Privacy and Transparency in Relationships

[January]

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its ok if he asks your permission first...

[Zahara]

its ok if he asks your permission first...

Yep :mrgreen:

[Shofu]

He should ask permission first and vice versa that doesnt mean nga naa mga tinaguan. Privacy is very impt to me.

[xmarksthespot]

ok rman pra nko. besides wla mn sd koi gitagoan

[WinFlo]

ok lang as long as ok ra sad niya nga ako i check iya fon. ug dili gani, aw di sad ko.

[ponsoy]

CHECKING ON YOUR MOBILE PHONE..... !!

couples out there... i just wanna to know.... does your bf/gf checks on your mobile phone.... i mean checking your text msgs from other ppl ??

do u think it's right to do that ? or shall we respect the privacy of ur gf/bf ??

pls give your opinions....

thanksss.....

You betcha. It goes both ways though. If I got nothing to hide, why would I worry? Same goes to her. It's not that I regularly check. Out of curiousity, I'd do it when I happen to, say, recharge her cell phone, use it, or whatever. It's good to practice honesty. But verify. :mrgreen:

[diem]

I will not, unless she wants me to. Then I'll consider it.

I believe it's inappropriate for one to go into someone's private things, cellphones are one of those private and personal things. I believe it's even inappropriate for even to ask to see one's partner's cellphone just to read the messages and the names contained within.

I believe its really a matter of trust, primarily of one's own self and of one's partner. In my humble experience, its usually people insecure of their own self-worth who delve into such pryings.

[hera_82]

INAPPROPRIATE.

One needs to RESPECT his/her partner's privacy.

[MALDITA_YLLYZA]

I think if either partner feels so insecure and untrusting as to need to do that then they've got big problems that checking the phone isn't going to do anything to fix. So no, I don't think it's right, but I don't think it's so much about respect as trust. A relationship needs trust. If it has it, there's no need to check. If it doesn't, that needs tackling or the relationship ending.

if there is good reason to be doing it and this person is looking for some kind of proof that is on that phone, then is "right", maybe not. would you deserve it, YES!

if this is a matter of trust. like this person doesn't trust you or has trust issues and you have nothing to hide, what is the prblem? wouldn't you want them to look as much as they wanted if you have nothing to hide.

i've never checked anyone's phone, or had mine checked. but, if there is reason for suspision then you deserve to be "cheked up on" and if there is nothing to hide, then hide nothing and let this person do what they need to do. it may not be right, but if it keeps them happy...why not?

if it's the fact that this person doesn't trust you that bothers you then you have to talk that out. find out why. find out what you can do. if it's something that's going to interfere that much, consider moving on. find someone that trusts you.

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dpende ra jud sa sabot