Do you think I'm a bad Mother for my kids?

[PURPZ LOCKHEART]

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I know farmboy. But as I've said I don't have that option to be with them I can't afford. I need to live also. How can I raise them and support them if I have nothing. I have to work for myself and for them so I can give them something so they'll know that I'm present in their lives. How can I take care of my children when I can't even take care of myself. Alangan mangayo ko ug kwarta sa ilang daddy para naa ko makaon? These things are beyond any reasons. The mother needs to live as well for her to be able to take care of the children. As much as I'd like to be with them always and see them grow with me, but that's to no availability at this time.

Momi, sakit lageh ako ngipon..

do you want to see that in text? true mothers feel the pains of their beloved children. even tootaches

Your kid comes home, with bruises on d face and the arms...

Will you be there to see them and ask: Anak, naunsa ka? kinsay nag away nimo sa skol?

do you feel that in text?

Momi, nice lageh kaau ako klasmet..katong gwapa nga seatmate nako.. kay gihatagan ko notes sa iya homework...

how do you transform the emotion in text?

ooh mothers.. where are you?

I guess I have said enough...

Bye Mommy.. Daddy is here now.. we are fine. text text lang nya ha.

[Baeybe_Bryce]

ahmm as i've mentioned in my previous post, my ex husband and his family won't support the kids if they are with me. that leads then to the decision of my handling the kids to my inlaws. i don't like to badmouth them but they are just different and narrow-minded. we are better now on each of our separate lives, it's peaceful this way.

Ahh, that explains it. Sorry but I don't get to read all your replies to them.


You don't actually don't need to feel upset. Much to you being affected, the father of the 2 kids is worst - I don't even think he has the backbone to stand alone, he's dependent of his family. Why be so affected TS if you guide your kids in a way you can?

Their opinions of you, or should I say OUR opinions of you, won't count at all if your situation says otherwise. Work TS and save for the future. If time comes that you can afford get your kids back. For now, just settle with what you have. Use the most of it and as much as possible don't lose communications hmmkay? Pag smile na oi

[PURPZ LOCKHEART]

you just make me smile. thank you!

Ahh, that explains it. Sorry but I don't get to read all your replies to them.


You don't actually don't need to feel upset. Much to you being affected, the father of the 2 kids is worst - I don't even think he has the backbone to stand alone, he's dependent of his family. Why be so affected TS if you guide your kids in a way you can?

Their opinions of you, or should I say OUR opinions of you, won't count at all if your situation says otherwise. Work TS and save for the future. If time comes that you can afford get your kids back. For now, just settle with what you have. Use the most of it and as much as possible don't lose communications hmmkay? Pag smile na oi

[truflameheart]

You may want the best interest for the convenience of your children but in return your giving up something priceless ma'am.

I grew in a simple family, deprived from material wants yet I can say I lived a remarkable childhood. Your kids will grow fine but there will be something missing in their life and they will attempt to fill that void in anyway they think it can be.

Wherever your kids will be, with you or their rich dad. LIFE will teach them a lesson, it's now a matter of who will be there,at that very moment, to be with them at their very weakest.

Consider taking the risk and be with them. At the right time, yes they will understand everything, and they will understand why you choose to be with them. That reason enough will get them motivated, strive harder and curve up their life.

Else, let's just hope they enjoy their childhood, grow conveniently , mature properly and will have a happy life. That ma'am, you hit a JACKPOT!

IMO

[emow]

my mom told me why she couldn't give us up to our dad.... she can't bear the idea of someday when my dad will have another family, me and my bro might get treated badly by the second wife... TS, im sorry but you have really made clear the sole reason of leaving ur children to your DEPENDENT EX HUBBY who cant stand on his own two feet...thats really a swell dad to grow up with, dont you think? You have a right for financial support TS... a normal mother who has had enough with her husband will fight for that and live with the kids... TS, do you plan on prolonging your current situation, or have you planned how to get back ur children? ur answer to the question will show the real reason why you gave them up....

[jumper_stage]

go to the nearest church aron mangaliya

[Sand Man]

Then we can agree to disagree then. No problem

OT:

hehehehe... dili man unta ko mo reply ani but basin ma misinterpret ko.. no sir, i have a very close family ties, we are in an extended family living in a compound where relatives are easy seen, separate homes but placed in a compound.

you sound too mechanical sir w/ your inference regarding my personality. It doesn't mean im saying thaings and that things make of me. Its just that i've seen realities under my nose.. if that makes me insane then so be it..



P.S: speaking of values, kindly check the way you are responding too.. makes me wonder also, what kind of generation we are producing..

It's good to know that they are all just within a compound. That's a closely-knit family and you should be proud.

I would suggest, though, that you ask the mothers in your compound if they agree with your post.

[Pinkish]

I feel for you TS. I am a mother too and I know how it feels to be away from your kids. Although I am not separated now pro gusto au ko mubiya sa ako hubby tungod sa iyang pagka irresponsible, but ako lng sa gpiyongan ky di ko kabiya nga di nko madala ang mga bata. My husband is also rich and a momma's boy. I dont have a job to support them, nya di pud cla musupporta sa mga bata if mubiya ko with the kids. so lisod au sa ako na part. In this situation, money plays an important role because the absence of it affects other important things. So I do understand you and I dont see you as a bad mother.

[ad_dur]

YOur just doing what you think is best for your kids .. but better yet did you ask your kids where and to whom they want to stay with. Under the family code if kids are above 7 y.o they have the choice to choose if they want to go with their dad or mom .... but good thing is that you still have a good and open communications with your kids ..

[Baeybe_Bryce]

you just make me smile. thank you!

As what you've said your kids are doing well, so just assure them you're always there for them even if you don't get to sleep under the same roof. I also think that the kids, aside from the financial situation, understands how life will be if they will leave their dad's place much more to what would it be if they force you to go back to their dad again.

If one of them will ask you to get 'em, don't refuse hmmkay? Whatever you're worried about shake it off just get the kids if they ask you to. For now that they are enjoying the life they have and they told you they're fine with the situation just support them.

I don't think it's the dad who's looking after them, but the lola/lolo. It's never too late TS. But just beware, make sure that your kids are guided well. Keep the communication stronger. Attention and communication are the most that you can give, and they said it's enough for them. Just like an OFW. Work hard TS hup, prioritize earning money and don't get marry yet, later na lang if you can afford supporting your kids na. LOL jk. It ends here.