Fight for right or just give up?

[chelmarie]

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ive been married na for a year and all of a sudden our marriage fall apart my husband cheated on me..im 27 and we dont have kids...its really hard to accept since he was my first bf and first love pa jud...on the first few months of our break up i kept all the pains inside kay im still hoping we could still patch things up despite of wat he did..we still communicate on the first 3 months everytime he asked me i always told him that i still have feelings for him but im ok but deep inside i was bleeding i always asked hmabout sa annulment but i didnt mean it..ambout ngano mag istorya ko ug annulment sa iya nga dki ko gusto ma annul mi..until such time that his kabit texted me and said that my husband also wants the annulment as bad as i am and he wants to get married also right after sa annulment..it rreally hurts kay i still feel the pain unya gipun an pa jud sa txt..so i freaked out..ako cla giaway and ni demand ko ug money para sugot ko pa annul mi..giaway ko sa akong bana..giinsulto pag ayo..golddigger daw ko bruha yawa etc...i told them if they wont give my demands i will sue them...dli bya mabayran ug kwarta ang kasakit, kaguol ug kaulaw nga akong na feel...he was never inlove with me daw and he was deeply inlove with his kabit..desperate wife daw ko...dli daw cla mahadlok if im gonna sue them kay knowing my financial status it wont gonna happen...well its true man pud na dli jud ko maka afford..galagot lang jud ko pag ayo ba kay cla pay nakasala cla pa ang mangisog...they should understand lang unta bah na dli bya ing ana kadali dawaton ang tanan may man ug uyab ra mi...gusto jud unta nako cla patagmon oi kay mga gara kaayo mga immoral baya...pwede ba ipatanggal cla sa ila work? call center cla gatrabaho...enough ba ang pic nga evidence? dli nako gusto magbalik mi gusto lang jud nako bah nga patagmon cla kay murag easy raman kaayo nila ilang gibuhat..imagine giingnan ko sa kabit nga mao daw ga samok2 ko nila kay i was not getting laid..liman ka ana? sus nindot jud bugnoon ang kabit oi...mga immoral kaayo baga ug nawong...suko kay akong bana kay akong giaway ang iyang kabit ngano daw mang harass ko ug mang bastos wla jud cya ga huna2 kung unsa ka bastos iyang gibuhat...libog jud ko oi kung fight ba ko or give up nalang...sometimes maka huna2 ko na its better na ma annul mi pero dli nako gusto mag txt2 sa ila..hulat nalang kaha ko na mag pa nnul cla or do i have to tell them pa na ok na sa ako ang annulment nver mind the money nalng ky i didnt mean it man pud...hahay ambot oi libog jud ko...

[dasher_d]

hi sis, I totally understand how you are feeling. Dili jud na lalim. I've been in almost the same situation with you. (My ex-fiance used to work in a call center, too. And found his kabit there!).
It wold be really nice bya nga manimalus jud ka nila. The fact nga sila na ang naka sala nimu, sila pa ang naay balls nga mo give-out ug mga storya pareha ana. It's really frustrating. And the thought nga murag alkanse jud ka. Naa man kay habol, labe na pag naa kay picture, or naa kay witnesses nga naa jud sila'y affair while you're still married. pero think of this nalang sis. It will take lots of money. Aside pa ana, lots of frustrations, stress. Dili lang sa imohang part, but also sa imong family. Yes, alkanse jud ka sa nahitabo. Pero tinuod man jud na ang virtue sis nga mo-forgive jud ta. And if kaya, just forget. Yeah, long process na siya, and very difficult. pero possible kaayo. Just entrust everything kay God sis. napilde ka dinhe, and ikaw pa ang natapakan ug ayo. But up there, you're not. Murag hypocrite ra kaayo ko paminawun, but that's the easiest way. Ako bitaw sa una, when such thin g happened, I almost did everything para maka baws ko. Naa koy alas against my ex para ma uwawan cya and ma kick out cya iya job, but at the end of the day, I realized dili jud na solution. I opted to be silent and forgiving. And now, I found someone nga I know will take care of me.
Just take time to pray sis, and NEVER EVER self pity. Continue to love yourself and do everything to feel good. Be with your family and friends often, I know you'll heal, soon...

