Example...your hubby/wife has debts and you keep paying it every month. Di ba, that's tantamount to tolerating them in their behavior? So how do you teach them a lesson? I read in the book that you have to be tough on them. Do not pay their bills 'coz that is their responsibility. Let them feel the consequences of their behavior so that they will slowly learn. And that will lead to change.
Im not just talking about money problems here. This is just a specific example.