Para sa mga guys nga unfaithful sa ila gurls

[Soul_Captive]

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@gARN
I guess you'll never understand it unless you're there..It was the first time I fell really hard, and somehow, there was always the desire to make things work between us because I wanted to be with him..But it did not, and after some time, I was able to accept that..To choose between suffering and enjoying, no one would opt for something negative, of course..But, in my specific experience, the fun times I had with him were worth the times I had to suffer..And yes, you have to sometimes endure the agony to find that one good reason to let go..Experience, after all, is the best teacher..

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@garn: bitaw, d nalng ko magminyo kung mao nang kalakiha,hehe... d man gud, kung tarong ang laki kay dli man jud na xa maminuang ug babae, dala respito lang pd ba sa mga babae nga naa pd bya mi feelings ug dili lang butang nga pwd ra ilis-ilisan ug colectahon... ang ako lang kung tarung man ang laki nga naglove sa babae d na xa mangita pa ug laing babae nga uyabon, tarong ba d i nang laki nga daghag uyab?? unsa may nakatarung ana? iyang huna2x palang daan d na gani tarung.. ngita lang jud ug gubot ug problema..hehe.. lahi man sad siguro na imong pasabot nga "was" unfaithful, kay kana nakatilaw nana ug gaba,hehe.. naka-realize na cguro na sa iyang mga sayop, pero kani akong pasabot kay naa pa sa sitwasyon nga nagduha2x ug nagduwa2x ug mga babae.. maong d pa jud angay kasaligan, murag hilaw pa, wa pa mahinog, immature pa kaayo kay iya rang gusto ang iyang gi-huna2x..

..pero mao lagi na, once a cheater will always be a cheater! unless kung natagam na sa iyang kalaki...

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...limit ra kaayo nga ang gurl maoy unfaithful, kasagaran ana kay mga wa sad na silay klaro nga pagkababae... ngita ra ug lingaw... tsk tsk!

[cinder_ella]

d guy am wid ryt now is unfaithful to his gf.....i wont judge him coz he's wid me....as long as they're not yet married there still a reason for us to stay...bein with him and knwing he has a gf doesnt stop me from liking him...yeah, i still dont love him but i like him....i knw in d end he will choose the gurl over me but since im happy with him ryt now, dats all that matters....sumtyms we tend to judge pipol not knwing der tru rizons of doing these things...we tend to b proud of ourselves that we are this straight and sumtyms convince ourselves we cud never b unfaithful....but life is so complex and so with love. u wouldnt and will never knw what will happen in the future....we tend to say bad things about those pipol who are being unfair, and trying to be just but who knws it will happen to you too....

iv bin so good and everything that u cud posibly describe me as good ..am on it....but does being with a guy who has a gf makes me sooooo bad? i dnt think so.

[Soul_Captive]

@cinder_ella
Sis, rest assured that you are not alone..I'm not encouraging what you are doing because to some degree, it is still cheating, but I do understand where you are coming from for I was once there..However, I bet to disagree on the fact that you are not yet inlove with him, for you would not be in that position unless you care deeply for the person and want to be with him..
Pareho jd ta og sitwasyon sis, and honestly, I did not care about his gf then..I stayed with him because I was happy and I did not care about what other people had to say..Until, I started feeling the pain and it was more than I could take..That's when I let go..
Again, this is not to encourage you..I just want you to know that someone understands how you feel right now..We don't know what the future brings, so if that is what makes you happy now, then go for it..And if people condemn you, you can be assured that all their bad words are not directed to you alone..There are others who are like you..Apil ko ana..And more likely than not, naa pay daghan diha sa kilid2 na nghilom2 lang..

[cinder_ella]

@soul

sis, thanks bwt ur reply.

mayb am just confuse ryt nw if i do love him....iv had have past relationships wen i was faithful but same pain has been given to me....its not that i wanted to hurt the gf of this boylet i have ryt nw but it just so happen....i used to judge pipol nga mangilog ug dili ilaha but now i fully understand that der are certain things in life that u have to be redi about....its either ikaw ang mailogan or ikaw ang mangilog...but i was thinking, we are the ones making our choice....ds s the choice iv made....if ders such thing as karma...well then everybody shud b getting it pero sa lahilahi nga paraan...

[jepogz]

kanang.. nanu naa man mga ikal nga bisan committed na mangita pajud lain.. mangita sila lain pero di sila ka-biya sa ila present gf.. murag ila latng gane i=sabotage ang new gurl (meaning kato dili niya gf) nga understand lang sah nako ron kai ngita lang ko bikil pero naabot nalang pila ka years wa gyapon xa biya sa ia gf jud pero cge gyapon cla sa ia oder gurl.. and mu-effort sad xa nila duha...ang difference lang kai ang true gf la kabaw nga ia bf naai lain and katong 2nd gurl ofkors kbaw bwt sa guy and ang gurl sa ia guy (gets?) nya, nanu naman in-ana?? sai mga reasons why mahitabo na??

Nice questions Miss Jane...i thnk nature na jd na mostly sa mga laki...they can't live having only 1 girl..mangaliwa mn gani nang minyo kana pa kahang uyab pa??...kung married na gani d jud ko moagree ana..Pro kung uyab pa, wa jd ky mahimo anah..Until we're not yet married, collect and collect jd ta and then select...kumbaga magtagbaw tas atong pgka single ba..ky kung kamo jud ang destined nga mgkadayon, kamo mn jud...enjoy life while we're still young and free..and spread humanity...that's what why we're here for,dba??hehehe

[Soul_Captive]

@cinder_ella
No prob sis..
Somehow, pareho2 ta og line of thinking..well,it's probably coz of the similarity sa situation..Just be ready for anything considering na daghan jd possible mahitabo and daghan possible mo-react sa relationship na naa ka karon..

[cinder_ella]

@soul

i understand sis....some will condemn me but those who have been there will surely understand...

i knw this will end soon....and i end up hurting myself....

i have known of so many that have undergone same situation, der r some who lasted and they were happy but most of them got hurt and were unhappy.....

watever it takes i knw am hapi with wat am doing ryt now.....il keep my fingers crossed!

[makathy]

^^i've had my share of being a 3rd party in a relationship too.. i just didn't know that i was a 3rd party though.. damn! some guys just can't be trusted..

i just thought that he's just not ready to commit coz that's was what he always said.. but the truth is.. he has a girlfriend of 5 years.. long-distance lng coz she's studying in manila by that time..

what really got me angry is that his whole barkada, who knew everything, didn't have the guts to tell me.. it took more than a year before the gf of his bestfriend told me that he had a gf.. god! i've wasted a year going out w/ a good for nothing guy..

he told me he didn't want to give me up.. but he didn't want his relationship of 5 years to go to waste either.. i'm like, what?! murag lapad mata na laki oi.. my answer to him is a big slap on the face.. ha!

i decided i can't be w/ a man like this.. if he can cheat w/ his gf of 5 years.. then he can do it to me too.. so i just let him go.. and moved on..

it's been a year since that.. now he's single again.. i don't even know if his gf ever found out bout us.. frankly, i just don't care.. now his texting me again.. pabatchag nman.. what a loser! haha..