On Hurting Someone with mere Words!

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We can't avoid it. We may not aware of it but some of our words can directly or suddenly can hurt someone's heart, the deliverance is at a different blow..naay di katulog because grabe kasakit atoa gipanulti or naay nainsulto ug nahiubos kaayo sa atoa pinulungan. Honestly, sometimes i think ana sad ko...( buangon usahay!!! ) Arrgg..kasakit ba aron na word. Buangon dyod una gitubag sa akoa inner voice dahh...heheehe...apil-apil mag tubag while i'm writing this topic hahahaah) we both know na usahay kining atoa dila kay hait pa ni sa mga branded na kutsilyo na naa sa Handyman Store heheehe. pirting haita, i remember naay nasakitan sa akoa response na "Wag na" in one instance..tsk tsk tsk..kay kani laging mga tawo na nicare nato sensitive dyod kaayo sa atoa response. Motabang ta tog encode nako nakalitan kog tubag na "Wag na" hastang pagkagabii kadawat nakog text na nahiubos siya. Hasta dyod pinangayuay nakog sorry kuwang nalang akoa luparon ang ilaha bisan tungang gabii na.
See what i mean? .. Of course, we may feel sorry afterwards...worst dyod kanang di dyod kabantay nakapasakit na diay ta by just a mere sentence that came in our mouth.

But if we find that we truly do care about an individual's feelings, despite the fact that it will take us to eat our pride, then we may admit our fault and ask forgiveness to the people we hurt...it will surely help ease their painful process.
Kay if di ta mag-sorry kay lagi bilib kaayo ta sa atoa pagkabagag nawong usahay heehehe that person is undoubtedly going to feel rejected, and they will feel we don't value them. It is usually causing the person any anger or sorrow that prolongs to an emotional discussion in which kung pasagdaan lang magkadako ang bikil.

So how do you cope up with them after nato napasakitan ug sulti? and remain considerate of their feelings? I think first, we should be sure to do it face to face..tell them how sorry we are or some words like "I'm really stupid, I'm sorry if i hurt you" mao nang giingon na eat your pride style ba hehehe.. Ikaduha pwede sad any other means other than a face to face chat.. text them, call them, send them a sorry note..di ba? Dili lang dyod ta mag-expect ug rush forgiveness kay dili sayon masakitan di ba? It's like hell and what the hell can we expect that the people we hurt too much dali-dali lag ngisi natog balik? or kung ningisi man gani siguro na kaliton tag kagat ana. Nasakitan gud heheehe.

Appearing face to face is actually difficult for both parties but at least you are showing the individual that your time together has meant something...that you value them, that you care for them. that she/he means something, and that overall, you care about their well-being. Pagpahiubos tawon kung nakasala ka and humble yourself to the people you care. Ayaw nang abi kay pinangga ka modako na'g imong sungay ug magsalig ka. Ayaw pakita nako kay ako'y dapog nimo heheheeh!

Pride? Iluwa na uy...maong nang reason usahay na nagminahalay na ang kadaghanan mabungkag lang kay gipalabi ang pride. Always humble yourself but not too much kay ikaw nasad niya ang tapakan.

Breath with love and care, with principles, with capacity to help, ease someones pain even for a moment and serve the others with your clean heart. In this we may find joy... and even if the world will turn their back on you...who cares? in your heart you knew you gave love...you love truly with humility na kung makasakit kag feelings to the other people... you always have the guts to ask for forgiveness.

[cptn_star]

the toungue could be sweeter than honey but it can also be sharper than a double-edged sword...

[Maikeru]

Agreed.

Here are some sayings about speaking:

1. To speak and to speak well are two things. A fool may talk, but a wise man speaks. ~Ben Jonson
2. Two monologues do not make a dialogue. ~Jeff Daly (Mao ni ang conversation between two people corrupted by pride)
3. Talking is like playing on the harp; there is as much in laying the hands on the strings to stop their vibration as in twanging them to bring out their music. ~Oliver Wendell Holmes
4. The trouble with talking too fast is you may say something you haven't thought of yet. ~Ann Landers
5. The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing at the right place but to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment. ~Dorothy Nevill
6. Foolishness always results when the tongue outraces the brain. ~Author Unknown
7. The words you choose to say something are just as important as the decision to speak. ~Author Unknown

[esotericlove]

We can't avoid it. We may not aware of it but some of our words can directly or suddenly can hurt someone's heart, the deliverance is at a different blow..naay di katulog because grabe kasakit atoa gipanulti or naay nainsulto ug nahiubos kaayo sa atoa pinulungan. Honestly, sometimes i think ana sad ko...( buangon usahay!!! ) Arrgg..kasakit ba aron na word. Buangon dyod una gitubag sa akoa inner voice dahh...heheehe...apil-apil mag tubag while i'm writing this topic hahahaah) we both know na usahay kining atoa dila kay hait pa ni sa mga branded na kutsilyo na naa sa Handyman Store heheehe. pirting haita, i remember naay nasakitan sa akoa response na "Wag na" in one instance..tsk tsk tsk..kay kani laging mga tawo na nicare nato sensitive dyod kaayo sa atoa response. Motabang ta tog encode nako nakalitan kog tubag na "Wag na" hastang pagkagabii kadawat nakog text na nahiubos siya. Hasta dyod pinangayuay nakog sorry kuwang nalang akoa luparon ang ilaha bisan tungang gabii na.
See what i mean? .. Of course, we may feel sorry afterwards...worst dyod kanang di dyod kabantay nakapasakit na diay ta by just a mere sentence that came in our mouth.

