ayaw kalain ha, pero sa akong panahom nanghinubra ra imong pagpakabana kaniya.

[SymphonyEtude]

^
I can't help it. She is not healthy. Physically.
Thats why I can't help it to ignore this situation of her.
Her doctor warned her not to cry cause it will worsen her weak physical condition.
Thats why I'm freaking worried as hell.

[shifter88]

TS wait lang till mo brake sya sa iyang own shell to spread it out...
maybe its her own way of solving her probs d siya ganahan naay lain tao ma hasul sa iyang problema
lain-lain man gd ug personality ang mga tao, f ing.ana gd xa ang imu rgd ma buhat ky
be on her side always show her that u care and u are willing to help her on her problems when ready na siya mo share nmu ..

patience is a virtue

[vahnhelsing]

Tingali boot na niya taposon ang tanan inanay.
Kaniadto ts, may usa ka binuhat nga nahimong bilinhon kanako.Sa matag karon ug unya
nga siya nagbakho, mahiamgohan nalang nako nga sama niya nagmagul-anon ako.
Apan kining kalag wala nihatag ug kahigayonan nga ang kasakit magpabilin sa akong dughan,
May nga hugna nga ako siyang agdahon ug panimba inig human akong kuyogon didto sa Tops.
Anindot ang talan-awon didto ug dayag ang kamadanihon sa palibot. Niining pamaagi nakita nako
iyahang panagway ang kausaban daw wala na niya panumbalinga ang kasakit nga iyahang gipas-an.
Ako siyang sukna-on inanay kabahin sa butang nga iyahang giloom. May higayon ga dili niya kini boot
ipahungaw apan ako kining gisabot. Ako nalang gipaambit kaniya nga kining kinabuhi ta mabulokon,
luyo sa tanang kasakit may kalipay. Luyo sa tanang luha moabot ang pahiyom. May paglaom pa ug sa
matag tamak niya anaa ako.

ts, may sakit ang imohang higala?

[josmar02]

naa sad ko ana nga gf sa una, kana dili mo sulti sa iya problems. what i did was wait for her to spill it. she will eventually break. i tried to ask her what it is as subtly as possible para mo gawas gyud ba, but to no avail. for the time being keep her close, sometimes dili na sila predictable and do something stupid or worse fatal.

[SymphonyEtude]

Its been a while na nakadungog ko ug lalom nga bisaya hehe.
lisud sabtan. Ako lang sabtan hehehehe.

Apparently, I don't have a car to bring her sa TOPS. Iyang time and schedule is very tight. She can hardly give herself free time. Basically we don't hang out each other all the time considering our busy time slots. Panalagsa ra jud mi gakita so hantod text o tawag ra jud amo padunggan. Although she invite me sometimes to some of her events and dira nako mahibawan nga dako na sya ug free time. I won't lose that chance anyway. It seems that a life of a student Filmmaker myself contradicting to an OT course does make your routes very complicated haha.

Iyang sakit? Its hard to explain but its a form nga sakit nga mu shutdown sya everyday if dili sya mutumar sa iya daily nga tambal.
Shutdown (literally) or Faint, makuyapan.

That is the reason why I'm worried of her when she cries. Pressured by her family, her sister's ace grades and any other else makes her fall apart and break. I'm just here sticking around with her and cheering her up. I don't know if this helps or not.

[jairoh_]

be patience TS. SHUT UP nlng and let ur arms be with her when she cries. ayaw pagpaka.hero, pagpaka.panyo lng! ayaw pangutan. kung unsai iya problema, bahalag wa ka kbw basta be there lng para niya, madugay mu.open rana nimo.

[brian joshua]

keep on makin love all day all night....

[azaleayve]

naay tao nga secretive ra jud kaau...but be thankful ikaw ang iya pirmi duolan when she needs someone to lean on...that means you can be trusted jud.... pero it takes time for her to talk..hinay-hinay ts, ayaw iabrupt ..dapat imo siya paminawon, then let her decide on her own... tell her na if she'll let that feelings and/or problems overpower her, mapareha siya sa usa ka dam nga kung mapuno, muawas and madestroy og makadestroy not only herslef but ang mga tao nagpalibot niya...

dont give her advises, give her options then let her weigh it. usually sa aku friends, aku sila pahuna-hunaon og positive and negative outputs each option, then there magdecide na sila..difficult, pero you are helping her to solve her own problem... as the saying goes, "give a man a fish and you can feed him for a day, teach the man how to fish and you'll feed him his entire life"