Memoirs of an Amnesiac
So What If I'm Still Single?
by , 04-05-2012 at 01:29 PM (4041 Views)
"Look helpless," is what my friends often advice me. This they often say probably borne out of sheer pity or disgust at me for not having a steady relationship (after the last one) at my age. Some friends they are! It will take Sir Galahad to finally discover me (what with my strong and intimidating character).
Anyone I meet (especially those from high school), would often ask why I wasn't "sold out" yet, like some important commodity at a slowly depreciating market. In response I often quip, "Don't worry, I'll announce an auction bid for me at your daily newspaper, full page pa, if you like"! But I don't get to reply this way much often. Sometimes I just give them a cold shoulder. The words hurt, reminding me so much how emotionally disabled I am.
The society places too much pressure on women. I really don't know why this is so. They always make us feel that we have missed out almost one half of our lives just because we have not decided to "tie the knot". Maybe those who have chosen a rather different (and difficult) path like marriage look at us with the green eyes of envy as when we could do things that normal married women can't. Say for instance...
We can go where we want to without anyone holding us back. I have spent most of my single life travelling and meeting people, forming relationships and strong bonds with strangers that have become a part of my life. Those travels have enriched me and made me better as a person.
We can choose whom to hang out with, without worrying about anyone (or especially our significant others) getting punched at because of jealousy. Life gets to be worry-free when you are single, you know!
We have full control of our finances. Most of the time, we would have to "share" with our significant others our finances and worse, they even have a final say on what we work our asses off the whole day.
We have no commitment issues. Let's face it. Only the women are so hard put on establishing these commitment issues. Most of the time, men keep mum about what their women lay down for them, especially at the start of the relationship (when all their eyes glitter and shine with hearts). When you're single, you're not exclusive. (And this is the greatest advantage I've seen so far.)
You have more time to explore and do things you had always wanted to do. Most of my married friends often share how they'd like to travel this place and such but can't since they can't bring their kids along or that their husbands won't allow them. And so when the pictures from my escapades come out, all they could say is, "Nasuya ko."
I must admit the pressure to "tie the knot" and that hormonal thing often overwhelms me. I am not getting any younger (with age, though my heart and spirit are still young). I don't want to force anything. Like water, I want things to flow, taking their natural course in time.
And I don't want to wait in idleness. When the time comes that I would meet my future spouse, I'll have so many things I'll share with him.
Yes, I am proud to be single, whatever things you tell me otherwise.
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