ngano mag away man jud ang taw???

[slabdans]

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haha.. ahaka'g trip nimo brad...ding! away jud ni ron.

kita na kas rason TS? nay oh! hapit na mi mag away ni Renzoids ug dugangan pa nako ni akong post mag away gyud mi, mao nay sampol TS nga mag away ang tawo

[glennbraynalonzo]

because we are animals too! ^^

[imyourninja]

Kai pala away man ang isa. murag ako pala away. hahahah :P

[slabdans]

Kai pala away man ang isa. murag ako pala away. hahahah :P

weee ikaw palaaway? pa try daw, bagay ta

[Renzoids]

weee ikaw palaaway? pa try daw, bagay ta

Awa TS! sugod najud ning away ron!

[noy]

many reasons TS,
apart from pride, at some point our views about morality(right and wrong) would differ.

[defender_1611]

TS here is the factor why people fight each other.

COMPATIBILITY

- The term compatibility comes from the root word “compatible”
which means two or more things or individuals are well matched or go well together. I have also looked up from the website of Wikipedia.org (Wikipedia), which defines, “Interpersonal compatibility is a concept that describes long-term interaction between two or more individuals in terms of the care and comfort of the communication.”

If a relationship has a question of compatibility, then it leads to miscommunication and misunderstanding. A couple or group of friends who comes from different cultures and does not exert extra effort to try understand each other has the possibility to end up in a fight. If we jump into a relationship without knowing the whereabouts of our partner, then we have an issue of compatibility. We end up in a fight if we are not attuned with each other in terms of our principles, values, interest, politics, ***, and in almost everything.

As Stephen R. Covey says in his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, “When expectations are not clear and shared, people begin to become emotionally involved and simple misunderstandings become compounded, turning into personality clashes and communication breakdowns. Clarifying expectations sometimes takes a great deal of courage.” In order for us to know that we are compatible, we need to ask, probe and clarify our expectations. Never just assume something unless we want to end up in a fight. We need to know our limitations and boundaries. It is not right that only one side should adjust in a relationship. It should be BOTH sides in order to have a healthy relationship.

DISHONESTY

- If you happen to watch the “Maury Show” at KTLA network, they featured different real life conflicts in a relationship. Some of their topics were “Is my fiancée having an affair with my bestfriend?”; “Is he the father of my child?”; “Is my sister going out with my husband?”; or “Is my mother sleeping with my husband?” So, why do they fight? It is because we kept a certain secret in our life that affects our partners, families and friends. We lied and cheated that it hurts even somebody close to us. I find the show a little bit weird but still finding out the TRUTH can make or break a relationship.

Dishonesty is another factor why people fight. In Webster’s New Thesaurus dictionary, it defines dishonesty as “implies a willful perversion of truth in order to deceit, cheat or defraud .” There is intent to lie or hide information that affects our others. There is no such thing as “white lies”. A lie will always be a lie, which is we are not telling the truth.

Nobody wants our families, friends or colleagues to cheat or lie to us. We tend to lose our trust. We now perceive the other person as unworthy of our trust. We start to doubt and question everything that he or she will tell us. When we start to doubt, the other person may tend to become defensive. Remember our topic on “Ego and Defensiveness”? (You may check our article on What Causes our Relationship to Fail?) Our dishonesty can lead to a lost of trust that contributes to our fight, which might end our relationship. To trust someone is when you extend your confidence and reliance. Suppose your partner cheated on you for another girl but you decided to give him another chance. Do you still have the same level of trust compared before? Or do you now have hesitations to believe him/ her? DEFINITELY NOT! You are stupid if you immediately give him your full trust. That person needs to work harder to gain back somebody’s trust.

PRIDE

- The term pride has a negative and positive meaning. On the negative side, it means arrogance, conceit and overconfident such as “I already know that and you don’t need to explain it to me.” However, it may also mean self-respect, dignity and honor such as “My son just graduated from Medicine and he is the pride of our family.”

In the book Egonomics by David Marcum and Steven Smith, they wrote that “The more something means to us or the closer it is to our identity, the greater the chances we turn away from people, or against our ideas.” I want to relate their statement to our third factor why people fight, PRIDE. It is more on the negative side that leads to people’s fight. If we too proud of ourselves, it may consist of three reasons . . . fear, insecurities and self-centeredness.

FEAR - - -

It is usually based on our past experiences. It comes from our repressed emotions of stress, trauma or tension. It can be shown through our anxiety and worries about almost everything. It is a state of mind that we are conditioned of when we were still at our early age. Suppose you have problems at school when we you were young. What do you tend to reply when your son approaches you about his concern at school? You’re right! We always tell our kids, “I have already experienced that when I was your age.” We even tell them “It already happened to me.” We answered them without even knowing their real problem. We fear that our child cannot graduate. We fear about his future without us, their parents. We fear for them because we have experienced hardships and troubles when we were young. So when the child drops from school or failed in his subject, it now leads to a big family fight. It is because of our Pride that we sometimes fail to realize that our children’s generation might be different from ours.

INSECURITIES and SELF-CENTEREDNESS - - -

If a person who is pessimistic about life is usually someone who has a poor outlook about himself. Sometimes we cover up our lack of self-confidence by being too aggressive and arrogant. We boast too much to be recognized by others. Our uncertainty contributes to our self-centeredness that eventually leads to a fight. Being a self-centered person, we tend to become selfish and self-righteous. We tend not to listen to other people’s ideas. Our listening ability becomes inferior. So we tend to fight for what we believe is right. Let us take for example a situation of a houseband and a working wife. The husband stays at home taking care of the children. While the wife works to earn for their living. IF the husband has developed a sense of insecurity because of financial standing, they will end up in a fight everytime the wife will ask about their family budget. He becomes defensive to protect his pride as the father of the family. However, if the husband and wife have a mutual understanding about their responsibilities at home then they can discuss things without arguing with each other. Being a houseband is just the same as being a housewife. It is because of our pride that we sometimes fail to overcome our insecurities and self-centeredness that leads to our fight.

[slabdans]

wow wa koy time mobasa ani taasa oi nabasa na ba na ninyo? =hip suko dayon ingon respetar sa post pag sure mo oi! wala moy inyo dha kanang pure inyo gyud d kay copy paste will ok raman sad ibutang ang author para way plagiarism.

[lhorenzoo]

mag away gyud kong ang gusto sa usa dili uyon ang pares.

[libido]

Ah mag away man gani nang, mga Hayop...sample lang ang "Iring ug Iro" sud-an ray hinungdan hehehehehe...

btw naa man usahay tawo nga lisod pasabton, ug dili sad gyd mo sabot,,mao ma hulog ug lalis then kahuman Boom daun...