want to make an agreement between my parents and me

[rennyvonne]

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actually nglibog ko if sa Love ni or Family ^^ sory if taas au

i am in a relationship with a guy ryt now. 10 mos na mi. and super happy jud mi sa amo relationship. we go through what normal couples go through: away-bati and all that jazz. and we communicate and understand easily. that's the reason why we stayed this long... and longer as i pray to be. so far no problems mi. he's loyal, a really good man. and we were friends for a year before mi ngkauyab.

the dilemma is. our romantic relationship is secret. wla kbaw akong family except my sister, a family friend and my blood family sa manila (adpoted ko). akong brothers naka feel na. my friends know, his friends know, his family pud wla pa. ky dili pa daw xa gnahan. ^^ he's 24 and a freelance artist. im 18 and still studying psychology. dili paman sugot akong parents nga naa ko uyab while im still studying my first course.

nagsabot mi nga inig after graduation nlng mi mu ladlad sa among relationship.

im confused if dapat na ba ko musulti bsag sa akong brothers. or maghuwat nlng ko nga inig after graduation nlng jud. as much as i want to be open with my family, dili jud nako kaya. i don't open my most personal thoughts with them. actually dugay naman ni nga situation nga dili ko muopen sa akong family. bata pko hilom rjud ko.

manuroy mi sa akong bf sa places nga dili kau ad2on sa akong parents ur brothers. dili kau mi mag tapad sa streets ky basig nya makit.an mi. and clueless jud akong family kinsa akong bf. no idea jud as in.

mao unta ni akong gusto: if ever mutug.an nko or masakpan ko nga naa ko bf, i hope madawat unta na nila. because i am not doing anything nga makaruin sa akong future. my grades can testify. mao raman jud na ila gusto para sa akoa. i just want to compromise with my parents that i am capable and responsible of having a relationship while studying. i know masuko sila for not telling them about my love life. dili man jud ko open gud. dili man pud garboso ang ako bf, he's really a good man jud. he can't even dare to get mad infront of me bsag gahi au kog uli or bsag maldita ko niya. i can attest jud that my guy loves me and respects me that's why i love him jud.

maybe nisulod ko ug romantic relationship because naay dili mahatag akong family nga love nga akong gpangita. and nkit.an nako sa akong bf. i so love him jud. dghan pa kaau ug reasons why i love him sometimes dili nlng ko kasabot nga love nko xa. personally, nahan nko nga akong iintroduce akong bf sa akong family. proud au ko sa akong bf. i want my family to know that my man loves me and i love him too.

libog lang ko coz hadlok ko kasab.an and pabuwagon mi. and matod pa sa akong bf, if ever pabuwagon mi, it doesn't change the fact that we love each other. i just want my parents to accept me and my personal decisions. dili lang jud ko tig-relate nila ug anything.



hope you can react to this. really need ideas from people i don't know...

[Egoist]

kung akos lugar nimo pa.abtan sa nakog mogawas ako grado unya kung dako hinay2.an og bnoang nga ok na ba ko mag.uyab2 wahaha unya kung ok ang reaction huwat pila ka buwan para pahibawn.on wahhaha

[Tirong-say]

I do not know kung estrikto ba imohang parents, kung mao naay implication kung mo-open ka nila tingale mawad-an sila ug trust nimo, pero mas maayo pud kung imohang e-open nila imohang relasyon sa imohang BF it will give an impression nga honest ka ug walay gitago nila, ikaw na lay timbang-timbang, mas maayo kung maka-decide ka nga e-open, e-introduce gyud imohang BF sa imohang parents in person........

[rennyvonne]

makuyawan ko sa reaction sa akong parents... hahaiz...

[Egoist]

ayaw nalang saba sa wahahah pangita lang nindot nga panahon,, unsay nindot nga panahon? kanang panan.aw nimo nga ok na imo parents, kanus.a ok imo parents? hmmm kanang mo.grad naka wahaha

[.bullet.]

you should let your family know. sooner or later mahibaw-an gihapon na and it's a lot better nga sa imoha sila makahibalo and not from other sources. you have good grades and you have a good bf so i don't think there's any reason nga pabuwagon mo sa imong family not unless if di gyud sila gusto nga makigrelasyon ka sa pagkakaron. i-explain lang gyud sa ilaha ngano nisulod ka sa usa nga relasyon, they will understand. ma-in love man gyud nang tao. tell, show, and prove them nga nagtinarong ka and ask them to give you, your bf, and your relationship a chance. mas maayo nang usa nga relasyon nga naay bendisyon gikan sa pamilya kaysa patago tago. just keep in mind, the key is to let them know while it's still early and explain to them why naa kay bf karon. normal ra na masuko or mangluod na sila nimo at first but as long as naexplain nimo ug tarong, they will understand and sooner or later, mosuporta na na sila sa inyong relasyon. it's a dilemma that many people face and too bad not all are strong enough to stand up for their relationship and what they believe in, the end result? nagbuwag and later on nagmahay. you don't want to be in that position so the best thing to do is gather your courage and tell your family. kung mahadlok ka, most likely mahibaw-an na inyong relasyon ug basin pabuwagon na hinuon mo. magmahay lang ka ug maghunahuna "may pa nisulti ko sa una da". kung importante gyud na nimo ang inyong relasyon, be strong enough to stand for it and do what you think is right.

[jfox]

kung akos lugar nimo pa.abtan sa nakog mogawas ako grado unya kung dako hinay2.an og bnoang nga ok na ba ko mag.uyab2 wahaha unya kung ok ang reaction huwat pila ka buwan para pahibawn.on wahhaha

yeah nindot ni nga style padungog-dungog ba.....hinay-hinay lang ug storya.....hangtod sila na mo ingon nga

pa ari.a na imong bf........

[rennyvonne]

g.atot man mo ui... ^^ actually kita naman na cla sa akong grades. pero... grr... dili nako kaya pa...

@.bullet. ---> tnx. ur right. i'll start guro with my brothers. den hinay2... im still doing great with my studies. if ever man gane mugamay akong grades, its not because of my bf but because sa akong mga Co-curricular activities sa school.

[mha3y]

kapoy kaayu nang tago na relasyon labi na ug love ninyo ang usag usa. ipa ila ila na imo bf sa imo bro, sis then kung naa ka close na tita na close sa imo parents nga makasabot sa imo sitwasyon e open na. ayaw lang usa sa imo parents ug dili paka ready. then mo abot man jud ang time na imo bro,sis or tita mo courage sa imo na ipa ila ila sa imo parents. then anha ka mo approach sa imo parents na naa kay ipa ila ila sa ila or mamisita sa inyo house, anha nimo e sulti kung naa kay back up aron naay mo laban nimo, like imo sis or bro or tita kundi lola kay mo laban jud na for sure. then kung mapa ilaila na.. ma lain jud na imo parents sa imo but mauli-an rana labi na ug makita niya na goodgrades ka ug makita pud niya na tarong imong uyab ug responsable...

[ronz_rodz]

just wait for the right time sis... if mature na kaayo mo sa usa't usa then naa nay salig imo parents kanimo.. like you are responsible enough to make any decisions in life then pursue your plans as long as you can handle it without any regrets