Troubled young wife

[sammedriano]

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Thank you! Thank you! But believe me, I tried that. Aware man pud ko sa akong sayop nga nag minyo ko ug sayo, pero love man gud nako siya. Wa man sad na lessen akong feelings para niya just because he got so KJ, I just don't know how to make him understand nga I need this, I want this. Gusto raman unta ko nga ubanan ko niya together with our friends. Pero napul-an naman jud daw sya ana oi. Well, good for him! I wish I could say that to his face..

Why couldn't you? He loves you, and I can feel that. He won't marry you if he don't.

Let me give you an idea. Recommend to him that you go out sometimes -maybe a date? I don't know. That could be something nice. You and him.

Also, you may spend the weekend to the beach with your kids. That's some outing that young people like us normally do. At least, he is aware that you just want to have some "Clean" fun. Nothing more, nothing less.

[quirkychinita]

Human nature..... when given enough, we ask for MORE.


.......................... mura raman kag flowing water, if naay barrier, you find another path para mu-continue kag flow....

I think this is one of the threads na di ko katambag ug ayo, kay it's human nature naman...

Nothing we can do about it.


Based on your post, I feel that you're a person who doesnt want na makadungog ug reply from one of us saying na "Ayaw na buhata" "ayaw ingana oi!" or anything that contradicts... Maybe Im wrong. Maybe not.


We all know what to do even you TS know what's best to do.... it's just that you still have that WANTs in life you wanna get but haven't satisfied.




But all I could say is that Im so lucky and thankful my better half never stop me from doing what I want cuz he trusts my decisions.

[sammedriano]

This is one of the advantages of people with open mind

If her husband ain't going to let her be - I won't say that he is close minded, but I would rather say -Selfish.

Human nature..... when given enough, we ask for MORE.


.......................... mura raman kag flowing water, if naay barrier, you find another path para mu-continue kag flow....

I think this is one of the threads na di ko katambag ug ayo, kay it's human nature naman...

Nothing we can do about it.


Based on your post, I feel that you're a person who doesnt want na makadungog ug reply from one of us saying na "Ayaw na buhata" "ayaw ingana oi!" or anything that contradicts... Maybe Im wrong. Maybe not.


We all know what to do even you TS know what's best to do.... it's just that you still have that WANTs in life you wanna get but haven't satisfied.




But all I could say is that Im so lucky and thankful my better half never stop me from doing what I want cuz he trusts my decisions.

[MRS.TROUBLED]

Hi quirkychinita! Wala ko'y mahimo if that's what you think of me and if I already knew what to do, di nako mag effort ug post diri ui. Not all responses are positive baya, magpasaway lang jud ko ug tuyo?? Pero I appreciate your response.

Human nature..... when given enough, we ask for MORE.


.......................... mura raman kag flowing water, if naay barrier, you find another path para mu-continue kag flow....

I think this is one of the threads na di ko katambag ug ayo, kay it's human nature naman...

Nothing we can do about it.


Based on your post, I feel that you're a person who doesnt want na makadungog ug reply from one of us saying na "Ayaw na buhata" "ayaw ingana oi!" or anything that contradicts... Maybe Im wrong. Maybe not.


We all know what to do even you TS know what's best to do.... it's just that you still have that WANTs in life you wanna get but haven't satisfied.




But all I could say is that Im so lucky and thankful my better half never stop me from doing what I want cuz he trusts my decisions.

[MRS.TROUBLED]

whenever I tell him nga we go some place else, para mag relax kai puro nalang me trabaho muana ra sya ay nga unya na, focus usa ta sa negosyo, gasto kaayo na. Di man sad permihon oi, hay! Am I being selfish? Kung buot palang jud nga mulaag ko ug ako ra usa pwede ra jud! I just don't want to do it w/out him.

Sige lang, I'll try to be sweeter when I ask him that again.. Thank you jud kaayo for understanding me and for not judging.

Why couldn't you? He loves you, and I can feel that. He won't marry you if he don't.

Let me give you an idea. Recommend to him that you go out sometimes -maybe a date? I don't know. That could be something nice. You and him.

Also, you may spend the weekend to the beach with your kids. That's some outing that young people like us normally do. At least, he is aware that you just want to have some "Clean" fun. Nothing more, nothing less.

[sammedriano]

No worries. I feel you. My girlfriend has the longing that you have now too. However, I have the attitude of your husband -only that I don't grab my GF on the neck. She can do everything that she wanted to do. For I know that time will come that she's going to get tired of all of these stuff and will focus on preparing for our future and our kids.


