How to have a happy Christmas despite a tragic incident?

[lady_blackrose]

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guys i need your help.im confuse on what to do.i want our xmas to be same as last year but there have been so many changes this year after that tragic incident of my dad.my dad died 4 months ago,he was murdered so its really very hard for us to have a fun xmas. im trying to cheer up my younger siblings everytime they ask me what should we do or they do this xmas coz im living here in australia now after what happened coz i have to shoulder my dad's responsibility. it hurts alot everytime my younger bro asks me if who would light up the firecrackers this new year?and whats gonna happen to this first xmas without our dad?

so any suggestions?

[diem]

In simple celebration, please remember what is the season is really about.

Remember Christ and His Promise.

Remember your family, Remember your father and the good times you were able to share while he was still alive.

Remember also to hope. Though I believe that in every day, miracles can happen~ during Christmas, this is the season in which we most feel that it's the time for new beginnings.

[jdlj]

Let go of the the painful memory about the murder of your father. The only memories that should linger in your mind are the wonderful ones when your dad was still alive. Pray to God and ask Him to help you let go of the negative feelings that is bothering your now. Join religious groups. Avoid being alone.

[gnox]

In simple celebration, please remember what is the season is really about.

Remember Christ and His Promise.

Remember your family, Remember your father and the good times you were able to share while he was still alive.

Remember also to hope. Though I believe that in every day, miracles can happen~ during Christmas, this is the season in which we most feel that it's the time for new beginnings.

very well said. Christmas is not only a gathering of the family but a celebration of the birth of our Christ.
It can be celebrated even in a simple way like going to church and praying.

[DyslexicHeart]

Lady_Blackrose, I am very sorry for your lose... (hug!)

I understand that the coming Christmas season will be different for the rest of the family and I feel for your deep concern regarding your siblings who are still here in the Philippines. I see that you are a very responsible and caring 'ate' to them. Your effort to be with them by means of calling them on the phone means a lot to your younger sisters and brothers (even if it hurts a bit to listen to their grief).

Perhaps, a Christmas activity or ritual would be helpful to them. Your younger brother's suggestion of lighting the firecrackers/fireworks could be done symbolically... something with a deeper meaning. Maybe, there is relevance about the fireworks in relation to your father that made your brother think about it.

Take care, sis!

[lady_blackrose]

Lady_Blackrose, I am very sorry for your lose... (hug!)

I understand that the coming Christmas season will be different for the rest of the family and I feel for your deep concern regarding your siblings who are still here in the Philippines. I see that you are a very responsible and caring 'ate' to them. Your effort to be with them by means of calling them on the phone means a lot to your younger sisters and brothers (even if it hurts a bit to listen to their grief).

Perhaps, a Christmas activity or ritual would be helpful to them. Your younger brother's suggestion of lighting the firecrackers/fireworks could be done symbolically... something with a deeper meaning. Maybe, there is relevance about the fireworks in relation to your father that made your brother think about it.

Take care, sis!

yeah coz i was the one who always buy the firecrackers..heaps of them.spend heaps of money to have a great xmas coz it only happens once a year and my dad was the one who light them up.made them really great in the air. now i am looking for a house somewhere for them to move out so my younger siblings can start all over again. away from their classmates asking what really happened?even teachers...friends...so i told him that they have to move somewhere really far....that way they can forget.though im here...im trying the best i could to make it possible for them to have a fun xmas despite everything though they have to move soon again and spend the xmas to a new house. after i break the news to them....my bro asked me this: what about papa?we cant just leave him here. are we running away from anything?but i told him that were not running from any crimes...but running away from the painful experience there and thats my dad's demise.

[scope_hunting]

guys i need your help.im confuse on what to do.i want our xmas to be same as last year but there have been so many changes this year after that tragic incident of my dad.my dad died 4 months ago,he was murdered so its really very hard for us to have a fun xmas. im trying to cheer up my younger siblings everytime they ask me what should we do or they do this xmas coz im living here in australia now after what happened coz i have to shoulder my dad's responsibility. it hurts alot everytime my younger bro asks me if who would light up the firecrackers this new year?and whats gonna happen to this first xmas without our dad?

so any suggestions?

remember of those happy days you were together, cherish those moments, forget the incident, only re-live those joyful and cheerful moment and dont forget to pray.. cheer them up! if their spirits are on the lowest point now, cheer them and tell them if your happy then ur dad will be happy.

may his soul rest in eternal peace with our lord.