HELP I'm in the grayest area of love and friendship

[balthier_bunanza]

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hi. new here. i just had to register for this dilemma. wa koy laing kasturyaan. tabang.

it's about my relationship with the two of my closest friends.

ana na siya: naa koy duha kabuok bespren guy ug girl. close kaayo mi na pwede nami maghubo sa ilang atubangan ok ra kaayo. dili pwede mahuman ang adlaw na dili ko kastorya nila.

unys naa'y nahappen nila.

nya ganahan kaayo ko sa guy. kabalo siya pero dedma kay migo man. naa siya'y uyab.

ganahan pud ko sa gurl. kabalo siya pero dedma kai miga man. naa pud siya'y uyab.

nya lalaki ko. wa ko'y uyab kai wa ko kabalo unsa ko. di man pud ko mu-admit na bayot ko.

pero mas ganahan ko sa akong migo.

should i feel betrayed?

kamatyonon ko. tabang.

[madredrive]

if na ganahan ka sa duha ka entities boy gurl your a bisexual; and to get to the point jud i overcome sa imong pagka identity vs role confusion na stage... and in case sa imong duha ka friends normal rana xa.. ana jud nang close friends mag ka grabeh jud na.. what imo ma buhat is to guide them lang.. and don't feel negative about them.. still they are your friends ya know...

self then others then them!

[balthier_bunanza]

if na ganahan ka sa duha ka entities boy gurl your a bisexual; and to get to the point jud i overcome sa imong pagka identity vs role confusion na stage... and in case sa imong duha ka friends normal rana xa.. ana jud nang close friends mag ka grabeh jud na.. what imo ma buhat is to guide them lang.. and don't feel negative about them.. still they are your friends ya know...

self then others then them!

wala man dayon ni-register sa akong utok ang mga words. tsk naglisod kog sabot. dili pud ko ganahan na mu-admit na bisexual ko, naa pai such thing as gray area sa bisexual? ambot ani. wa gyud ko kasabot.

but that aside, my real problem kai akong duha ka friends. my love for them goes beyond physical man gud. i am against them getting together for one: because they both are in a relationship, nya two: if kung sila, asa manko puniton ni lord, dba?

i tried to confront them this afternoon, pero wala koi nakuha na answer. hilom rah. tsk. sakita oi.

[noodles]

maybe, attraction lang ni cya sa imong friends coz u like them very much.. or maybe, for you, love = closeness. maybe you're afraid you'll loose both of them.

you have to decide. you are free to choose asa ka.
but usually naa jud diffucult challenges if you choose the opposite of what you already have.

[lecreigh]

i think ur gay cos u like ur guy friend much more than the girl, dibah?

how about sauna? naa naka na uyab nga guys or what?

[balthier_bunanza]

maybe, attraction lang ni cya sa imong friends coz u like them very much.. or maybe, for you, love = closeness. maybe you're afraid you'll loose both of them.

you have to decide. you are free to choose asa ka.
but usually naa jud diffucult challenges if you choose the opposite of what you already have.

dli. murag akong na-feel nila kai ni-surpass na sa attraction stage. dugay na gud kaayo mi kaila. and suddenly poof, ganahan dayon kaayo ko nila.

pero sakto pud ka, i can't be doing things na gi-mindset nako na dili mao. like, for instance, liking a guy. disgusted ko sa akong self knowing ing-ana akong na feel. brain-heart battle. lol.

and yes, i can't afford to lose the both of them.

[balthier_bunanza]

i think ur gay cos u like ur guy friend much more than the girl, dibah?

how about sauna? naa naka na uyab nga guys or what?

i think i'm not gay. pero sakto ka na mas ganahan ko sa bespren nako na guy.

i'm not bisexual either, or that's what i'm trying to convince myself. kai dili manko ma-ibog ug laing lalaki. siya ra man gyud. just the thought of it grosses me out.

i've had four girlfriends since birth. nya i loved every one of them. wala ko na-attract sa same *** until nakaila ko maayo sa akong bespren na guy.

the only people na kabalo na i could swing both ways kay silang duha. mao ra.

luoya nako.

[lecreigh]

hala oi....

maybe u just love ur guy friend so much, you mistook it for affection or na fell nimo na fall ka.
ka-weird.....

dont be bakla my friend, cos daghan na kau mo... unsaon nlang mi mga gurls! (simang)

[gnox]

how old are you? maybe you are just in a confusion stage of your life.
if maging sila don't be jealous about it, friends man gihapon mo ana.
natural ra man gud nang jealousy ba kay 3 is a crowd man but I know you will understand the situation. just pray and focus on other things, daghan paka experiences nga moagi ang daghan pud ka mamee along the way.

[mike-portnoy]

hala oi....

maybe u just love ur guy friend so much, you mistook it for affection or na fell nimo na fall ka.
ka-weird.....

dont be bakla my friend, cos daghan na kau mo... unsaon nlang mi mga gurls! (simang)

@lecreigh - cge lng daghan bakla.....daghan paman sad nahabilin na dili sama nako nga available.