Do you think I'm a bad Mother for my kids?

[PURPZ LOCKHEART]

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I'd like to get your opinion on this. No worries I won't get offended to your views if it goes contrary to mine. I got a rich, irresponsible and mama's boy ex-husband. I am an average-earner career woman with 2 kids now 13 and 9 years old. Honestly I can't support the kids financially with a luxurious life. So the kids stayed with their dad and are now raised by his rich parents. I and the kids have existing good communications and close relationship despite the fact that we are apart.

Some of my friends and most of my relatives condemn me of being a bad mother. They call me selfish, irresponsible, carefree and a total craze. Sakit kaau ang ilang accusations but sometimes I almost believe them. But in my heart, mind and soul - I know I did the right thing. I'm only looking after my kids welfare. How about you, do you condemn me?

[lovehate220]

ok ra man na sis. dont mind them kung unsa ila gipanulti nimo, basta in ur heart kabalo ka na sakto imo gibuhat.

[butong101]

i don't think your a bad mother.. but could you elaborate more why have you thought of yourself (your relatives) as being bad?

[PURPZ LOCKHEART]

yeah you're right...

ok ra man na sis. dont mind them kung unsa ila gipanulti nimo, basta in ur heart kabalo ka na sakto imo gibuhat.

[PURPZ LOCKHEART]

because i let myself be away from kids. somehow it's bad in some ways coz i can't physically take care of them - kids.

i don't think your a bad mother.. but could you elaborate more why have you thought of yourself (your relatives) as being bad?

[164meatshop]

kung mag support lang diay ang father sa kid while ang mga kids naa nimo? why cant you do that?

[PURPZ LOCKHEART]

he wouldn't support them if the kids are with me. he's a real bullZh!+. it even reached to the point that their lawyer talked to me and asked me to have my kids adopted by him. i was fuming mad and countered the lawyer saying never will i give up my right as a mom for as long as i live. aww geez!

kung mag support lang diay ang father sa kid while ang mga kids naa nimo? why cant you do that?

[farmboy]

I am never going to condemn nor judge anyone. But this is what i sincerely feel:

Mothers should never leave their children NO MATTER what. Mothers have a special role, much more than fathers. NO amount of money and wealth can ever replace a mother's care, love, and presence.

[butong101]

because i let myself be away from kids. somehow it's bad in some ways coz i can't physically take care of them - kids.

your kids could only blame you for your physical absence, rant till they want for you have not been there for them during their down moments..

yet, they could be grateful to you for not depriving them to have a good life, there cant be as worst as having a financially challenged life..

the absence of a mother can be filled upon, yet the absence of a good food is not

[PURPZ LOCKHEART]

i understand your stand about it. but let me ask you this? must i choose to be with my kids in hunger and let them die with me? i have an option a painful one though that's giving them up and away from me in favor of their good life instead. there is nothing more painful than what any moms would feel being away from their children. but sometimes bad decisions can also be good if intentions are for the wellbeing of your children.

I am never going to condemn nor judge anyone. But this is what i sincerely feel:

Mothers should never leave their children NO MATTER what the cost.