What do you think about this?

[Pinkish]

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Last week, my husband arrived from his job trip from mindanao. A night before, I was calling him on the fon and found out he had a drinking session with his ofcmates. I was kinda mad bcause i already prohibited him from drinking because I think he made it as a vice already. But we didnt have arguments on it, I just hang up the fon and went to sleep. When he arrived at nxt day, he didnt even informed me he is alrdy in cbu so i called him up and he said that he is on his way home riding in a taxi along with his ofcmates. I was kinda mad again ky dugay cya naabot ky ghatod pa diay nya iya ofcmtes nya cya daw awahi munaog nga pwd ra man unta sya naug una ky maagian ra mn ang amoa. Pg abot nya, wa nlng ko mgtingog ky nahiubos ko nya nasuko pjud cya nko ky kadungog dw iya ofcmtes sa ako tawag nga nasuko ko. Nya wa nlng daw ko consideration ky naa kno xa hang over sa ila inom a night before. Grabe ako pa iya gpakasala. The worst is wla nko mgtingog sa kahiubos, iya man ko gituok hinuon, yelling at me na kinsa ra daw ko, pobre daw au ko ky wla xa makuha nko. He also brag about the house we lived in ky hntag dw iya parents nya ako family wa daw ntabang. To think bfore he married me he already knew na dli mi dato. Di man sad tawn mi pobre uy kay halos kmi tanan nkahuman man eskwela sa reputable schools. Dli lng jd mi preho nla nga well-off jud. At that time, I feel so degraded by the person I offered my life with. I was so hurt that I left home leaving the kids with him. Right now, I am looking for a job coz I am planning to get my kids. But he keep on calling me and telling me nga nglisod dw cya ky way mkabantay mga bata nya cge cya absent sa work. Why did he told me na wa xa makuha nko nya karon nglabad iya ulo ky way mkaatiman sa mga bata? Wa man kaha xay mkuha nko so I decided to leave the children with him tutal naa man xa haus nya naa pd iya konsintidorang inhan. Karon gsto xa reconciliation pro d jud cya accept sa iya sayop. Saun2x ra jd nya panglait nako. What do you think? Please advice me on this...

[eilrach]

paeta sad ana sis oi.. hmmmmm.. lisud kaau ang imo sitwasyon sis kay murag wala niya nakita ang imong pag.atiman sa imong pamilya and mga anak.. Then, gitouk pa jud ka bisan nag.hilom2x raka... dili jud na maau.. pero, basin naka realize na cya sa iyang sayup sis.. ang kalisud lang jud ani, kung hasta ang mama mo laban sa anak bisan sayup ang iyang anak, mo samot jud kalabad imong ulo ana sis... maypa mag.lahi nalang mo, kanang kamo ra jud sa imong hubby ug sa imong mga anak ba..

storyae ninyo pag.maau sa imong husband sis, kay tanang taw masayup man jud na,. tagae lang sa na ug chance.. pero kung mao gani gihapon ang iya buhaton diha nimo, kana, dapat na jud ka mo himo ug move.. pag.pray sad sis na guidan mo sa inyong pag.puyo.. -thanks.

[z3robeLow]

I don't think God would punish you and hold you accountable for leaving a marriage because your spouse thought you were their personal punching bag that they can take all their frustrations out on.

IMO, other than abuse or infidelity there is no valid reason for not trying to do all in your power to overcome all that crap and make the relationship work for the best. You'll just have to make a choice. Good luck.

[epoaxlan]

sis leave your husband na gyud..get a job and kuhaa imong mga kids niya..below 7 years old pa gani cla sa imoha na ang mga bata padong..anyways he was asking for annullment man maypa imo nallng na ihatag niya para magmalinawn na ka..way au imo bana sis uy (sorry if I have to say this), nalouy ko nimo sis,salbahis man sya uy babaye kang dako iya ka gitouk, paeta lakiha uy!

[limejuice]

The answer? make him feel what you feel right now TS, maabot ang panahon nga siya nasad ang mag pakaluoy nimo. Pasagdi siya sa iyang bisyo ayaw siya kasab-e and baliwalaa ang tanan. Buhata ang imong buluhaton.. One day maka realize rna TS..

[Muerte]

pasagdii na imong bana, mam. paninguha na lang nga makatrabaho ka unya imo nang makuha imong mga bata para mapakita nimo nga pwede ka makabuhi nila.

[ohohoy]

move-on na lang sis kay kung pananglit na mo balik ka niya mo samot ang iyaha pang lait nimo.. basin pa unya ug mosamot kdako ang iyaha hambog..

[my_hEaD_isBIG]

kagara ba sad sa imong bana sis. naka istorya cya nimo ato? grabe naman sad..doot man sa bukog...
Trabaho lang sis then kuhaa imong mga anak... looy sad ta sa mga bata...mama raba jud pangitaon ana nla...

[johnnski]

ikapila na ni niya nabuhat?

[bowee]

first, let me start by asking you a question, karon ra ba ni gihimo sa imong bana nimo? if permanente na ni nya ghimo, then you have some grounds of leaving your family and your kids..

Second, the humiliation you got from your hubby doesnt deserve any utmost respect to you as an individual at all, warrant at least by law.. it's total disrespect to you as a person jud.

Now we go to the core of your relationship. Your husband belittled your capacity because your marriage to him in the first place might not be founded on a strong bond of love at all. Perhaps it was just because you might have gotten pregnant and he was force to marry you right then and there. But whatever the odds are, he doesn't and in no way insult your capacity to insult your moral standings or your family background. He might have had this mental attitude already that you married him for his family's richness and sorts of.

Now, in respect to your husband, we really don't know the two sides of the coin unless he can also presents his case here as well, Perhaps your husband might have fed up already with your 'too personal beckonings' that have irked him to force his long hidden ill-wills for you in the long run.

Whatever the case maybe, moving forward, I would suggest you talk to your husband and still work this relationship up.

There are too many broken families nowadays that the reason falls only to being TOO PROUD for each other's comfort. I am not saying though that you concede and bow down to your pride. All I am saying is if you can talk to each other as a decent and respected individual that you both know of each other before, then perhaps it's never too late to say sorry at all again.

The fact your husband said sorry to you, means he has accepted his faults. It would be your end of the bargain to mirror yourself as well to ask yourself also if you have done something bad also to him, and to correct your mistakes as well.

Again, work this relationship if it can be work out.. if it can't be anymore.. it would be your choice to decide eventually..

Just remember, there are no BEST advices or GOOD advices here in this type of problem.. It would be your HEART and your MIND, that would eventually later on makes or breaks the problem.