What if your loved one is a Pathological Liar? How will you help him/her?

[i_am_nikita]

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okey ra na ang iedit kng typo errror and need to add some post

they can check it

forget you who ur talking to? ayki? why would ur friend say that to ayki? c'mon..

read back kng para ayki ba na ang message

[angel_thea89]

okey ra na ang iedit kng typo errror and need to add some post

they can check it



read back kng para ayki ba na ang message

ur quoting it to ayki's message.. r u sure im the one that NEEDS to read back Im outta here.. Way klaru ba ani na topic..

[joylove]

@ TS, karn panahona daghan na kaayo fake nga friends tawn oi!... ako pa nimo noh, don't mind her/him it's just a waste of time. You can't help that kind of personality mga in ana na taw need nana ilubong di na nimo e considered na friend. In the first place kung ge considered ka nga friend niya , y she/he is treating u like that? so fake jud kay sya dako as in FAKE.

[brian joshua]

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[joylove]

@ TS

Pathological liars - or "mythomaniacs" - may be suffering from histrionic personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder. The following comments basically reflect a pathological liar who has the characteristics of histrionic personality disorder.

Some Characteristics:

Exaggerates things that are ridiculous.
One-upping. Whatever you do, this person can do it better. You will never top them in their own mind, because they have a concerted need to be better than everyone else. This also applies to being right. If you try to confront an individual like this, no matter how lovingly and well-intentioned you might be - this will probably not be effective. It's threatening their fantasy of them[B]selves, so they would rather argue with you and bring out the sharp knives than admit that there's anything wrong with them.
They "construct" a reality around themselves. They don't value the truth, especially if they don't see it as hurting anyone. If you call them on a lie and they are backed into a corner, they will act very defensively and say ugly things (most likely but depends on personality), but they may eventually start to act like, "Well, what's the difference? You're making a big deal out of nothing!" (again, to refocus the conversation to your wrongdoing instead of theirs).
Because these people don't value honesty, a lot of times they will not value loyalty. So watch what you tell them. They will not only tell others, but they will embellish to make you look worse. Their loyalty is fleeting, and because they are insecure people, they will find solace in confiding to whomever is in their favor at the moment.
They may be somewhat of a hypochondriac. This can come in especially useful when caught in a lie, for example, they can claim that they have been sick, or that there's some mysteriously "illness" that has them all stressed out. It's another excuse tool for their behavior.
Obviously, they will contradict what they say. This will become very clear over time. They usually aren't smart enough to keep track of so many lies (who would be?).


Another WikiAnswers contributor adds:

They lie about even the smallest things. For example, saying "I brushed my teeth today," when they didn't.
They add exaggerations to every sentence.
They change their story all the time.
They act very defensively when you question their statements.
They believe what they say is true, when everyone else knows it isn't.


An alternate 'checklist':

Lies when it is very easy to tell the truth.
Lies to get sympathy, to look better, to save their butt, etc.
Fools people at first but once they get to know him, no one believes anything they ever say.
May have a personality disorder.
Extremely manipulative.
Has been caught in lies repeatedly.
Never fesses up to the lies.
Is a legend in their own mind.

# Wikianswers#

[mcharla]

Pathological liars have no remorse when lying. They do not think that it is bad to lie. They do not worry about the consequences either. They simply lie and go on with life as if nothing is wrong.

These people do not value honesty and are known to relate events and incidents that have been told in confidence to others. While doing so they may also exaggerate the facts as well. Thus they can't really be trusted with secrets.

my advise TS:

A pathological liar must be handled carefully if you wish to help the person change this habit. These liars would need to be reminded gently about their behavior by pointing out their little bits of lies. Do not blame them for the lies, as many times, they are not even aware about what is being said by them. You might need to use professional help to tackle extreme cases.

[mcharla]

@TS

Watch what you tell them because they will tell others, and they will make you look BAD. Really Really BAD. Then you will look like ikaw pa ang naay SALA.

They are INSECURE people, they will find solace in confiding to whomever is in their favor at the moment.

[i_am_nikita]

@ TS, karn panahona daghan na kaayo fake nga friends tawn oi!... ako pa nimo noh, don't mind her/him it's just a waste of time. You can't help that kind of personality mga in ana na taw need nana ilubong di na nimo e considered na friend. In the first place kung ge considered ka nga friend niya , y she/he is treating u like that? so fake jud kay sya dako as in FAKE.

sakto ka joylove ug ang tinoud na amiga/amigo moprangka sa tawo pero inig human magpasayloay ra

misunderstandings, mistakes, problems and so on and so forth , so normal sa relationships, friendships and family.
ang wala kaagi na na sitwasyun ABNORMAL


i think nakita na ug maayu ang sitwasyun sa akong amiga

can we closed this thread?

thank you sa mga reply, inputs, violent reaction ug uban pa

[blade101]

closing thread per TS' request.....