ex boyfriend who is still my friend

[glaico_coco]

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When I read your story it allows me to go back from my past life… I know it feels. All of them are correct that maybe it’s because you don’t have a boyfriend, or maybe his your comfort zone and your afraid to venture out of your comfort zone.

[writers_gon_write]

hi @LiveAndLaugh and welcome to the crazy world of istorya.net! ayaw lang jud pagbinuang aron malingaw ka ug tabangan ka sa mga tawo diri. hehe

anyway, I appreciate your opinion and I respect that. true. murag mabaw kaayo paminawn nga kang Piolo ug Toni ko naka.realize nga it is closure that we need. just to have all those questions answered. then I think things would be fine. believe me when I say I tried to talk him over about that pero wa xa ka.gets. iyang pasabot sa closure is the break up. oh my... as in hello! there's a huge difference! pero cge nalang. iyaha pud na.

OT: have fun in istorya!

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When I read your story it allows me to go back from my past life… I know it feels. All of them are correct that maybe it’s because you don’t have a boyfriend, or maybe his your comfort zone and your afraid to venture out of your comfort zone.

thank you. I find a bit of truth to everything you said. and I appreciate it. hopefully, i'll be out of that "comfort zone" soon.

[manoy15]

T.S thing is you shy away for those guys who showed interest towards you. But, first things first, there totally nothing wrong with you being friend with this so-called ex. Got couple of factors why you feel this way.

1. 3 months in a relationship is just a dot in a piece of paper. Your relationship with him was not even tested because both of you gave up so easily. Remember the walk-out scene?

2. Both of you did not really have that proper closure, i think both of you also want to talk things over, and more probably start things over again.

3. your ideals of being with a man is based on that guy and remember all of us are different you cant just say that the next should be this and that JUST LIKE my ex.

there are still probably 3 or more options i would like to point out, but i dont quite know you personally or the entire picture of the situation.

again nothing's wrong with you being friends with your ex. It only goes wrong when you attached feelings, and do some stuff that only lovers do, like probably ending up and sleeping in one bed. Pero, nothing is wrong pod if you'll ask him about the status of the relationship between you two, whether he'd like to have you back or just basically on a "friend-zone" state?

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T.S thing is you shy away for those guys who showed interest towards you. But, first things first, there totally nothing wrong with you being friend with this so-called ex. Got couple of factors why you feel this way.

1. 3 months in a relationship is just a dot in a piece of paper. Your relationship with him was not even tested because both of you gave up so easily. Remember the walk-out scene?

2. Both of you did not really have that proper closure, i think both of you also want to talk things over, and more probably start things over again.

3. your ideals of being with a man is based on that guy and remember all of us are different you cant just say that the next should be this and that JUST LIKE my ex.

there are still probably 3 or more options i would like to point out, but i dont quite know you personally or the entire picture of the situation.

again nothing's wrong with you being friends with your ex. It only goes wrong when you attached feelings, and do some stuff that only lovers do, like probably ending up and sleeping in one bed. Pero, nothing is wrong pod if you'll ask him about the status of the relationship between you two, whether he'd like to have you back or just basically on a "friend-zone" state?

[LiveAndLaugh]

[QUOTE=writers_gon_write;16086881]hi @LiveAndLaugh and welcome to the crazy world of istorya.net! ayaw lang jud pagbinuang aron malingaw ka ug tabangan ka sa mga tawo diri. hehe

anyway, I appreciate your opinion and I respect that. true. murag mabaw kaayo paminawn nga kang Piolo ug Toni ko naka.realize nga it is closure that we need. just to have all those questions answered. then I think things would be fine. believe me when I say I tried to talk him over about that pero wa xa ka.gets. iyang pasabot sa closure is the break up. oh my... as in hello! there's a huge difference! pero cge nalang. iyaha pud na.

OT: have fun in istorya!

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Imu pa man sguro gipalikoliko ang istorya gud.. ^_^.. Kaming mga laki man gud usahay dili mi kagets sa inyo buot ipasabot.. ^_^ Why not tell him straight nga ganahan ka unta mahibaw sa mga rasones nganu ug kalit lang man nahitabo ang inyo panagbuwag..ug nganu man nga nag-end up mo nga ingon ato... nganu man wa na ninyo ma********* balik ang inyo problema ...etc etc etc.. ana lang...

Ug kung ako pa sa imoha.. yaw na sge kuyog nya kay basin nya mahibaw-an sa iya uyab.. sakit sad pra nya dba? ^_^... Maski imoha pure friendship ra na sa guy but d mn kalikayan nga mka-think ug lain ang gf nya...


Ako pa nmu... try to open your door to someone else oi.. let him go... Naa man mi dri nga singles nagpaabot nmu.. hahaha joke..

Mao lang na..

[writers_gon_write]

@manoy15 thank you so much.

1. yes. we gave up so easily. i know. and we can't take it back anymore. at some point i even thought that our friendship now is like a "peace offering" of some sort. but we know we can't take it back. we have accepted that years ago.

2. probably talk things over. and start over again. separately.

3. oh gosh. i don't like that "just like my ex" ideal of a man. swear. trust me on that one.

feel free to PM me your "3 or more" opinions. trust me (and i got other istoryans to vouch for me), i take it and i appreciate it. that's why i posted this because i want to listen to what other people think. it's a bit new to me so i'm in doubt if i'm doing and feeling the right thing. although i admit i really sound defensive at times, but i need to do that to also defend myself and my interests. bisan na we're anonymous here and we barely know each other, but know that when i write replies and when i read responses, it seems to me like talking to friends. so feel free to PM.