But if we find that we truly do care about an individual's feelings, despite the fact that it will take us to eat our pride, then we may admit our fault and ask forgiveness to the people we hurt...it will surely help ease their painful process.
Kay if di ta mag-sorry kay lagi bilib kaayo ta sa atoa pagkabagag nawong usahay heehehe that person is undoubtedly going to feel rejected, and they will feel we don't value them. It is usually causing the person any anger or sorrow that prolongs to an emotional discussion in which kung pasagdaan lang magkadako ang bikil.

So how do you cope up with them after nato napasakitan ug sulti? and remain considerate of their feelings? I think first, we should be sure to do it face to face..tell them how sorry we are or some words like "I'm really stupid, I'm sorry if i hurt you" mao nang giingon na eat your pride style ba hehehe.. Ikaduha pwede sad any other means other than a face to face chat.. text them, call them, send them a sorry note..di ba? Dili lang dyod ta mag-expect ug rush forgiveness kay dili sayon masakitan di ba? It's like hell and what the hell can we expect that the people we hurt too much dali-dali lag ngisi natog balik? or kung ningisi man gani siguro na kaliton tag kagat ana. Nasakitan gud heheehe.

Appearing face to face is actually difficult for both parties but at least you are showing the individual that your time together has meant something...that you value them, that you care for them. that she/he means something, and that overall, you care about their well-being. Pagpahiubos tawon kung nakasala ka and humble yourself to the people you care. Ayaw nang abi kay pinangga ka modako na'g imong sungay ug magsalig ka. Ayaw pakita nako kay ako'y dapog nimo heheheeh!

Pride? Iluwa na uy...maong nang reason usahay na nagminahalay na ang kadaghanan mabungkag lang kay gipalabi ang pride. Always humble yourself but not too much kay ikaw nasad niya ang tapakan.

Breath with love and care, with principles, with capacity to help, ease someones pain even for a moment and serve the others with your clean heart. In this we may find joy... and even if the world will turn their back on you...who cares? in your heart you knew you gave love...you love truly with humility na kung makasakit kag feelings to the other people... you always have the guts to ask for forgiveness.

hahhays.. makahilak man kog tagok ani ois.. nka relate jud ko as in.. super and mao na reason na na shatter amo friendship sa tao ako consider best friend..pareho mi pasakitay storya and ako sorry jud ko dayon and say taas ayo pride dili jud mag sorry.. hahays.. sakit ayo jud peru mao na la ta mahems mao na next time careful jud sa mga buhian na words kay dali ra jud makapaskit sa gibati sa uban and even ourselves..

[kiringking]

mao ni ang dapat sa akung uyab..... nga topic..... actually close topic jud.
Usahay / dili lang usahay insensitive kay nga laki sa iyang mga words and gestures...
bisan sultian na nko nga diha ka nga part mka sakit... mg sorry kuno cya pero PERO jud kinsahanglan tunga sad mo sa mistake..... d sad malikayan nga naa jud kay mabuhat after ka insulto nimo after ka dungog sa mga dili dapat nga words.... pareha karn...
mao lage ning na inlove nasad ka madawat nalang nimo ang ing.ana nga batasan paeta ...
ni share lang ko ....

[ctrlaltdelete]

there are people that are not too sensitive that just by a single word they might get offended. So to avoid it from happening know the person first before you throw some unfriendly words.

[julz23]

we should really know the person before saying a words, coz we might even get hurt of it..

[maitoots]

mao na nahimo ang saying nga 'if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all'.. pero sometimes we have to hurt the person man pd.. to let them know we care...

[esotericlove]

we should really know the person before saying a words, coz we might even get hurt of it..

hmmm seryos ang akong bro mu comment ron dah.. bitaw bro oi..lisod jud.. ako sometimes pag lagot na jud ayo ko to the max maka sakit jud ko sulti lalo na pasakitan pod ko..hahays..

[dimplesheaven]

We should not put the blame on ourself alone.. Lahi-lahi man perspective ang taw. Some may not be easily hurt by mere words because they understand and mature enough not to let some senseless emotion rule them.

Well, we have to be considerate pud sa level of closeness between two persons kay mo vary pud ang modes of conversation ninyo.

Sometimes we say man gud hurtful words to let the person know what we are feeling...