HaVe yOu eVer feLt tHis wAy??

[Hime]

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tHe mOlar oF d` sToRy

For the past years, it's been pretty weird realizing how things have changed a lot with our lives. It's pretty amazing to note how things have got so complicated yet it's also nice to know how we've grown mature in seeing unusual predicaments in life. I just can't help but wonder what's next...I mean you'll never know really what a box of chocolates can give until you open them right?

I noticed before, we used to love the thought of having someone in our lives who can love us more than we love them. We always fantasized on a soul that can give us more than their lives in living. I mean, unconsciously we extend the utmost efforts to care for someone so that they too can do much for us, and twice even more. Nothing wrong with that, but in the end, if we don't know how to handle things, that kind of love is the source of "abuse" as I might harshly say. We may not admit but oftentimes when our significant other has manifestly showed us the love that we always wanted, inevitably we tend to ignore them in the long run. Is it because we knew of the fact that they will always be there for us or is it because too much of everything is always bad enough? It's like a wonderful painting on the wall. Once you find something so beautiful, you tend to get close to the beauty to the point of being inches away. What do you get now? Only a small picture of the whole beauty...You now slowly drift away from the thing that you loved and miss the beauty from afar. But wait till you back from the painting a few steps again when you first saw it. What do you get now? The entire picture that captured your heart and took your breathe away when you first saw it.

Human as I am, I did commit that mistake of making sure love was heavier on the other side. I remembered watching the film If Only, and I remembered what the character of Jennifer Love Hewitt wrote in her diary. It goes something like, "...they say in relationships, there will always be someone who loves more...and I hope it's not me..." Well, she couldn't have said it better. I admit, I used to wish for the same thing before. But now, I don't know why things turned the other way around...

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sO how bwt you?

unto everything thats iv said and asked....

have you ever felt this way too

i'l be glad to hear from all of you....

[Hime]

anyonewala jud?...

[splendid moonlight]

No..

It did not occur to me to make sure that love was heavier on the other side. Sure I love the thought of someone loving me - but it did not cross my mind to find someone who loves me more than I love him. I mean, it just never did... cross my mind. I dream of love. I dream of being in love. I dream of being loved. I do not dream of loving less.

[ronna]

^same here.. as long as i know i love him, i care less on how much he loves me, i can feel his love anyway and i know he really does.. it might not be more than my love for him.. what matters is, he does..

[splendid moonlight]

I take this quote "In relationships, there will always be someone who loves more" to mean one of these things:

It is possible that the other person might be say.. more expressive than the other so he might be mistaken as the one who "loves more." But nothing can be further from the truth.

or

One person literally loves the other person less, meaning this person CARES less about the relationship and where it is going and CARES less about the other person. Which just destroys the whole point of being in a relationship and I would not stay in a relationship if this was the case.

[josh_ryanne]

I take this quote "In relationships, there will always be someone who loves more" to mean one of these things:

It is possible that the other person might be say.. more expressive than the other so he might be mistaken as the one who "loves more." But nothing can be further from the truth.

or

One person literally loves the other person less, meaning this person CARES less about the relationship and where it is going and CARES less about the other person. Which just destroys the whole point of being in a relationship and I would not stay in a relationship if this was the case.

hmmm... if we based that on that movie then that quote would mean that someone will always care more. Like maybe someone would be more expressive thru actions and words. And then the other just ignores it and is busy with other things like work. Ang problema ani if ever ma realize niya na he/she needs to show his/her feelings more and to show how much he/she loves the other person unya too late na. tragedy jud. So dapat express jud ta bisan walay okasyon, para no regrets.

[Zahara]

tHe mOlar oF d` sToRy

For the past years, it's been pretty weird realizing how things have changed a lot with our lives. It's pretty amazing to note how things have got so complicated yet it's also nice to know how we've grown mature in seeing unusual predicaments in life. I just can't help but wonder what's next...I mean you'll never know really what a box of chocolates can give until you open them right?

I noticed before, we used to love the thought of having someone in our lives who can love us more than we love them. We always fantasized on a soul that can give us more than their lives in living. I mean, unconsciously we extend the utmost efforts to care for someone so that they too can do much for us, and twice even more. Nothing wrong with that, but in the end, if we don't know how to handle things, that kind of love is the source of "abuse" as I might harshly say. We may not admit but oftentimes when our significant other has manifestly showed us the love that we always wanted, inevitably we tend to ignore them in the long run. Is it because we knew of the fact that they will always be there for us or is it because too much of everything is always bad enough? It's like a wonderful painting on the wall. Once you find something so beautiful, you tend to get close to the beauty to the point of being inches away. What do you get now? Only a small picture of the whole beauty...You now slowly drift away from the thing that you loved and miss the beauty from afar. But wait till you back from the painting a few steps again when you first saw it. What do you get now? The entire picture that captured your heart and took your breathe away when you first saw it.

Human as I am, I did commit that mistake of making sure love was heavier on the other side. I remembered watching the film If Only, and I remembered what the character of Jennifer Love Hewitt wrote in her diary. It goes something like, "...they say in relationships, there will always be someone who loves more...and I hope it's not me..." Well, she couldn't have said it better. I admit, I used to wish for the same thing before. But now, I don't know why things turned the other way around...

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sO how bwt you?

unto everything thats iv said and asked....

have you ever felt this way too

i'l be glad to hear from all of you....

I felt this way before so i get what you mean. In my case, it was hard because i loved the guy but i just can't love him the way he wanted me to. He was so passionate, so intense and it scared the heck out of me. Plus, i knew that he'll always be there no matter what. In the end, it didn't work out.

