Did I Marry the Right Person?

[bitoy101]

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how i wish my wife have read this before she left me just this morning.
my wife went to bantayan 2 weeks ago with another man, after nako nasakpan, nangayo siya ug pasaylo
and told me that she love me so much and she would do anything to make our marriage work but after two days lang, gi bawi niya iya gisulti and dili napud daw ko niya love.

[soft]

how i wish my wife have read this before she left me just this morning.
my wife went to bantayan 2 weeks ago with another man, after nako nasakpan, nangayo siya ug pasaylo
and told me that she love me so much and she would do anything to make our marriage work but after two days lang, gi bawi niya iya gisulti and dili napud daw ko niya love.

ur not alone in this dilemma bitoy101 daghan ta...il include you in my prayers...be strong and pray lang jud thers a light at the end of a dark tunnel...wow..cant beliv im saying this...i may not be a good advicer but i am a good listener...

[bitoy101]

thanks soft! we really are the same. although she's not with her kabit or even that she denied that she has a kabit,
still i see no point of leaving your family if you haven't found somebody else in your life.
nasakpan lang nako cya being with somebody sa bantayan but she denies having any relationship with that guy.

[bitoy101]

double post. sorry

[cebu1029]

thanks soft! we really are the same. although she's not with her kabit or even that she denied that she has a kabit,
still i see no point of leaving your family if you haven't found somebody else in your life.
nasakpan lang nako cya being with somebody sa bantayan but she denies having any relationship with that guy.

talk about her infidelity first. do you have kids?

[wackowackykathy]

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.


SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

I LIKE THIS PART!

[kimleeKINO_choi]

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?"

In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighingon your mind.


Here's the answer.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the imagery of that _expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along And happened TO YOU.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.


But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.


I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.


SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.


Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.


Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... not just a feeling

these are the striking lines. nice one TS!

[radiostar]

nice read right here...

i'm getting married around 4 days from now, and i'm having second thoughts
normally i shrug it off every time when my wife to be compares me with her ex
na dile ko this and that and ganahan siya maparehas ko sa iyang ex which is completely different... iam who iam

then lahi pud iyang ex pero mas ganahan daw siya maparehas ko sa iyang ex which is a sad thing for me...

this hurts me soo bad emotionally and physically... pero ako ra ipa labay kay i'm thinking sa future sa among relationship and for our baby...

she always says na nag mahay siya ngano iya gibuwagan iyang ex then ni stay siya nako... should I continue this relationship?

na handa na tanan para sa wedding, medyo dako dako na ang expenses... ambot lang wala ko kasabot unsa ako buhaton

[misnoodle]

nice read right here...

i'm getting married around 4 days from now, and i'm having second thoughts
normally i shrug it off every time when my wife to be compares me with her ex
na dile ko this and that and ganahan siya maparehas ko sa iyang ex which is completely different... iam who iam

then lahi pud iyang ex pero mas ganahan daw siya maparehas ko sa iyang ex which is a sad thing for me...

this hurts me soo bad emotionally and physically... pero ako ra ipa labay kay i'm thinking sa future sa among relationship and for our baby...

she always says na nag mahay siya ngano iya gibuwagan iyang ex then ni stay siya nako... should I continue this relationship?

na handa na tanan para sa wedding, medyo dako dako na ang expenses... ambot lang wala ko kasabot unsa ako buhaton

oh my gaaawwwddd!
you need to think it over bro.. does she really love you?
if you are getting married na, why man e compare pa ka sa iya ex?
kalain sad ana oi..

[radiostar]

oh my gaaawwwddd!
you need to think it over bro.. does she really love you?
if you are getting married na, why man e compare pa ka sa iya ex?
kalain sad ana oi..

kay iyang ex kay perfect daw para niya... nya think niya daw mas happy pa siya karon sa iyang ex...
6 years man gud sila...

ako siya pirme pasabot a lahi akong attitude og lahi pud iyang ex, bisan sa tone sa ako voice ganahan niya e change wala nako kasabot niya...

ana pajud siya the only thing nag pa stay niya nako kay tungod sa baby...

hopefully na.ay maka tambag nako unsay buhaton