LOVE PROBLEMS ( post em all here ) READ FIRST POST...

[bubblegumflavah]

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do you mean guys, the gurl should see the guy and no one knows he might love her back?
or the gurl should see someone else?

[jugs_06]

^^if the girl loves the guy then i don't see why not..

[mata_hari]

@bubblegumflavah

did the guy ever love her in the first place? love in what terms?! basin the guy wants to see her again to satisfy his carnal instincts na sad...

but as they say.... Women learn *** through Love while Men Learn Love through ***...

For the Guy to really love the girl, he has to treat her with a little more respect. See her for what she really is worth not just her worth in bed or her expertise in Kama Sutra.if during those times they've been together, if what they have were just mere exchange of body fluids via Bed, nothing more, then there is really not much hope to it. A Lust turned To Love doesn't really last that long unless the guy is really into making the relationship flourish not because he is keeping the relationship for his own benifits.

for the girl pud... she should open herself to the possibilities and think five times ahead of deeply scrutinizing this guy's intentions... mending a broken heart is not that easy.. picking up the pieces hurts even more.

should she give in?! if i were in those shoes.. I'd say NO. because...

given that i have offered everything and yet he rejected it... and only then that he realized that i am worth something when i was lurking in my frustration. duh... he is good-for-nothing for what he is worth. life is too short for me to settle for someone who needs cataract operation to be able to see my efforts...

but then again, that would be me...

for the person who is concerned.. you know yourself more... if you tripped in whatever decision you make.... that is the reason why pencils have erasers di ba?! hehehehe...

[:)...:)]

i know this is a silly story to tell...but i just want to let it out...

see...been chatting with this guy for a few months...and he turns out to be the ideal guy that i could fall for...we talk about anything ans sometimes he tells me things that i know he should be telling his GF...and we seem to be very comfortable with each other...though he never talk about his gf but his friendster states that he is in a relationship status and no way! will i ask him bout it (for me asking him about it would make him feel that i am into him or i might sound like so interested with him) ...and in our daily (as in everyday except sundays) conversation, he never tried to court or show some feelings but sometimes, i could tell he is dropping hints but then as much as possible i don't want to work on assumptions...hay its really hard to tell and i could not figure out why the hell would i fall for him when in fact if i look at my situation, technically i am just a chatbuddy/cyberfriend call it whatever not even close to a "parang kayo pero hindi" status....

now people...tell me..is there anyway that i could stop myself from falling...

or could you tell me whats with this guy?...

[monrose29]

now people...tell me..is there anyway that i could stop myself from falling...

wa jud tay mahimo ana friend kong mo pitik jud atong heart.. lisod gyud..nag post gali ko deri og how not to fall inlove.. even though i know that love is a nature and we cant stop that feelings when we are in that sitaution..

to prevent from falling inlove friend.. dont pay too much attention wd him.... magka dugay man gud ma develop gyud atong feelings sa atong opposite *** labi na og lonely ta... or somethin with her/him nga naka pag interest nmo.. just handle it carefully friend lami man sad ang feelings kong na-a tay inspiration di bah..its like adding a spice in our daily life.. kumbaga mga lamas sa kinabuhi......

just take it slow so slow.. ride with your feelings wd him... who knows u have wonderfull ending with your lovelife.. but then again.. be carefull of what your heart beat.. take sometimes to listen of what ur minds tell u to do....

[diem]

@ : )...: ), may I call you Smiles na lang?

Smiles, I have a few questions that I hope you can share the answers. In all the months that you and your guy friend chatted, was there any invitation meeting face to face? Have you only seen his face on his friendster account?

I agree with master monrose's advice for you wholeheartedly. He is correct in his assessment of your situation.

Likewise, I humbly suggest that you hold back any strong emotion for your friend because you don't know him yet completely. There is a huge gulf of difference in knowing a person virtually on line and in real lfe.

If you are doubtful of his intentions, and wish to control your growing emotions, I suggest you take a break or occupy your time in more worthwhile pursuits. Learn something new, live life to the fullest and like the old Coke commercial said, there's nothing like the real thing. In this case, the real person.