Just be sweet to him and catch his attention, so he'd realize what he has taken out from you - liberty.

whenever I tell him nga we go some place else, para mag relax kai puro nalang me trabaho muana ra sya ay nga unya na, focus usa ta sa negosyo, gasto kaayo na. Di man sad permihon oi, hay! Am I being selfish? Kung buot palang jud nga mulaag ko ug ako ra usa pwede ra jud! I just don't want to do it w/out him.

Sige lang, I'll try to be sweeter when I ask him that again.. Thank you jud kaayo for understanding me and for not judging.

[silentnuker]

at least you are an open-minded wife...that seeks your husband's approval in your decisions...i would guess medyo may kulang man jud sa part sa imo husband to deny you of much needed fun and re-creation. yeah, try t0 ask him in a very sweet and convincing way...hehe. mo-agree ra man na after depending on how/why you ask.

whenever I tell him nga we go some place else, para mag relax kai puro nalang me trabaho muana ra sya ay nga unya na, focus usa ta sa negosyo, gasto kaayo na. Di man sad permihon oi, hay! Am I being selfish? Kung buot palang jud nga mulaag ko ug ako ra usa pwede ra jud! I just don't want to do it w/out him.

Sige lang, I'll try to be sweeter when I ask him that again.. Thank you jud kaayo for understanding me and for not judging.

[lilith1o1]

Hi ts, share lang pud ko sa ako story ha, almost 14yrs ang age gap nako ug sa ako husband, im 26 and he is turning 40, 9 year na mi together, highschool teacher nako siya and after ko nigraduate sa hs nagkakami na,iya usa ko gipahuman ug college before mi nagminyo. But when i was in college he lets me do what i want,pasagdaan man koniya nga mag.enjoy sa ako life. After graduation i got pregnant and we got married. Now he ask me nga d usa ko motrabaho para makafocus ko sa amua baby 4yrs na ko housewife, i said ok lang para d mapasagdaan ang bata, mao ra jud na ako buhat, now karun kay daku na ang bata he let me out na, pero ako na mismo ang maglimit, like 1s a month,, ako nalang kay dili na man xa ganahan ug laaglaag. Kasabot siya kay di baya lalim nga mapundo ta sa balay for 4 yrs.
Now sa imo situation, wala jud ka natagbaw sa imu teenage years, ayaw kalain ha but sala ninyo duha, pwede ra man unta to nga kun makahuwat siya gipahuman ka niya ug school, and let u out with friends,para unta to matagbaw ka daan sa barkada before ka niya gianakan. Nya ikaw pud nisugot lang pud ka. Sa inyo situation nga 2 kids, naa mo business masabot ra man pud siya, dili baya sayon ang pagmaintain ug negosyo karun panahuna, sa kadaghan sa competition karun, naghunahuna na pud baya na siya sa future sa inyo mga anak. Regarding sa imu paglaag maybe dili siya makasalig sa imu kuyugan, naa siguro siya mga doubt kay basin madala ka sa mga temptations (dili sa laki ha). Kahibalo baya siya nga uhaw kaayo ka anang mga laaglaag.basin ug mahigalam k mao mahadlok siya musugot. So ang ako ikasuggest nga ayaw lang padala sa suya sa imu mga fb friends anang cge ug post anang ila mga gadgets, trips ug unsa pana diha nga mga pasuya, maghuot lang na imu dughan, mas importante ang quality time nimu sa imu kids and husband. Good thing comes to those who wait, so wait lang ts gud, basin naa diay maabot nga nindot nga happening gkan sa imu hubby. Im sure naghunahuna pud na siya but maybe dili pa ang sakto nga time. Also ayaw kalimot ug pray for guidance and and peace of mind. Paesnsya na ts ha taas kaayo. God bless you and your family ts.

[zHun]

wala pa jud ka ma bong sa imong pagka dalaga ts..
karon kay minyo naman kah..
focus nalang sa imong family ts para ang imong mga anak maatiman nimo og taman.

ayaw na pag huna2x og laag2x with frnds,nyt lyf, or unsa pa dha kay if cge man gud ka mag huna2x ana mas takung posibilidad
nga ma tintal nuon jud kah..
malingaw naman guro pod ka mag tan aw sa imong mga anak nga happy cla nga kauban ang imong familya..
ikaw baya ts ang "KAHAYAG" sa pamilya...

[vahnhelsing]

tell your hubby what's in your mind.

kun diri lang murag ang among tambag dili gyud paigo.