HELP I got "too close" with the girl I like!

[werty]

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long story short, i have this girl that i like. she also somhow likes me. but lets just say that we are in a situation where in we are still getting to know more about each other. and have been sharing almost anything about ourselves at this point.

last night as usual we had a walk and talk thing since her place is just near where i walk.she offered to let me see her apartment.when we got there we continued talking. she had this illness called "hyper-ventilate" (u can search this illness on net) and she keeps on telling me that it was ok to die,etc etc etc. she was trying to tell me that she was ready to die anythime this illness struck etc etc. of course i got worried soo much and kept on telling her do really just want to go and leave us who loves you? etc etc.

she kept on saying these lines(or somthing similar) and when it was time for me to go. i asked her to come near me. i then suddenly "hug" her whithout her consent while while i kept telling her how worried i was and was crying a bit hoping she would understand how i felt. seconds after she pushed me away and she stayed away saying that she is now afraid of how i look etc etc. i stood there also shocked of what i did and i see the face of a scared child infront of me. she then walked me towards the door coz she said she forgot she was to buy something. when we were outside, i went the opposite way she went.

a few minutes later, i called her. i said sorry for what i just did. and i understood why she got scared. i said i wasnt able to stop how i felt coz i was really worried(maybe it wasnt the right word to say). she said that it was ok but i know it wasnt....

now, i just want to know how up i am now. coz right now i dont know how to face her. i am a kind of person that stays aways from person who has hurt me, but this case, i hurt her i guess and i was ashamed of what i did. i know she is now sacred... but what can i do now? if she wont be talking to me, i dont have that courage to go near her again knowing i dont know how she is feeling....

T_T HELP!

[carmicael]

silly...

there's this girl.. and we got close... closer than normal friends, that is... been like that for months... then we started hanging out... then etc2x...

the problem is i got too attached... there was this time, last week when she went out with her friends for a fiesta. by 12am midnight, they still were in the fiesta... this is where i lost all sense of reason, i actually freaked out! ako jud siya gihangyo na mu-uli na siya sa ilaha. then, nag sige ko hangyo till nag 4am...

ni ana bitaw na siya

like you own me...

, nya wa na ni text.
waaah!!!

sayopa jud nako jud... what should i do!?

[br]Posted on: May 05, 2008, 05:13:37 AM_________________________________________________w akoko... i never saw that werty had the same thread as i had... peace;

hahaist;

[diem]

[color=navy]I guess what others can learn from werty's and carmicaeld's experiences is to never lose one's reason because that can lead to personal embarrassment. Girls are supposed to be the ones who are emotional, guys should strive to remain rational.

Guys, all you can do with what happened to you is to just charge it up as a learning experience, a stumble from which you got bruised but you should get up and walk on. In the face of what is called your life, it's just an episode or half-an-episode.

[carmicael]

I guess so.

Should I just leave it as it is? Bahala na dili mag-peace? I kept on saying sorry, even till now, wa jud mutubag.

[Toushirou]

[color=navy]I guess what others can learn from werty's and carmicaeld's experiences is to never lose one's reason because that can lead to personal embarrassment. Girls are supposed to be the ones who are emotional, guys should strive to remain rational.

Guys, all you can do with what happened to you is to just charge it up as a learning experience, a stumble from which you got bruised but you should get up and walk on. In the face of what is called your life, it's just an episode or half-an-episode.

I agree with you...

[diem]

[color=navy]@carmicaeld, alam mo naman na you can't force a person to do what that person doesn't want to do. If the young lady hasn't accepted your apology or made peace about this matter with you, doesn't that indicate she isn't really into you?

Consider if a girl really really likes a guy, should she make this much trouble for that guy?

Of course it may depend on how you're making your apology. If it's only through text messaging, that's somewhat unconvincing don't you think? Maybe you should make one last sincere effort at an apology, maybe treating her to her favorite food place or surprising her with her favorite sweet food.

[b]And if that doesn't still mend things between you, then again, that girl isn't really into you.

[SmartAssChic]

i think for now, from a girl's POV, leave it as it is lang usa. mawala ra na igkadugayan ang feeling of indifference. sometimes when us girls feel uncomfortable with the guy, we move away. so let it the issue die na lang a natural death. just dont force it na lang na contacton siya or even try to talk to her. samot na maglagot, samot na kulitan.

[carmicael]

[color=navy]@carmicaeld, alam mo naman na you can't force a person to do what that person doesn't want to do. If the young lady hasn't accepted your apology or made peace about this matter with you, doesn't that indicate she isn't really into you?

Consider if a girl really really likes a guy, should she make this much trouble for that guy?

Of course it may depend on how you're making your apology. If it's only through text messaging, that's somewhat unconvincing don't you think? Maybe you should make one last sincere effort at an apology, maybe treating her to her favorite food place or surprising her with her favorite sweet food.

[b]And if that doesn't still mend things between you, then again, that girl isn't really into you.

I think so. Murag di kasaligan ang text. Then I'll make one last effort, pero siguro, let time pass sa, a while. I couldn't care much sa karon, if she's into me or not, ang mas importante na ma-correct ako gibuhat na sayop. wah... tnx.

i think for now, from a girl's POV, leave it as it is lang usa. mawala ra na igkadugayan ang feeling of indifference. sometimes when us girls feel uncomfortable with the guy, we move away. so let it the issue die na lang a natural death. just dont force it na lang na contacton siya or even try to talk to her. samot na maglagot, samot na kulitan.

I see. Di nalang jud cguro ko mustorya, sa karon.

I think I just lost all rationality that time. A stupid move, I guess. It was too late before I had realized that.

The weakness, of the heart, our most formidable enemy.

[SmartAssChic]

yeah, honestly you were being too possessive and irrational. reason left you kay you were having feelings for her naman and you were jealous. pero wa man gud mo formal relationship, so when it comes to relations like that, you should know where your limitations are. that is what is hard with that kind of relationship. you always have to be careful and think before you act. kay sometimes, we get too caught up, we think we have the right, but we really don't. play it cool. dont think too much unless you have a formal relationship. kay sometimes, especially if people do that to us girls, limit us with what we wanna do, we are outraged.

[carmicael]

yeah, honestly you were being too possessive and irrational. reason left you kay you were having feelings for her naman and you were jealous. pero wa man gud mo formal relationship, so when it comes to relations like that, you should know where your limitations are. that is what is hard with that kind of relationship. you always have to be careful and think before you act. kay sometimes, we get too caught up, we think we have the right, but we really don't. play it cool. dont think too much unless you have a formal relationship. kay sometimes, especially if people do that to us girls, limit us with what we wanna do, we are outraged.

i see. just a bad move, i guess. hm, just so sad that it had to destroy what was already good. i guess being possesive was part of that, and being jealous was, too, but the main reason was i really was worried. and i should've not had asked her to go home. hm. i guess everyone makes mistakes, right?