First of all, disclaimer sa jud ko because this is not for me but someone very close to me. I am very much happily engaged, thank you.
(SHORT VERSION)
Someone close to me, a girl of 18 has been in love with her guy best friend for quite some time. They have a common friend, who, after the girl left for college, kay nagpaduding na sa lalake. Pila na ka months na hurt si girl until after the advice of her friends, gaconfess siya sa iya best friend sa iya feelings. Then, the guy says wala siya feelings for neither of the girls and begged girl #1 to remain his best friend without going there pero girl refused kay naa na lagi feelings involved, bisan sa iyaha ra nga part.
I don't know what to tell her anymore. She smiles now, saying na she can move on better kay naa na jud daw siya closure, kay kabalo na jud siya na wala jud diay feelings ang guy....
Did I give the right advice of telling her to confess? Yeah, I was one of those who pushed her to it. Now, I don't know.
Anyone who's had a similar experience? ANy advice that you can give to her?
(LONG VERSION)
Anyway, to the story, this someone, a young girl (let's call her Amy) of 18 fell in love with her guy best friend (call him Joe) since they were 16. Naa sila'y mga kilig2x moments, you know, the usual teenage stuff, librehan ug ice cream, tagaan siyag jacket, manimba sila dungan, iya pa na last dance sa debut niya....think Crazy Little Thing called love na kilig except best friends sila and therefore spend a lot of time together to the point na everyone teases Amy and Joe that something's up.
Then Amy has to go away from their hometown for college. And here comes another girl (let's call her Bru) na nagpaduding dayun sa guy. Ala friend lang kuno. Si Joe pud, spends more time with Bru....kay si Bru sigi panawag, manghi***** ug tennis, magadtu-an sa balay sa guy, to the point na pati parents sa guy nasuko na. Amy learned this from her friends na "shipper" kaayu sa ila and would want them to be together. Syemps, nasakitan si Amy, pero sigi japun siya try to communicate with the guy, and the guy never mentions anything about Bru. Joe though, notices na strained ila pagkabestfriend and keeps asking Amy what is wrong, and she never tells him.
Then, lately, Bru begins sending GM texts na she went out with Joe, blah blah blah, thank you daw, happy daw siya, posting sa wall ni Joe etc and Amy saw all this. Then, ni GM na pud si Bru, bragging that Joe had given her a rose for the Acquaintance party of their college (not much detail on this) and even posted the rose on facebook. Nadevastate si Amy and with the advice of her friends, she talked to Joe over the phone and confessed her feelings, including jealousy over Bru, everything.
Then, Joe delivers a bomb. He was just being himself. He felt nothing for Amy, nor for Bru. It was just his nature to be nice to the people he considers his closest friends. He cried. She cried. He wants to stay best friends "without going there" (actual quote) but Amy refused and said she can't be best friends with him any more. Not when there are feelings involved even though it's from her side only. He continued to beg. She refused because she was hurting too much esp because of the girl, Bru, whom Joe swore meant nothing to him. (Bru is older than Joe by the way).
Murag nobela no? Pero all this happened. The confrontation happened last night and I was there to witness it. I am hurting for Amy. I kept telling her sauna na maybe kato kilig moments nila really meant nothing to him and that she was placing too much meaning into it. I was right...
I don't know what to tell her anymore. She smiles now, saying na she can move on better kay naa na jud daw siya closure, kay kabalo na jud siya na wala jud diay feelings ang guy....
Did I give the right advice of telling her to confess? Yeah, I was one of those who pushed her to it. Now, I don't know.
Anyone who's had a similar experience? ANy advice that you can give to Amy?
In love with the best friend....OUCH!
Originally Posted by yandz
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