sa mga nasa abroad ang parent/s tapok ta diri...

[k1ng]

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Hey guys!

My parents left since i was still 12, mrag 9 years n mi wla nagkita...

At that time our my youngest brother was still 8 years old, having no parent sa akoa siya magsunod2, and kung asa ko muadto, he wants to go too!

I love my brother so much pero na spoiled man gud nako ning akong manghod. Then naanad sad mi nga yaya lang among kauban, my brother is always dependent on me or sa yaya. My brother also had a private tutor for his whole life until 2nd year highschool (pag transfer nq diri sa Cebu last 2007 ni-apas sya) wla kaayo xa nka suway ug kanang fruits of his own labor kay spoon-fed kaayo siya before siya ni transfer diri... although prime school pud xa gkan sa Davao, kay tungod naa siyay tutor did2, pag-abot niya diri wa na siya naanad nga magto-on, maong hinay siya sa academics pero sa extra-curricular pirting actiba.

Then, one of his school mates told me nga, "you know what kuya si kaye ba kay sige lang ug mention sa imong name sa school, nya iya pa jud ka niyang sundog-sundugon". Then came a time nga ako ang gipa emcee sa isa ka event sa ilang school, after the event gi-duol ko sa ilang teacher saying "So you are the brother i heard so much about"... murag ako, "ha?".

I came to realize tungod kay wala among parents diri, ako ang ni-play sa role as his mother and father plus brother pa jud. Nasobra or mali ang akong pag mold niya as a person. There was this one time I told him nga you need to stop acting like this when we are in the public kay blah, blah, or aq xa gi-ingnan nga you know what ganiha mali imong gbuhat... Then iya kung gitubag nga ana man jud ka mali ra mna pirmi imong tan-awon, oo na ikaw na lageh perfect, ikaw pinalabi sa pamilya ako pirmi left-out....

This statement moved me. Dapat siguro nga ako i-stop n nq aqng pag sunod2 niya or teaching him manners di man ghpon nya dawaton. Maybe he should learn to take responsibilty for his own actions.

Karon nga mag college na xa, I've decide nga separate mi ug puy-an, para pud mug grow-up xa, and I suffice my worries into saying nga, cge experience nlng akong patudlu-on nya d man xa pato-o nako.

I'll end it here muna murag taas na kaayo.

To the parents out there, naa ba koy mali nga gbuhat or kulang? and teka, im not his parents ha, igsoon rami... and are my actions toward his behavior tama? tambagi ko please...

[Dynielle]

Wow ! you are such a wonderful brother ! as a parent, saludo ko nimo ! Just stay with your brother and be there all the times, kay like you too, very difficult to grow nga walay ginikanan nag.atiman. Plus, if successful pa gyud sa life that is one thing BOTH of you should be proud of !
After all, you have no one to rely on, right ? Dont be hard on him kay ingon ana cya, instead, mold him to be better person.

[k1ng]

thanks po sir..

[kishniquin]

nah bro same gud tah situation karon ako sad is my sister nuon highschool pani cya like sad sa imo bro naanad cya naa yaya mag sunod sa iya agi nya most of her concerns even if mka handle na cya i pasa gihapon niya nako. karon naa nako family akoa kuyog cya nako nag adjust cya na dili na cya ako priority somewhat nakasabot nah cya na independent cya anam2 kay dili naman nako cya ma atiman pirmi nya we always talk about things like mga problema musta iya skol and everything hasta iya lovelife so for me happy nako kay at least wala na kaayo probs nya understanding pud cya ron.i know concern ka nya pero dako naman sad cya so let him beh sa he learn man sad...basta constant communication lang nya yaw ipa agi og kasaba istorya lang gud...ok nana

[crysyani]

ayaw lang gyud sayangi ang ilang paninguha na mahatagan mo ug nindot na kinabuhi!

like me and my sister! puro nami licensed CPA and EcE

paninguha mong duha kay rewarding kaau na sa parents na maka human / successful sa studies!

sige na larga ako papa since i was 4 years old!

hangtud karon larga gihapon sya pero mo uli lang every month

22 years old nko!

[k1ng]

thanks guys... i was rereading this post murag wala nag jive ang title ug ang body.... senxa na, i made this out katong naglagot ko sa aqng manghod nga di pato-o... thanks guys... anyway, kung naa pa mo ika tambag please share para mas mo widen ang akong idea...