How do you forget a betrayal?

[johari]

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it is really hard to forget, my bf cheated at me once, i found it out right away (wrong snd txt msg), ask him about it and even denied it 3 times (mura san pedro 3 times gi deny si jesus), i decided na magbuwag na lang mi coz cge cya ask ug sorry nya cge gihapon, laliman ka ug motxt pa nko kay mananghid nga motawag sa girl?baga kau ug nawng!

ang dugay malimtan is the memories that you had together, we've been together for almost 2 years na but still nagbuwag mi, until now i can still remember some of our good times together, what i did was to make myself busy, its all in our minds man sad ba nga dli nato makalimtan, eventually time will really help you heal the wounds

we met the other day sa sm, bati na kau cya ug nawng ug wla pa jud nakagraduate ug college, i just smiled at him then walk away...

[Jpacs29]

@johari

putli ug tudlo sis para di na ka dial paramotawag sa lain girl....

bitaw oist.... forgive and forget? hayyyy kung inana lang ta kadali mag forgive and forget no?

[miss tapya]

the best way is to move on.... dont wallow on that sadness..afterall there were still too many fishes in the sea.. cry like a river and then ... after that ..try to find new life...

[Pixie77]

I don't think you can ever really forget a betrayal especially if you have loved and trusted that someone.... but you can MOVE ON and learn from the experience

[ejfunk]

...if you cant forget the betrayal... learn the art of letting go! *wink*wink*

[shy_cha2x]

... i can forgive but i think i can never forget! memory in na jud unless ma amnesia! hehehe

u knw wat?? my X betrayed me for having sumone ""*&!#@"" atay kau uy..ambot uy...in u knw wat?? 4 all the things he'd done to me..bsan kuhaun pa cguro akng otuk...d jd nko cya mkalimtam...its up to u mana kng u wnt to 4get her or not..dnt mind her..hav fun...well not all advice works..but at least u try...dbahÂ* :mrgreen:

[mango]

you move on. don't give her/him the satisfaction of knowing you're greatly affected. be thankful- this will give you another chance to find someone better and worthy of your love.

[nunobone]

you cant forget a betrayal....

future events(whatever that is) will always remind you of that nightmare. ^_^
and imagine meeting her/him again, and you'll be like "ohhh sh*t, this is the a-hole/b*tch who cheated on me....."

peru as what they always say... move on..... or naa effective na way, join a religious group! diba tudloan ka nila unsaon pag-forget(in biblical way)..

[Shamnaraine]

It's hard to forget somebody you love butÂ* betrayal is not an excuse for relationship. I think everybody deserves a second chance but if if he/she will do it again, learn to let go.Â* YOu just can't live with somebodyÂ* that doesn't deserve your time and Im sure you can find somebody that isÂ* better. It takes time to heal everything but it's worth after all. Cheating is very unacceptable behavior. But only one thing, discuss the issue before letting goÂ* and that will give you a peace of mind and eventually,Â* you slowly forget about him/her.

I've been in this shoes but I'll let him go. I'll hope the best for you!

[omad]

different solutions for different types of people in this scenario.

betrayal in a BF/GF relationship:

if your partner betrays you, and you're the type of person who dwells on the past, don't easily forget, holds grudges and feels down and out everytime you remember a specific situation then it's better if you break up with that person 'coz there's no future for both of you. "no future", meaning you will never forget and find peace in yourself and won't forgive your partner thus putting the relationship on the edge everytime. there's never gonna be harmony in your relationship so much more if you go ahead and get married. you will never trust him/her ever if you're the type who can't forgive and forget.

if your partner betrays you, and you're the type of person who has the ability to easily forgive and forget, then good for you. you're a rare breed and you're the exact prototype that everyone's been looking for. but please know your limitations, your partner may abuse your God given talent and continues to betray, cheat and be unfaithful to you. you should also know when to say enough is enough.

if you're the type of person who doesn't belong to both categories then you may try to let time heal your wounds and let it help you search the real you. experiences usually help shape your personality, make you more mature, makes you stronger emotionally as a person. learn from it 'coz it'll come in handy in the years to come. but remember, if there's happiness, sadness and pain lurks behind it like a shadow. it's your life, it's your decision to make but be sure to stand by it no matter what the outcome.

I'm neither a psychiatrist nor a relationship expert.
these are just my opinions and point of view.
take it for what it's worth.