Unsa-un pag diciplina sa bata nga 10 years old?

[davidsky]

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try lang og uyon2 niya brod hehe

[shey0811]

Discipline should start when the child is still young. At ten years old, it is difficult to really correct and impose discipline. However, discipline could still be imposed. I congratulate you for being the kind of parent who really looks after the welfare of your child in that you really aim for the best for him/her because you thought about disciplining him/her. I am not married and not even a parent yet. Maybe this could be a deterrent but I have been teaching for 7 years now and been acquainted with children and teen agers who are really difficult to discipline. I could offer some suggestions based on how I discipline my own students and probably from the way I see some of my married co-teachers discipline their own kids...

1. Parents should make kids realize that you are an AUTHORITY figure in the house. This does not mean that you be like Hitler but should be done in a way that earns the children's respect. Not too much nor too less. Make your kids know that you are disciplining them because you love them and not because you only want to inflict pain or embarrass them. (By the way, I'm sure most of the teachers you'll never forget are those that were strict to you because later on in life you realized their being strict to you had paid off).

2. Discipline in private. Reprimand kids in private and not in the presence of other people. Some people argue that discipline should be done in public so that kids will find the "wrong act" embarrassing and should not be done again. But I've seen in a fellow teacher who keeps disciplining her child in front of us. Her way of disciplining had an adverse effect because the child tends to become rebellious for being shamed in front of the people. Respect your child just as you would want him/her to respect you.

3. Should you spank or not? Modern disciplinarians argue that spanking is never a good option. But I grew up with spanking (in fact most of the older generations did) and I found out it has been effective. By inflicting pain (not the extreme kind), I was able to realize that what I did was wrong and therefore I avoided the act. Even until now, I still fear my father (of course with an even nobler degree, not the childlike fear I had before).

4. Go biblical. The bible is filled with lots of admonitions and teachings about child-rearing. One of which is the verse (I forgot from which chapter and book): "Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old enough, he will not depart from it." When you train a child while he/she is yet younger, you won't have to deal with discipline issues later on with life. But then again, one needs spiritual guidance. Even with following all the rules on disciplining kids, these are not cut and dried rules (which means, there are greater chances that these could fail). A prayerful parent is really worth praising for.

5. Discipline with love. After telling the child that the act is wrong, carefully explain the reasons why you reprimanded and punished him/her for it, what would have happened if he did it again. Consequences and all.

6. Punish bad behavior but reward a good act. But don't go beyond the normal. There is a thin line that divides rewarding and spoiling. Learn your ropes around them.

Parents and educators roles are about guidance. When it comes to disciplining, we should mean business.