[chelmarie]

hi sis, I totally understand how you are feeling. Dili jud na lalim. I've been in almost the same situation with you. (My ex-fiance used to work in a call center, too. And found his kabit there!).
It wold be really nice bya nga manimalus jud ka nila. The fact nga sila na ang naka sala nimu, sila pa ang naay balls nga mo give-out ug mga storya pareha ana. It's really frustrating. And the thought nga murag alkanse jud ka. Naa man kay habol, labe na pag naa kay picture, or naa kay witnesses nga naa jud sila'y affair while you're still married. pero think of this nalang sis. It will take lots of money. Aside pa ana, lots of frustrations, stress. Dili lang sa imohang part, but also sa imong family. Yes, alkanse jud ka sa nahitabo. Pero tinuod man jud na ang virtue sis nga mo-forgive jud ta. And if kaya, just forget. Yeah, long process na siya, and very difficult. pero possible kaayo. Just entrust everything kay God sis. napilde ka dinhe, and ikaw pa ang natapakan ug ayo. But up there, you're not. Murag hypocrite ra kaayo ko paminawun, but that's the easiest way. Ako bitaw sa una, when such thin g happened, I almost did everything para maka baws ko. Naa koy alas against my ex para ma uwawan cya and ma kick out cya iya job, but at the end of the day, I realized dili jud na solution. I opted to be silent and forgiving. And now, I found someone nga I know will take care of me.
Just take time to pray sis, and NEVER EVER self pity. Continue to love yourself and do everything to feel good. Be with your family and friends often, I know you'll heal, soon...

tnks sis..but do i have to txt them pa about sa annulment or mag wait nalang ko and not bother them anymore..

[dasher_d]

sis, dapat jud bya unta textan, so as to follow up the process.. pero as of now, ayaw lang sa cguro. just wait for some time nga dili na ana ka init. both parties. ako follow up advice sa imo, enjoy your life lang sa ui, bata pa bitaw ka. by the way, if you don;t mind me asking, in love gihapon ka sa guy until now?

[bluefairy]

if your ex-husband doesn't love you anymore, then i think it would be better to give up nalang. what's the use of fighting pa diba? although personally, ako grabe ko ka vengeful na tao. di jud ko mahimutang kung dile ko makabaws. pero at the end of the day, pilde gihapon coz the one that you love doesn't love you anymore. what's worse is he loves someone else...

as what dasher said, yaw lang sa pagcontact nila kay medjo init pa ang both parties. at the right time though, you should process your annulment. i know you will have your chance of happiness ra jud. as for them, they will get what they deserve!

i feel for you sis. although wala pa ni nahitabo nako, just thinking about this makes me sick.

[mmp]

so hurting. practically speaking, it is really expensive to process an annulment, 300thou i think ang magastos. and what would be ur grounds for annulment?
the law is always favorable in the preservation of the marriage. no matter how hurt u are, law will always consider to bring back the marriage.

But then if binahay na tlaga ung kabit ng husband mo, you sue them.

I know it's hard coz being cheated is really painful considering the fact na ur husband uttered painful words to you in favor of that kabit.

cge lang, time will heal everything. pray and karma will get into their nerves..k?

[toushiro]

of course fight for right...

[Hot Sizzle]

fight for your right sis... but for the sake of love just give up on it.... it's really hard, byt afterwards you'll get over it.....

[mage]

ako sad frnd sis naa sad kabit ya bana ang kapait pa jud kay naa na anak yang bana xang kabit... taz diLi na xa uLion sa iLa haus kay didto na mouli xang kabit... maghiLak intawon xa sa among... xympre looi bya jud na! kay sakit gud napud labi na oglove jud nimo imong bana!

pero sis ug diLi na ka love sa imong bana just give-up na lang kay wat 4 kung imo xa i fight taz wala na xa love nimo diba? mag cge ra japon na xa pangabit... diba?? dn bata paman pud ka so makakita pa ka ug tarung ug mas mo love nimo sis...

ayaw sa pag txt niLa kay mura init pa jud! ug lyk jud nimo na matangGal siLa sa ilang worK mag nice mangau ka advice sa abogado... pero xympre gasto na pud...

para ra pud na sa ako ha...

[mazkot]

kng intimate act ang pic na-a pa chance.. but kng kuyog da circumstatial da. kng ganahan ka ipa dakop nimo sla sa police and it should be in the act of having ***.

if they are leaving together and wa pa naabot ug years na separated mo. you file a case. na-a man mga NGO na pwede mo tabang nimo.