Unsa-un pag diciplina sa bata nga 10 years old?

[CookieMonster2009]

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I am so concerned with my kid and if you have any comments or suggestions, Please let me know. " Grabe bata-a akong gibunalan musukol gyud"

[Gharid]

ok rna oi.. identify the benefits/privileges na imong gipanghatag niya. example. ayaw hatag largo ug usa ka butang niya if your not getting something in return.
akong pag umangkon sauna pag bata pa mag cge minaldito ug sukol nya dili pasulti kung buyagon. aw since he's fond of playing computer dri sa haus gi tangtang nku ang iyang privileges unless he change his ways. aw sukad adto mag sorry na kung makasaban.
positive reinforcement sad kay ang bata ganahan kaau na cla i admire cla. aw of course you only do it if they do something good. basta you have to recognise the goods things they have done. you'd be surprise na bsan wla ka rewards they just behave good because they feel good when you complement them of such things.

remember... what they will be is what you tell them today. aw ako ako rna na quote ha.. hehe kung cge nimo ingon ang bata na maldito, bayot, boang, liwat sa amahan way ayo un uban pa na negative aw.. give it a max of 3 years makita na nimo ang resulta..
pugong lang sa sapot bsan tempting na kaau remember they don't think the same way as we do. though they lack the understanding of what and how difficult life is. we could always gain wisdom from them.

[ashira]

As parents teach children appropriate behavior, what the expected rules and boundaries are all about, it's important to remember the goals of discipline. Discipline means helping a child develop self control and a sense of limits, experience the consequences of his/her behavior, and learn from his/her mistakes. Discipline does not mean punishment or conflict between parent and child. All children need the security of knowing the rules and boundaries of behavior; without them they feel at a loss.

[ashira]

Parents discipline their children in various ways.Three most common parenting styles: authoritarian/strict, authoritative/moderate and permissive.

An authoritarian, or extremely strict, parent controls a child's behavior and attitude by stressing obedience to authority and discouraging discussion. Extremely strict parents often rely on punishment.

An authoritative, or moderate, parent sets limits and relies on natural and logical consequences for children to learn from making their own mistakes. The parent explains why rules are important and why they must be followed. Authoritative parents reason with their children and consider the children's point of view even though they might not agree with them. They are firm, with kindness, warmth and love. They set high standards and encourage their children to be independent.

A permissive, or indulgent, parent exerts minimal control. Children are allowed to set their own rules and schedules and activities. Permissive parents do not demand the high levels of behavior as authoritarian and authoritative parents.

[CookieMonster2009]

To: Gharid and ashira, Thanks for your advice. I can really learn a lot from you guys!

Ako as a parent, I'm not a strict one and I always set aside my temper but this time napuno nako. Wala lang ko maka realized nga dali ra kaayo ko niya tubagun cause I always let the time passed by. First reason nako nga Calm rako mo discipline nila (by the way I have 2 kids boy and girl) because I came from a broken family and Lola ra ga take care namo, sobra ka maldita mao ng dili ko gusto maka experienced unta akong mga anak sa akong nasuwayan. But I guess Enough is enough..

A permissive, or indulgent, parent exerts minimal control. Children are allowed to set their own rules and schedules and activities. Permissive parents do not demand the high levels of behavior as authoritarian and authoritative parents. ( I belong to this type of category )


I know that creating independence is a lot about letting go of my own fears and having faith in my children. For me it's an important part of growing up, and one I should not deny my children of learning.

I will try my very best to become a better parent for them, so that when they grow up they will become a Better person as well. The best way to change my children is to change myself.

Thanks again! Istoryan's

[tessF]

talk to him na kamo ra duha para dli maulaw ang bata nya sure jud ko minaw na sya nmo

[chengian]

lisod jud ni mag-dicipline og bata oy, wala pa pod ko ka-experience sa imo cokiemonster sa 10yrs old kay 6pa man ako eldest. so far ang ako gibuhat is if I said no it means "no" and yes is yes. last resort nako bunalan pero after ana kung mahilom na ako ra pod lambingon unya explain nako nganu gibuhat to nako pero like what teesF said kana kamo ra kay bisan bata pa naa ra ba gihapon pride.

[johnlawrencefernandezebo]

murag angay na xang bunalan og bakos or iba. . . . pareha nako. . .buotan na kaayo ko run . . . .

[CookieMonster2009]

To: tessF, chengian and johnlawrencefernandezoeb

Thank u for sharing your experiences and thank you sad mga comments and suggestions.
Pero nakatawa ko sa johnlawrencefernandezoeb kay angay bunalan para mabu utan. Ngano diay Dong badlungun ka sauna?

[chengian]

hehehehe, experience pod na nako binunalan pod sa una sa ako amahan though gain gyud ko respect niya pero lahi ra ang closeness og feeling karon na-experience nako sa ako anak.