This thread is really interesting, with this thread basic and complex problem in a relationship could be solve or not. Three words, Understanding, Acceptance and Communication.
I've have been to a 5-year relationship, not that long. I may not have the experience that a 2-year relationship 'coz they might had the worst experience that I had. Or the length wouldn't matter but as long as you've learn something from your relationship and strive to be better on it.
When we enter into a relationship, we usually experience the best part of the first few months or years (for some, baliktad). Others may have understood each other's differences. But some missed to accept it.
Great example, 1- Because your girlfriend is not good in bed.So why suffer when you can have great orgasms with other girls?lol.
- This might be an issue for other guys, when its not love they feel but lust. But if it is love, this shouldn't be an issue. HOWEVER, if it is love and if the guy thinks or feels that way still? There should another reason why? Now, girls will usually misunderstood or miss this opportunity for the relationship to improve.
Remember always, "Every difficulty is always an opportunity in disguise" cliche nani cya pero this is always proven to be true business wise and personal life.
To continue, it is not ALWAYS nga kung kinsa magbinoang cya ang sad-an. If your gf/bf did something wrong that might cause to shake your relationship.
Maybe you should also try ask yourself, was there something that I did that may have cause him to do such? Now think ...
Like our bosses in the office, they usually blame and hit those people who made mistakes? A good boss would rather said, that what could have I done to make my team not do that.
Why ask yourself? Because YOU are part of the relationship. YOU are the 50% of the relationship. YOU are responsible of the relationship. Now, if you want to get the relationship working, ask yourself now.
If you can't determine it yourself na you might be the cause? Then ask him/her the question why? Then Understand, if necessary and if you want to make your relationship to get going and healthy.
Acceptance, there are who understands but do not wish/want to accept, that's fine they have the power of choice.
Now, this is a decision to be made by both partners. If others would accept and move on, the better, where loyalty and commitment comes in.
But most importantly, if it comes out na by root-cause-analysis nga you might be the cause of the problem, you should learn to accept it. Or kung imong partner sad ang sad-an, you guys need to decide either to accept and move on or to stop it the soonest time, if it is so, nga mo stop mo. One thing is for sure, one of you do not understand and cannot accept your differences.
After acceptance, now comes in the action plans what to do with your differences. Make sure you will commit to improve your relationships, where the most important, Communication.
I won't duel so much on this, why Because best relationships worked so well and even written on books, even became legends only snail mail, as their only way of communication.
But now? SMS, Email, Facebook, twitter, Landlines, Video call, Geo-locator, Find my iPone (daghan nag-away ani), istorya.net, skype, google talk, yahoo messenger, AOL, etc......
There might some other ways that will apply that I may not have mentioned. But I live with these ways and somehow its working.
pool laau cge balik2 TS..
good idea nga e coach.... pero lahi ra gyud ang maka learn the hard way kay e tanum sa huna2x.... unya usa pud, kung ikaw mag tudlo sayop pud aw pareho mo sayop.....
labing sakto ana mag storya mo. pila raman pag paminaw sa gibati sa imo gf og pag explekar sa imo gibati
but then again
it takes two to tango..... if di mag work pag bobot nalang mo naa pa pakapin gold2x nga earings hahahahaha
lisud man gyud ning in a relationship kay daghan nuon tintal muabot sa kinabuhi.
nganu man sad gud ning *** mura ma'g sud-an nga dili pwede isa ra ka putahe. paeta... pero normal raman gyud kay ang babae makakita man gihapon og ganahan sila sa usa ka tao pero pag-abot sa lalaki nga sitwasyon, makagusto pero ang uban di gyud kacontrol sa pagbati. mutukar gyud usahay ang sakit sa iro.
magpaka hilom lang ko sud aning kutay...
basa basa lang
TRUE! haha
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