very manipulative parents!!!

[deadlyghurl]

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ever since pa jud, cla nah nag control sa amu life..they forced us to take up the course on which we don't even want. They wanted us to become like them, 3 nami sa amu mag igsuon nga same ug course just like them. Asta choice of clothing, cla pa mag buot. Grbeha jd oe! Hatod-kuha pa jud sa skul, dn asta allowance i.kwenta lang tanan pila ang ma gasto halos wa jd ka sobra2x, grbeh ka tihik nga inahan oe! Mai nalang gni nga wa jud na abot sa am0ng point nga mag rebelde mi, ni respeto ghpon mi nla mski ingon ana ang treatment. Pero naa jud times nga maka pamakak nlang mi just to have some space and freedom, mski gamay lang.

When i was in college, mag lisud pa jud gni ku ug pananghid nila if naay school activity or naai project hmu.on. Over na jud kaau. gi agwanta lang nku knowing that im still dependent nla ug naa pa ko sa ilang side karon. Asta mga outings, d jd sugtan dghan kaayo ug rason mahog ra nga dli ilang i2bag. Aku nlng gd tawn mngita ug paagi para ma lingaw ku sa akong life. Mag lakaw2x ku nga d ku mnanghid, wa mn koi ch0ice kysa mbuang ku dri sa amu. Aku jud gi human ak0ng pag skwela kai khbaw ku mao ni mkapalipay nla, pero wa sd ku nag expect nga ni graduate nalang ku mao ra ghpon ila treatment nku. Mas ni grbeh mn nuon pgkbaw nla nga naa nkoi uyab..

HELP!!!! i just don't know on what to do. I can't stand the fact nga mag cge nlang ku kahadlok, i just wanted to enjoy my life & a family that is open enough to share those problems. I wanted to learn to voice out my problem towards them. Lisud lang jud kai super lisud jd cla pasabton....

[Tirong-say]

Naa man siguroy stages sa pagdala sa mga anak, kung bata pa kinahanglan gyud ug close supervision hangtud naa nay buot ug maka-learn na ug barog sa ilang kaugalingon. Perhaps in your stage now you should tell them nga you have to try guiding your own oar, but still heed their admonitions and warnings as parents.

[necrotic freak]

mao ni communista style..hehe

[cromagnon]

mao na gi - ingon . if u want freedom . u have to pay the price .

wats the price - mka live ka on ur own .

but like the prodygal son ,. and in the law , u are entitled of a certain percent in ur families asset .


u cant blame ur parents . They do it uncontiously , maybe bec , of psychological upbringing themselves .
Seek first to understand , then to be understood.
-steven covey.


be the water not the rock.


- mura ni status ni Go Jeun pyeu / just like what his ate said . dli sya hapy sa iya life bec, of their parents . thats y , she wont let it hapen to her younger bro .


-but of course , be ready for the consequence of ur action in the future.

[umpa-lumpa]

uh oh....i pity u sis...lisoda sd ani oi... d gyd dapat ing-ana ang pamaagi sa imong parents oi..u should have freedom..anyway, we wont dwell on what happened na..naka graduate naman ka dba? and naka work na ka rn? you are already old enough to stand on your own..since you are of mature age, i suggest that you talk to your parents about it. tell them what you feel, you need to be independent too, it is for your own good, YOU should be the one to control your life now since naa naka sa sakto nga pangidaron. Thank them for helping you in your studies and everything, it is their responsibility anyway as parents. BUT now, you should not let them control you on what you want to do..

one advice, if budget approves it, then get your own place....ky lisod ng ing-ana..what if mu abot na sa time nga mag minyo naka kuyaw ug pugngan ka dba? tsk tsk tsk better act now before its too late..God bless

[deadlyghurl]

Naa man siguroy stages sa pagdala sa mga anak, kung bata pa kinahanglan gyud ug close supervision hangtud naa nay buot ug maka-learn na ug barog sa ilang kaugalingon. Perhaps in your stage now you should tell them nga you have to try guiding your own oar, but still heed their admonitions and warnings as parents.

yes, i soo much agree on ur advice..very much appreciated.. thank u so much
il take ur advice..

[deadlyghurl]

mao na gi - ingon . if u want freedom . u have to pay the price .

wats the price - mka live ka on ur own .

but like the prodygal son ,. and in the law , u are entitled of a certain percent in ur families asset .


u cant blame ur parents . They do it uncontiously , maybe bec , of psychological upbringing themselves .
Seek first to understand , then to be understood.
-steven covey.


be the water not the rock.


- mura ni status ni Go Jeun pyeu / just like what his ate said . dli sya hapy sa iya life bec, of their parents . thats y , she wont let it hapen to her younger bro .


-but of course , be ready for the consequence of ur action in the future.

sakto jud! nice kaau imu mga quotations..it helped a lot sad for a broader scenario with my situation..

[Tirong-say]

yes, i soo much agree on ur advice..very much appreciated.. thank u so much
il take ur advice..

Your welcome TS...............

[deadlyghurl]

uh oh....i pity u sis...lisoda sd ani oi... d gyd dapat ing-ana ang pamaagi sa imong parents oi..u should have freedom..anyway, we wont dwell on what happened na..naka graduate naman ka dba? and naka work na ka rn? you are already old enough to stand on your own..since you are of mature age, i suggest that you talk to your parents about it. tell them what you feel, you need to be independent too, it is for your own good, YOU should be the one to control your life now since naa naka sa sakto nga pangidaron. Thank them for helping you in your studies and everything, it is their responsibility anyway as parents. BUT now, you should not let them control you on what you want to do..

one advice, if budget approves it, then get your own place....ky lisod ng ing-ana..what if mu abot na sa time nga mag minyo naka kuyaw ug pugngan ka dba? tsk tsk tsk better act now before its too late..God bless

mao sd lageh, bg.o raman pd ku ni graduate..wa pa sad koi work rn..ksbot mn ku nla nga asta ak0ng future g.plan na nla, but gamay lang jd unta nga space para mka gnhawa ku oe, enough na jud twn..dn sa akong part pd, maglisud lang jud kog open up nla gd kai denial stage mn cla nga nka uyab nku, wa sd cla ni make ug move nga mu open up anah...

kasagran jud lgeh gi ingon sa ak0ng friends nga dapat mu speak out njd ku before its too late..d pa lang jud lgeh ku ready oe, ambot lang ani...taas gd kaau cla ug xpctation naku, kai eldest daughter man gd dn aku pa ang 1st nka grad mao bnty sarado sd..nasobraan nuon.. huhu

[deadlyghurl]

sa tanan nga ni tabang ug advice nku dri sa akong post, THANK YOU SOOOOOO MUCH!
God bless sad mu.......