really can't take it.. badly needs help and advice

[mickaela]

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here is my case..

i'm currently living in my bf's house since we already have a child.. i'm working in the city while my better half is the one taking care of our child while he keeps himself busy with his small business..

and here goes the main issue..

we are also living together with his older brother, his wife and 7 yr old nephew and his father..10 yrs ilang gap sa ako bf and his brother.. i don't really get it and don't have a clue as well why his brother's wife is acting such a snob, as in dili jud mi mag tagad sa house, if dili pa ko mo talk niya or ask a question di sad na siya mo storya..and my bf's bro is okayhan ra man ko pero nay times nga murag magdumot maka dalag tan-aw namo.. i've been living at my bf's house for a year na i guess.. kay last year pag june i went back to my parent's house since after all the issues we had between my bf's brother's family and us, we've decided na ako mo oli lang sa ko sa amo-a cause i need to continue my studies for 1st sem since i'm a graduating student so i'll be busy by then the whole period. while my bf and son will take a long vacation in CDO since his mom is working there.. so ang naa sa house is only his father.. and then NOW it's really troubling me how to deal it or how to act in my bf's house cause dili na man gud ko comfortable jud sa ilaha.. i know my bf already had an idea bout it.. but we can't just move out from the house since we can't fully support ourselves for that indepedency.. one scenario sa morning ha! i need to prepare for work and will have to travel far since i'm working sa city.. i can't eat breakfast na since siya nay mag-luto kay mo skul na sad ila anak unya dili bitaw kapa ngagda man lang og kaon.. kay mura man gud mi mag iya-iya sa balay, no communication between them and bisan small talks.. bsta lage mura ra mig laeng taw nga nag-puyo sa isa ka balay.. i will give you a small idea of what my bf's brother's wife..before dili daw jd ganahan ang mom sa ako uyab sa wife sa iyang bro kay mag cge lang kusmod og murag di jd daw ganahan ang iya mom kay laen kuno kaayo og aura.. then wala na may mahimo kay pregnant na man.. and my bf's father dili sad ganahan kay way respeto, mag sukol2x og storya, dili mapuyo og balay, di kahibaw mo lihok sa balay, kutob ra sa kwarto nila mang limpyo or if naa ang mom sa ako uyab.. even my bf di pod ganahan kay walay manners, the way mo katawa nga murag naa sa merkado, the way mo eat magkinamot og isaka ang ti.il, maglagot gani ako uyab sa ako nephew if mo awat sa iyang mama kay murag taga squatters kuno ang batasan pero take-note arte sad kaayo.. the way sad ko mo tan-aw sa iyaha is gastadora murag materialistic and i thot ako ra kabantay asta diay ang mom sa ako uyab naka-ingon.. when i started living at my bf's house i made an effort to talk to her or ask few questions para ma ease ang mood.. but i don't know bout her kay snobbish na kaayo siya..DMD! naka ana sad ako bf kato during the conflict that "maybe she's acting that way because she grew jealous of you" and it made me think why.. so ako sad siya gi observe.. somehow na poy point ako bf the way man gud siya mo act everytime we are around but i don't want to think it that way cause the more ko ma irita niya.. and so on so forth the story goes like that.. i'm dealing with it everyday i'm at my bfs house everytime they are around...

and so it made me say to myself that i'll strive harder to have my very own house and provide more than enough for my family or else mayabag ko didto sa ilaha....

pls advice me!

[yiennahs]

unsay work sa imo bf?

[irishe]

halah oi TS, pasagdii na siya oi.. total dili bitaw siya ang tag iya sa balay.. well maybe its true na she's really jealous of you.. tan aw guro niya naay something nimu na wala niya.. malouy lang tah.. if you know nga wala kay gitamakan nga taw, halah ayaw jud ka guilty.. pasagdii na iyang behaviour.. plus dili ra baya ikaw ang bug at ug dugo niya, halos tanan family sa imu bf.. so the way i see it, the problem is not with you, but its with her..

never bend your knees that much, ayaw sige palabi ug paubos kay mag anad na siya nimu, mao na sayun sayunon nalang ka..

halah teh, masuya madeadsssss....

[twistedANGEL25]

Antos lang gamay Sis.Until you can support yourselves and maka separate namu ug balay sa imung BF.Or talk to her lang gyud...

[yokam888]

kinsa tagiya sa balay?

kung didto nalang diay mo mag stay sa balay sa imong parents?

[yvonne6]

walay laing solution ani kung dili kamo ang mo move out maski pa ang parents sa imong bf ang tag iya sa balay. paugatay mana ang show ana. and u have to deal with it everyday until naay mo give up. its very stressful, dili ka freely maka move sa balay kay tungod sa laing taw nga wala nimo ganahi ug wala pud ganahi nimo. rent lang sa mo, maski room lang sa. kani problemaha, modaku ni ug ma uli jud ni nga mag away mo ug dili ka magpalayo. its not worth it. dili ka angay mopatul anang ingon ana

[monrose29]

sakto na sis.. work hard sa inyo future para mag lahi mo..

and ako pa nimo para deli ka magutman pag store nalang og food sa inyong room.. delata or kanang ready to eat na.. kay basin ma kuyapan ka on your way to work kay wa kay kaon.... samot ka problema..

[mickaela]

@irishe : nindot imo advice..haha.. maka tawa ko and ur right, as long as wala koy nabuhat daotan sa laeng taw and i dont have to owe them anything.. i know justice will be on my side.. bwahahaha..!

@yokam88 : ma-ikog na ko sa ako parents mo puyo oe kay they are taking care of my brother's child man pod.. didto bitaw mi puyo before pero ako uyab kay siya byay laki then dapat siya nay mo accomodate namu.. kung asa ang laki tu-a man jud na ang baye..

@yvonne6 : sis, it's easy to say but so hard to do.. basin worse pa ako ma experience nga stress kaysa sa balay sa ako uyab if we have to live on our own considering that i just recently graduated and don't have enough to provide bisan ako bf.. we are a young couple.. if u do the math ang gatas, diaper, rent, 3 meals a day, pamasahe, kuryente, tubig, and miscellaneous needs.. paet!

[yokam888]

how about a heart to heart talk... kamo sa imong bf ug iyang brod with his wife?

aron mahibaw-an jud ninyo unsa ang problema ngano naay tension.

kay kung inyong dumoton, basig muboto na kalit, samot kadako ang problema

talk and then mag compromise lang gud. isa ra bitaw mo ka balay.

[rr_sipat]

Di jud na kalikayan sis, praktikal lang ta puyo lang diha, agwantaha lang, kalas mag.abang kay lisud man maglahi kung walay saktong kwarta, start saving today money today, para kung naa naa nay saktong ipon, e down or epalit dayon ug rent to own house. Tigum lang maau...