Hoping all the best for you in Life and in Love. :mrgreen:

[cookie_cola]

@diem, einah80 and mymaria: thanks u guys, i really appreciate your advices. No, BF's best friend doesn't have a boyfriend. And even though she's my friend, she's more of my BF's friend really rather than mine. I doubt if I could talk to her about how I feel, I don't feel comfortable enough with her to do it. And I'm also afraid that if I talk to her about it, basin malainan cya and I'm sure BF would get mad at me for that ky basin mausab na lahat in a negative way. BF and I spend time with each other everyday... he goes home to see me after school. But if imo mi e compare duha, I feel he enjoys her company man gud better coz even if nag uban mi ni BF, mas interested man cya sa buhat sa iya best friend. If mtxt ang girl chikka dyon cya, if he sees her name sa ym he'll buzz dyon dritso even if nag uban mi. if she needs help sa iya project ako BF ang maguol para niya. And BF is always interested in whatever she has to say, mas ma lingaw cya kung cla mag uban kay sa kung kami. Ok rman unta but how come if ako mu ask for 15 mins of his time, he gets mad coz I'm being corny na sad or that he's busy daw pero once naa iya best sa ym, magkigchat dyon. And to think ha uban pa cla gikan sa skul. if I need his help, he always tells me to handle my own probs coz he has too many of his own to take care about. Diha ku mahiubos. Malain sad ko kay mas ilado pa cla sa mga tao na cla ang uyab kysa kami... i hate it jud everytime we go out for a night out and they meet a common friend and that friend will say, "Ai, I thought kamo ang uyab..." One time, naman gali classmate ni approach BF's best friend ni sumbong niya na her "boyfriend" daw was cheating on her with another girl... me!

I know man my BF loves me but I just wish lang di kay cla sobra kclose. Like cla cla ra mag eat ug lunch and they always sit together jud... sometimes mas cla pa ang magtupad ug lingkod nya kami pa sa ako BF ang maglahi; manghagad cya ako BF magpauban sa mall, kato nag lounge mi sa beach iya ebutang iya feet sa tummy sa ako BF... if she doesn't eat, BF will say " Oi u eat na ha? ky niniwang na bya jud ka masuko na imo mom ana." He's very concerned when it comes to her and he's very protective of her sad. They text each othe gali "hey, I'm home na... take care " Kylangan na kung migo lang? how come di man cya ana sa uban niya friends? They take care of each other but what about me? I feel taken for granted coz she gets all his comfort and sensitivity but i get all his irritations and complains. Ky tungod karaan na mi? Mas una pa mi nagkauyab sa ako BF but dugay na cla classmate albeit enemies. A sem after nagkauyab mi ako BF ky dha sad cla nagkaclose. At first la rko na friends cla until I looked at his comp and saw a pic nilang duha: ako BF nag agbay niya while head sa girl ky nasa iya shoulder. Mas daghan pa cla pic together ky ako BF di man nahan magkig pic nko ky corny daw. I'm afraid to leave this guy man coz as I sed pilangga man ko niya and maybe I'm letting someone special go because of my paranoia... and for her pa jud. But I can't help but feel insecure because according to my BF, she is every guy's "perfect" girlfriend.

Einah80, I'm wonderring though, u told me to trust my BF but underneath ur advice there's a saying that a woman should always trust her instincts. Now I'm confused coz as much as I would want to get over this and trust my BF, my instincts are telling me something's wrong...

[MyMaria]

cookie_cola, mao na gyud nang gugmang giatay.. ikaw ra jud maka solve sa imo problema yadz... kai lahi lahi man jud ang tawo gud.. kung pareho ka nako nga di ko gusto gyud ug competition aw hagbay ra.... moving on is free. then again, if you want to make changes, u can sure as hell CHANGE THINGS.

basta. goodluck!

[nolex]

@cookie: then follow ur instinct.. simple as that..

[MyMaria]

i know this is a silly story to tell...but i just want to let it out...

see...been chatting with this guy for a few months...and he turns out to be the ideal guy that i could fall for...we talk about anything ans sometimes he tells me things that i know he should be telling his GF...and we seem to be very comfortable with each other...though he never talk about his gf but his friendster states that he is in a relationship status and no way! will i ask him bout it (for me asking him about it would make him feel that i am into him or i might sound like so interested with him) ...and in our daily (as in everyday except sundays) conversation, he never tried to court or show some feelings but sometimes, i could tell he is dropping hints but then as much as possible i don't want to work on assumptions...hay its really hard to tell and i could not figure out why the hell would i fall for him when in fact if i look at my situation, technically i am just a chatbuddy/cyberfriend call it whatever not even close to a "parang kayo pero hindi" status....

now people...tell me..is there anyway that i could stop myself from falling...

or could you tell me whats with this guy?...

ahhhh cyber-romance!

remember: sayon ra kaau to be someone else in the net, you can be ur true self or be completely someone else... sa mailad lang! pero bitaw, take it easy, ayaw jud pag haste kai you know na... waste lang gihapon unya. toink!

ako pa nimo, padayon lang sa imo gibati without having to move on to another level, in fact, mas nindot baya ang feeling anang murag hanging by a moment kai exciting.... just take it easy gurl..