I just bought Como Mag Sep.2008 issue in BookSale in Emall.
I was intrigued by the topic since I had a similar experience though it was my bestfriend who went to my ex.
Here are some of the answers I liked:
63% said no and 37% to yes.
No:Leave the past behind
1. An ex's best bud shouldn't be on your "to date" list. He might be doing it, so his pal could get even with you. After all, they are best buds.
2. I will never date an ex's best friend because I wouldn't wand anything to do with people who are connected to my ex in any way. Once it's over between us, everything else is over.
3. No, I won't. Birds of the same feather flock together. Who knows? It could be trap to see if I'd give in or not.
4. No, it'll be awkward. I know my ex don't want anything to do with me anymore, and seeing me with his best friend might just break his heart even more.
5. Even if I'm attracted to the guy, I won't ever date him because I'd jut keepthinking that he and my ex woud be swapping notes about me later on.
Yes:New Love, New Beginning
1. Dating an ex's bestfriend is a thumbs up for me. After all, he is a different person so it might work out with him.
2. An ex is already an ex. We should be both good sports about it. What matters most is that his interntions are clean and we are honest with how we feel about each other.
Mine:
No, I would not. I felt the undescribable pain when my bestfriend dated my ex a month after our breakup. I wouldn't want to let my future bestfriend or my bestfriends now feel the same way. I wouldn't want to lose a best friend over a guy. It's a matter of
respect. And most of all, friends are more important to me.
not that I don't give value to my man, but since they will always be there no matter what. True best friends that is.
So, what's your answer?