[Hime]

@ Luthiene: i got ur point... i knw dat wat matters most to us is that we'l gonna love the best way we know how... we dnt mind wat we wud reciv from them... its just that sometimes...its too scary to be the one hu loves more.... the hurt... the lost... it wud be several times even more for you...even tripled...

@ronna: yeap...very well said ron...sometimes....we rily dnt mind at all... as long as we knw the he/she loves us back... we dnt tend to measure it up.. but why are som ppl wants to be loved the way theyr giving it to their partners... like "i love you like this so love me like this also.."..... parang repay me the things iv done to you coz i deserve it coz iv done the same thing on you....wat kind of persons are they?? selfish..? insecure??

@josh_ryanne: :mrgreen: nyc advice to Luthienne.... reality check ...it really is happening out there... and to Luthienne... you rily hav some thots in there gurl..keep it up!.. you wer rily keen in notcing the words that iv wrote.. :mrgreen:

and lastly..

@Zahara: ....im proud that you rily stood up on ur principle and didnt let urself caught in the crap sayings of a partner like "...prove to me how much you love me..." ... its just not you.. u wer not ready and he cnt even be patient enuf for you to be one... so now that its over.. just put it on ur mind that it was never ur fault why it ended up... u just did the right thing ... its his lost... so il be glad to hear wat wud happen next in you life.. lots of luck on love!

[omad]

sO how bwt you?
unto everything thats iv said and asked....
have you ever felt this way too
i'l be glad to hear from all of you....

OT:

Hime, I'm just curious.. are you the same person as the dorksterdave "It's tHe DorK mAiStEr y'All!!!" blogger? 'coz I've come across his blog before and found "what you've said and asked" eerily familiar..

here then is the link to your.. err.. his blog.

here's the complete entry of Dave's blog:
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Tuesday, March 21, 2006
tHe mOlAr of tHe StOry.....

Well at least I have one exam left to worry. But it's the most difficult. But I wouldn't worry on that for now. I've got a lot of things on my mind right now and I wouldn't miss on pondering for the whole world.

Just came home from school and my best bud and I had a chat on things. For the past years, it's been pretty weird realizing how things have changed a lot with our lives. It's pretty amazing to note how things have got so complicated yet it's also nice to know how we've grown mature in seeing unusual predicaments in life. I just can't help but wonder what's next...I mean you'll never know really what a box of chocolates can give until you open them right?

I noticed before, we used to love the thought of having someone in our lives who can love us more than we love them. We always fantasized on a soul that can give us more than their lives in living. I mean, unconsciously we extend the utmost efforts to care for someone so that they too can do much for us, and twice even more. Nothing wrong with that, but in the end, if we don't know how to handle things, that kind of love is the source of "abuse" as I might harshly say. We may not admit but oftentimes when our significant other has manifestly showed us the love that we always wanted, inevitably we tend to ignore them in the long run. Is it because we knew of the fact that they will always be there for us or is it because too much of everything is always bad enough? It's like a wonderful painting on the wall. Once you find something so beautiful, you tend to get close to the beauty to the point of being inches away. What do you get now? Only a small picture of the whole beauty...You now slowly drift away from the thing that you loved and miss the beauty from afar. But wait till you back from the painting a few steps again when you first saw it. What do you get now? The entire picture that captured your heart and took your breathe away when you first saw it.

Human as I am, I did commit that mistake of making sure love was heavier on the other side. I remembered watching the film If Only, and I remembered what the character of Jennifer Love Hewitt wrote in her diary. It goes something like, "...they say in relationships, there will always be someone who loves more...and I hope it's not me..." Well, she couldn't have said it better. I admit, I used to wish for the same thing before. But now, I don't know why things turned the other way around... I missed the feeling when you could even hear your heart beat stronger just by seeing her. I missed the feeling of even smelling her scent despite being miles apart. I missed the feeling of imagining her soft hands being in my palm when we strolled. I missed the "uuuummmmmpppphhhhhh" (as bluets and I call it....). I don't know why I'm ready again to be the one on the heavier side of things. I know a lot of you could relate to the situation where you're entirely ready to give out a lot but no one is there to share it with...

I met someone just a month ago. Well, I thought she might be the one because it felt entirely different. I don't know if I was challenged (because she somehow ignored me...) or I had really something different for her. I still don't know... The sad thing is, as much as I wanted to be there and to get to know her, things just wouldn't allow me. First, there was so much emotional baggage on her that I felt like now is not the right time to be in the picture. Second, I know for a fact that she likes someone else. Lastly, I just can't help but be cautious on the emotional side that I might carelessly give out in a short span of time. Yes, I had to consider these factors. Am I being too analytical? Well, maybe I am but I have to to save myself of being hurt in the end or much less be really disappointed at things... But one thing really struck me was, I'm now willing to wait for the right time to get to know her more. I mean I could have moved on and find someone else better or someone who could very well entertain me. I just don't know what she has that really caught my attention...

So what do I really feel right now? Lonely? Well not entirely... Exhausted? Not really... Hoping? Very much for the right time to come if the whole universe permits me... But I'm much more excited for the one who could sweep me off my feet again... It could be her or someone else new...All I know is, I knew she's out there and all I can do is wait...

Sorry I had to speak my mind out so loud...I'm just hoping people could hope for the best out of my longing heart... Thank you very much for dropping by and taking time to read...If you have thoughts that you want to share, please don't hesitate to leave a message at the shoutbox...'Till then, have a nice day peeps! Ciao!
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