bana, ni-resign nga wa nagsaba

[rockyroad]

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Reality bites TS, lets face it TS you'll be the breadwinner for the rest of your lives considering sa pattern sa imong husband nga dili mag dugay sa work. Sooner in the future you'll out grow your husband emotionally and psychologically.

ay pasabta ko.. sounds like a bad sign sugod na gani pagka detached..

[cardo]

It'll take a lot of time if I'll go into details...hehe...e short cut nalang nako TS medyo kuwang siya og determination to achieve success, kung dili tapulan, mo assume na mas maayo pa sila sa ila boss or superiors mao na mo-ingon na mag start nalang og business, besides ing-ani naman iyang attitude before you met him. Once maka encouner og pressure, sibat dayon especially sa situation ninyo now. I know coz I'm guilty of some...hehe...pero TS its really up to u if he's not going to open up just be strong TS. goodluck

[st.anger]

secret moves man ang bana... hehehe

[azaleayve]

kaluoy...ask sa siya TS, mas nindot man na magtok mo..pero dapat imo usa i-kalma imo self then if pwede ipraktis imo self unsai imo isulti... kanang ready naka makigtok and ready to accept whatever iya isulti as long as tinuod... then maybe imo githink against sa iya kay dili tinuod...basin ra pud

[rockyroad]

It'll take a lot of time if I'll go into details...hehe...e short cut nalang nako TS medyo kuwang siya og determination to achieve success, kung dili tapulan, mo assume na mas maayo pa sila sa ila boss or superiors mao na mo-ingon na mag start nalang og business, besides ing-ani naman iyang attitude before you met him. Once maka encouner og pressure, sibat dayon especially sa situation ninyo now. I know coz I'm guilty of some...hehe...pero TS its really up to u if he's not going to open up just be strong TS. goodluck

kuwang gyud cyag drive ug determination ug taas sad ug bilib sa iya kaugalingon. libog ko, one says people like him have low self-esteem, mura pud tinuod but on the other hand, sobraan sad.. too proud to admit his mistakes. have you changed cardo? dli bya gyud lalim for your other half to carry the burden. if there is some way he could tell me unsaon nako pagdala, i would do it if only nga magbuhat sad cya sa iya part..!

[rockyroad]

secret moves man ang bana... hehehe

the moves nga sakspan. lol. ikatawa ko nalang.

kaluoy...ask sa siya TS, mas nindot man na magtok mo..pero dapat imo usa i-kalma imo self then if pwede ipraktis imo self unsai imo isulti... kanang ready naka makigtok and ready to accept whatever iya isulti as long as tinuod... then maybe imo githink against sa iya kay dili tinuod...basin ra pud

nag praktis na gani ko unsaon pag organize sa ako mga thoughts. even wrote several blogs saved as drafts dedicated to him about sa unsay akng na-feel ani nga panghitabo..it helps if only to keep my sanity! ako prob nlng unsaon pag sulti in words and not in writing.

[rockyroad]

^^hahaha bayota

simang kau ug reaction ay. hehehe! tinuod bya to nga pagka advise..

[Klave]

katawa lng ko sa ugly hag. your words are inspiring, but sad at the same time. he is good with the kids, tapulan gamay pero nakat-on na sad....

It is nice nga naay mu-compensate sa disability sa imong husband mu-provide.
Imong husband is simply spoiled like my father was, and his father as well. (so grabe kapareho ang situation)
And same gyud sad ta, that mapiksan tawon mi ginagmay sa akong mga uncles and aunties.

Unlike you nga strong willed, my mother is super submissive, so dili gyud mupalag sa unsay buhaton sa akong papa.
Sa among case, we were simply burying ourselves in debt, transfering from one credit account to another.
We had a house before karon wala na, rent na lang, my father is at the peak of his self-destruction.
This simply makes it very hard for me to help my parents, because mahadlok ko manganad.

More than changing him, you really brought out the best in him, maayo gyud nga nahuman siya og college.
It keeps oppurtunities open, and when he gets tired of being lazy, he can get himself back up.
Lisud gyud nuon ron nga i-push nimo siya, kay naa man siyay fallback.
One thing you can do is to push yourself harder, excel at what your are doing. Basically, be an example.
You don't need to expect if he will change, because I think you still have ambitions in life.
You also have the ample means of pursuing them, bata pa man diay ka.

My parents have been together for 27 years.
Wala gyud gihapoy klarong means of income akong papa, magpaluto pa sa iyang mama, para ipakaon sa balay.

Personally, there was a time I hated him, but I find this a blessing, if I hadn't hated him I would have been the same as him.
Naka-abot man ko sa time gud nga grabe na gyud kaayo mi kaluoy, so it made learn how to work or go survival mode.
To the point nga wala nay kan-on pero thankful ko nahitabo to nako maski lisud gyud kaayo.
Watching them as a grow up I made them as examples of what I should not be. So ok na ko ron og life.

[rockyroad]

@Klave i can just imagine unsa nga kalisud imo na go through. thankful kau ko nga responsable ako papa, although dli mi pampered materially, we know how to handle our finances. oo, daghan pud cyag positive traits nga wala nako.. like maau kau mu-PR and maayo makig lingaw2 ug bata. that's why i thought he was a good father figure. i just didnt know nga dli diay cya maayo bsta money aspect na ug mga major responsibilities

kudos sa imo parents, your mom especially nga naka agwanta sa imo papa. late 20s naman mi but i feel nga ikaw mas manghud gyud ka namo but you sound wiser beyond your years. so pakpak sa imo upbringing, na mature gyud kag huna2.

diay, 1 week na cyang resigned and still "going to work." pero kahibaw ko nag business mode to kay nahalinan ug products... ang ako lang bah, ang among yaya muhawa nasad unya back to absent mode nasad ko ani sa opisina kay walay mubantay! huhuhu! ako gi ingnan nga mu resign nlng jud ko unya gipugngan pa ko gamay pero ni give in ra pud, pa ana dayon "ikaw kung mao imong gusto, cge" or something to that effect. ako bitaw ingnan, d nako ni gusto pero wa na may lain mubantay. mao na pagtarong sa imo trabaho. ahhh wala na ni reply. toink..share lang kay hapit nako mutug-an niya!!

[Klave]

@rockyroad

There was a research nga naa daw na sa genes ang tapolan, which is true for my case.
Then partnered with a large ego (taas og paglantaw sa kaugalingon) lisud gyud kaayo sa tanan.
Mura lang ko og na-trauma sa among gi-agian, ngadto nako gibuy-an ang ego.
I accepted the fact nga "poor" na mi, and went survival mode.
Magtinapolan man gihapon ko but wala pa ko kasuway nga walay work for the past 6 years.

Lisud gyud kaayo sa imong case nga bata pa imong mga anak, dili gyud mabiyaan.
Pero I think you should be telling him na, just make sure you don't make him feel pressured.
Tingali maguba nya iyahang rhythm, nakahalin na baya siya og products.
Like I said, adto nalang gyud pamawi sa imong kids, be supportive to them without spoiling them.
Lisud raba ang bata nga feeling dato na unya spoiled pa gyud.
Be a little transparent to them about finances without scaring them.