Your girlfriend/boyfriend's X.

[inna-iks]

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I'm not sure if somebody asked this before, I tried searching for it but I can't seem to find the specific topic that I'm looking for. What about my boyfriend's X? Your girl/boyfriend's X?

Here's the situation. It's not really a problem but more of like a habit of mine. I just want to know your opinion about it. Or how would you feel if you were in my place? Share your opinion about this issue please.

Situation : I just have this habit of digging into my boyfriend's past. I want to know everything about his EXES. I don't think I'm insecure but I just want to know about his past. Every bit of detail. I have this other habit as well of "stalking" my boyfriend's Exes sometimes like looking for pictures and digging up stories, then I have the tendency then to compare myself and sometimes feel bad about it. Stupidity. I know. Why compare right or look into my boyfriend's past when I know that I'd probably just get hurt after staring at their pictures or whatnot. Is there something wrong with me? Anybody else here can relate with this certain habit of mine?

Still not getting my point? Let me give you an example : Like for example. I have a my supladito boyfriend right now. He brought his cellphone with him when he came over to our house and of course since it was an old phone there are pictures of him and his ex there. The happy and inlove stage of their relationship. I immediately grabbed his cellphone and scanned every inch of his phone. "Nangukay" is our term. I'd smile when I look at their picture and I don't know, I think the reason why I get jealous or feel bad is because I see my boyfriend happy with someone else. Forgetting the fact that it's part of the PAST and I'm the present and hopefully the future.

I think I just answered my own question there.
I answered my question as to why I feel bad every time I see his old photos with his X. Looking all happy and inlove.

Well, if you guys have anything to say to my stupidity feel free to reply. Tell me something that I don't know. I'll probably realize something with your help guys.

Anyone here has a similar situation? How do you deal with your boy/girlfriend's X? Do you compare yourself? I hate the fact that I unconsciously compare myself and then feel bad after. Pointless.

Thank you for taking the time to read my post.
Feel free to say anything here.

[cool_guy]

past is past sis,

[KASAAC]

you worry a lot sis, just take it easy and don't take things seriously

[RainDrizzle07]

I don't want to sound harsh pero I really think that you are insecure coz if you are not insecure as you say, why would you dig or know every tiny detail bout his past & worst stalk his exes and felt bad when you see something?

you are not insecure when you won't feel bad seeing something from his past.

I can relate to you with regards to "knowing the detail" but then again bf/gf tend to edit the whole story for this reason;

- they don't want you to feel bad
- they don't want you to compare
- past is past and you are the present
- they just don't want to talk about it.

goin back, I wanted/needed to learn details as much as possible in order for me to know how to handle the relationship and to get idea as well on when and how to approach him.

And honestly I really don't care who is exes are... siya nalang nay motudlo nako... mao to iya ex..
kay bitaw usahay samokan sad ko maghisgot2x sa iyang ex coz I don't want to talk bout my ex as well
I mean, whats the point of mentioning or talking to your partner bout someone he/she doesnt meet/know? dba?

What you are doing is not healthy, you will become paranoid.. which is not good.. focus on your relationship. Be Happy. ^_^

[jeff_bonz59]

maybe what you really lack is.. self confidence... your not confident about urself and your not confident that your bf might leave you one day for another girl... past is past.. maybe a traumatic experience from the past have change you into something like this.. not wanting to accept the past and not wanting to move on .. but this doesnt control your present and your future.. unless you really want to... its all in your mind.. that is what past is called.. because something in the past already.. unless you can digest it.. then you can never be free from it...

[Arshen]

just show ur bf the true u

[RainDrizzle07]

maybe what you really lack is.. self confidence... your not confident about urself and your not confident that your bf might leave you one day for another girl... past is past.. maybe a traumatic experience from the past have change you into something like this.. not wanting to accept the past and not wanting to move on .. but this doesnt control your present and your future.. unless you really want to... its all in your mind.. that is what past is called.. because something in the past already.. unless you can digest it.. then you can never be free from it...

+ 101 %

[chrisgon]

u'll only get urself pretty much everything about the word "HURT" and all things associated ana niya wen u kip doing these things sa iyaha mga exes.

ikaw karun ang naa sa iyaha tunguran, and if u still cant help doing it, just make sure d ka masakitan and d ka maapektuhan instead make these things (unsa imuha nakatunan sa iyaha mga exes) an inspiration na imuha i develop sa imuha self for him to say "ako uyab is all-in-one" or "pangkabuhayan package" na nyahahaha..

sakto ko sis??


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[WEI?]

If you can't take the past than at-least you must live with your future....



-WEI?

[aozora]

it's not stupidity, it's called being in love. basta dli lang ka mangaway sa imong bf over ana na mga butang kay ok ra na, your not stupid. be a good girl for him!