What can you say/advice about my dilemma

[The Ghost of Tom Jones]

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hey guys, thanks for the advice and opinions, keep them coming i appreciate it alot!

[The Ghost of Tom Jones]

i think it's difficult to give a definite advice (can advice be definite? ) by what you just wrote here. murag kulang.
so answer these questions first:

what's the reason behind her (first) annulment?
reasons why your parents or family do not like her? (have you asked your parents this question straight in the face?)
who initiated the breakup?
how long is your relationship
how old are you?
are you independent?
is she independent?
who's supporting the kid? kid's father?
what else?

coz i'd like to know if your parents are wrong and you are right or vice versa before i can say my advice.

heres the answer to your questions:
1. The guy cheated, and nasakpan niya.
2. Yes i did, complicated daw kaayo ang situation sa girl, unsa kaha daw masulti sa uban taw nako, ngano daw 2nd hand akoa na brand new man ko.
personally i dont care what other people say, and i have accepted her past its the parents that cant accept.
3. Both of us decided to break up. but we are still talking a lot.
4. 3 years (bago pa nako gpahibaw akong parents of the situation) im old enough haha!
5. Not yet, currently unemployed and with parents.
6. Yes, shes running a family business.
7. Shes supporting and raising the kid, wala gani ka kita ang father sa bata. the time she caught him cheating was the time na pregnant cya.
8. they where not even living together sa ilang 2 years marriage, nagpa kasal2x lang coz abeg mao najud.

[katkatsmilez]

@TS: i have also been in a similar situation, but not tungod naay anak or anything. BTW, girl ko.. lol.. anyway, i fought so hard for the person i loved to the point na sa akong rebellion, i ran away with him. then the day arrived na nakuha ko sa akong family og balik (pinugsanay), then nakarealize ko within a year na nakabalik ko na, he wasn't worth it man diay cuz he didn't even try and fight for me when nakabalik ko sa amoa. So my family was right.. but not in all situations baya sad, kay naa sad sila ganahan ipares nako, but d sad ko ganahan, naganahan ko sa friend ato na guy. Fortunately for me, approve man sad sa akong family ang friend sa guy. So mas happy ko and mas peaceful na.. lahi ra jd ang feeling and ang environment na approve ang imong special someone sa imong family pd.. and now, minyo na mi..

pero d sad ta kaingon na kadugay makarealize ra sad imong parents na okay sad diay ang imong girl. hinuon naa sad chance na dili na jd na machange ilang minds, pareho sa akong situation before. wa man gani to lain family/anak, just cuz poor sya and wa syay chinese blood..

[blu bizcuitz]

@TS: kahina gud nimo ug baruganan...unsaon man pagprosper sa inyong relationship kung ingon ana ka...sugod palang gani sa mga tests sa inyong relationship mosurrender naka...your parents will understand you if they really care about your happiness and not their own happiness...prove to the girl nga kaya nimong atubangon ang kinabuhi with her...

[THE KID]

f naa jud kai lawm nga gugma sa babay......kai sa imong gi ingon na dawat man jud kaha nimo...through and through......i fight xa...lisud jud nuon na...pero f makita sa imong parents nga maau jud tong bayhana...madawat rana nila in the future....pero f d jud madawat nila...ila nanang problema...f happy jud ka anang bayhana...ipaglaban mo pare ko.............

[em_b]

ikaw ra jud makatubag ana kay ikaw man nakaila sa imo parents.

do you think in time maaccept nila imo gf? if naay slight possibility, then its worth the risk. wala man siguro parents na matiis iya anak. depende ra pud na sa imo how you will handle the situation.

[PseudoSurgeon]

If you really want it to work TS dapat di naka muchoose unta. Wa unta nimo gibuwagan. Naningkamot nalang unta ka nga maconvince nimo imong parents nga dawaton mo. Dili mana ing-ana kasayon, dili na nila ma-accept dayun but eventually makasabot ra na sila nimo. The fact nga nagbuwag mo tungod sa imong parents tells alot about your feelings towards her. Murag wa pa kay sure. Before ka magthink og unsaon nimo pagconvince sa imong parents, siguradoha sa na imong gibati diha.

Ganahan bah jud kaha ka mupadayun inyong relationshipnor basin imo lang na gigamit nga reason imong parents para naa kay easy way out sa inyong relationship. Wa ko nag-ingon nga wa kay feelings niya, pero basin subconsciously, wa pa sad diay na nimo nadawat jud completely ang status sa girl. Think about it.

[darkraven]

ana jud nah bro, natural ra jud nah ang na feel sa imong parents....
initially, bad man gud dayon nah mahunahunaan sa taw if talking about sa situation sa imong gurl (which is annulled)...
nya every parent only wants whats best for thier children...

if love jud nimo imong gurl, then happy ka being with her bisan unsa pa iyang past, makita ra nah sa imong parents kung unsay effect ani nga gurl within your life... eventually, they see pass her past... (pass her past?? <- sakto bah ^_^ hihihi)... basta mao nah.. hihihi...

pariha ra nah if mabuntis ang gurl wala sa oras. initially, dili jud malipay ang parents ana... pero eventually, ma happy ra ang parents if they'll see ni grow ka maturely then happy ka..

[kaZzzPer]

heres the answer to your questions:
1. The guy cheated, and nasakpan niya.
2. Yes i did, complicated daw kaayo ang situation sa girl, unsa kaha daw masulti sa uban taw nako, ngano daw 2nd hand akoa na brand new man ko.
personally i dont care what other people say, and i have accepted her past its the parents that cant accept.
3. Both of us decided to break up. but we are still talking a lot.
4. 3 years (bago pa nako gpahibaw akong parents of the situation) im old enough haha!
5. Not yet, currently unemployed and with parents.
6. Yes, shes running a family business.
7. Shes supporting and raising the kid, wala gani ka kita ang father sa bata. the time she caught him cheating was the time na pregnant cya.
8. they where not even living together sa ilang 2 years marriage, nagpa kasal2x lang coz abeg mao najud.

thanks sa answers.

i think what complicates more is wla kay trabaho. get a job first. see why imo cya gibuwagan, kay wla kay power! no power over your parents kay cla man diay gabuhi nimo, you have no other choice but to follow parents decisions. right?
also i think ma hurt pud ang pride sa imong parents nga ikaw na hinuoy buhi-on sa imong wife in the future and i think it's not because complicated ang situation sa girl.

just my opinion.
based sa imong tubag sa question number 2, it seems to me, looks ang important sa imong parents not what's inside. also you should ask specifics about what's complicated about her? (i don't think your gf is complicated, she's off the hook with her past anulled nmn kaha cya) unless you know the requirements of your parents for your wife to be, get a job, live independently para naa kay say sa imong life.

[tearz777]

take ur parents advice....ang uyab makita rana nmo..pero ang imong pamilya one and only na...