P.S.
probably the feeling that i attach is jealousy - that kind where i wonder "how come he already got 3 girlfriends after me and i got none after him?". HAHA that kind of feeling. i hate it. but anyway, wala anang "stuff that lovers do" oi. swear. i never wanted to admit that here but since i feel defensive again... i haven't even been kissed yet! swear! that's why na offend ko atong usa ka comment about "occasional chuva" kay... you know... if you guys know me personally, you can never say that. but then again, you don't, so i can't do anything if you guys thing of dirty thoughts. but really, no. no way i'm gonna do anything like that. kung magkauban mi, kaon... storya2... mao ra jud na. kumusta ang life, work, etc. mangumusta sa isig ka barkada kay ka-batch ra baya mi so daghan jud mig mga common friends. just that. like what we do with our friends gud.

[writers_gon_write]

your ending made me laugh, @LiveAndLaugh... my door is wide open actually. it's the singles out there who got this weird perception of being an attractive woman that they probably not consider that door that has been wide open. HAHA not that i'm not attractive. LOL.

anyway, i have tried to ask that from him pero i don't know what holds him back. someday, i guess, we'll get there. kung unsa man gani na imong gi-asterisk dira, di jud ko ka gets og ingana so sorry... as in pasensya. anyway, with the girlfriend, wala pa man sad mi naka-hangout since he had a girlfriend. like i said, di na siya mupansin og laing tawo basta naay uyab. so sa laktud nga pagkasulti, sa pagkakaron, PUSH IGNORE BUTTON ko niya. pero ok lang. i got that pattern from him years ago. bisan iyang bestfriend sige na pangluod niya kay kalimtan nalang siya. ako nalang pud gi-ingnan iyang bestfriend nga sabton nalang kay in love og pamati.

[LiveAndLaugh]

your ending made me laugh, @LiveAndLaugh... my door is wide open actually. it's the singles out there who got this weird perception of being an attractive woman that they probably not consider that door that has been wide open. HAHA not that i'm not attractive. LOL.

anyway, i have tried to ask that from him pero i don't know what holds him back. someday, i guess, we'll get there. kung unsa man gani na imong gi-asterisk dira, di jud ko ka gets og ingana so sorry... as in pasensya. anyway, with the girlfriend, wala pa man sad mi naka-hangout since he had a girlfriend. like i said, di na siya mupansin og laing tawo basta naay uyab. so sa laktud nga pagkasulti, sa pagkakaron, PUSH IGNORE BUTTON ko niya. pero ok lang. i got that pattern from him years ago. bisan iyang bestfriend sige na pangluod niya kay kalimtan nalang siya. ako nalang pud gi-ingnan iyang bestfriend nga sabton nalang kay in love og pamati.

Kantahi na lang usa na ug Eternal Flame T.S. ..

"CLOSURE eyes give me your hand darling, do you feel my heart beating.................la la la la la do u feel the same.. ^_~


ug ang naasterisk dha nga word dili ako nag asterisk ana.. taboo siguro dri sa forum ang word nga "ace-tor-ya-he".....

Anyway naJealous lng man diay ka TS kay daghan nag nauyab si Guy..nya ikaw wala pa.. hehehe mura man ug imu giadmit nga siya nakamove-on na ikaw wala pa... ^_^ soweee.. mao na ako pagka-understand.. peace tau.. ^_^

Ug basi wide open ang imu door pero naa sai gaatang diha sa imo pweltahan nga duha ka (Rottwayler),(Rothwieler) (Ruthwhiler)....... ay dakung iro na lng oi..

[writers_gon_write]

hala! heavily ang ka-corny ha! haha peace, @LiveAndLaugh thanks for the PM by the way.

yes, naa juy nag-atang sa door. daghan. aside from my father and brother and nephew, I got more than a dozen of over protective friends. hehe

[Verbal]

@Verbal aaah... you mean standards... i do have standards. and maybe it's a pretty steep climb. but if i look at those standards, makapangutana jud ko nganong nagkakami sa akong ex. also, did i say "equal tanan"? oh my... i think i didn't. but if i did, i take it back. LOL but then again why would i go for someone who is worse than him? it's like i never learn from mistakes or something... we do have standards... we set them. we can't really settle for less, can we? i don't know lang pud. someone asked me about my standards in another thread and they just laughed how it's a bit too much. too much na diay nang you're looking for a guy who loves to read and who can write well? and loves to travel? i always believe i'm not being too realistic but i'm not losing hope either.

noted ako man na imo gi describe. hehehe. i think i need to visit this other thread you're talking about, hmmm barkada man siguro mo sa akong idol diri sa office ma'am kay murag pareha jud mo personality. how about we help each other out? maybe some tips. hahaha. OT na kaayo ni ako post da. please bear with me nalang hihihih.

going back, you said your ex had several relationships after yours and you haven't had any since (ayaw kalisang ana oi) maybe part of the reason is that you're deeply passionate about fate? how about give fate a day off and start going out and actually meet people. it don't matter who, what's important is that you enjoy and have a good time. let the QA dept of your brain worry about standards later pero make sure functional gihapon ang safety dept. ha. hehehe

[jyanmperez]

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