what would you do if you lose out of control?

[mia_princess]

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talk to him as an adult when his not having his tantrums and ask him what's his plans in life and when is he going to take responsibility on his actions sooner or later his going to get is a$$ in deep sh1t. that you and your family wouldn't be able to help him out, sure 17 years old are aggressive kids but i believe in reasons, and what his doing is very unreasonable. but mostly its the parents' responsibility to make him understand.

i always tell my parents "if i go astray you only have your self to blame" LOL though it sounds harsh and disrespectful it is what i believe that the guidance of a mother or a father is very crucial to a growing up child...

i do that alot.....talk to him....as an adult..yes..i still think he needs our parents..not me....

[mia_princess]

girl, go see a shrink. he gets mad like *the opposite of heaven*.. and he talks of killing himself?
in psychiatry, any threat like that should be looked into.
he has some issues that needs resolving.

yeah i know.....when i had my cl. fo. rvw on psychia i was thinking of his actions....suicidal....but he dont mean it coz he's afraid of self mutilation....he just says it...now i know....
but his displacement is not good anymore....

[8sme]

well..yes..i'm more of an "ate" than a bestfriend to him..i always try to console him..yknow.....just have fun with him..pro usahay kay lisod naman gud....di na kaya sa powers...and right now...wala man pud ko time para ana..go out and have fun.....kay busy man gud ko sa school (i'm graduating)..daghan ang requirements sa duty..napa'y lectures..........lisod........

talk to your parents to at least have quality time sa inyo... esp sa imo bro... even call will do... A simple question of how are you? or how was your day from your parents wud b enough start sa imo bro... If I may share it, i had a neighbor before shes on her teens pud... medyo risky jud kay girl man cia unya her way of getting an attention is going out with friends, partying... she grows old with a dad only and a nanny... Old fashion way siya g brought up but to my surprise bulyagon jud cia. At first nghinayang ko why the actions knowing she has everything... Pinangga bya cia sa iya daddy. ihatud every morning sa school nya pg mg laag cia past 12 mn na, apasun n daddy IF wala mahubog pud. Later n realize nako nga medyo kulang pud ang family nya ug attention para nya... " she once said nganu kaha n c daddy noh nga d man ko bunalan?" this is everytime maka sala cia... she badly needs attention... plus wa p jud n uso sa ilaha ang kanang mg talk gani kung naunsa cia... puro nlang iya sayup nakit-an... the family is overproctetive sa iyaha knowing she has a diabetes since child pa mau nga super pamper to d extent nga the kid is on her teens, she has to grow ... c daddy sad nya mulaag pud... wa rapud care naunsa iya anak... enough n nya ang kuarta, ihatud sa school ... D ba wala man g tudlo sa school ang things nga makat-unan nato with our parents... Sometimes gud, kids needs attention jud. sense of importance sa family... something he can do for the family to prove his worth. A simple appreciation narin in every little things he do...

Since, busy ka sa school nimo... try to ask your parents na maging visible cla sa bro nimo... A call every nyt... mg sun-sun para tipid... a talk kung kumusta na cia. He myt not yet realize ang understand sa iya situation karon pero at least m feel nya nga importante cia aside sa career sa imo parents. Depende man gud n sa character sa tao, hes a teen naman, he has a mind of his own... he wants to be guided, get inpiration from his family ... I have a friend pud nga medyo ng rebelde while at school... girl pud n cia... she used to be an achiever, an athlete at that, naging varsity ... pero her parents were not that open sa iyaha... Cge lang btaw mandar, dont do this and that... niabot jud ang time nga na feed up cia, ng barkada, ng frat nya wa nya n finish ang school. I just meet her after all this tragic days... Mau nga realization part na ako na witness niya.. GOod thing strong cia, wa jud nya gpadayun ang wasted lifestyle nya... its one thing nga ako n realize from her story nga iba-iba jud ang tao... karun, shes independent na, got plans na maski ng regret cia nga wa cia k finish school...

Ayaw lang jud give up sis... Kaya ra nagi na...

[mia_princess]

talk to your parents to at least have quality time sa inyo... esp sa imo bro... even call will do... A simple question of how are you? or how was your day from your parents wud b enough start sa imo bro... If I may share it, i had a neighbor before shes on her teens pud... medyo risky jud kay girl man cia unya her way of getting an attention is going out with friends, partying... she grows old with a dad only and a nanny... Old fashion way siya g brought up but to my surprise bulyagon jud cia. At first nghinayang ko why the actions knowing she has everything... Pinangga bya cia sa iya daddy. ihatud every morning sa school nya pg mg laag cia past 12 mn na, apasun n daddy IF wala mahubog pud. Later n realize nako nga medyo kulang pud ang family nya ug attention para nya... " she once said nganu kaha n c daddy noh nga d man ko bunalan?" this is everytime maka sala cia... she badly needs attention... plus wa p jud n uso sa ilaha ang kanang mg talk gani kung naunsa cia... puro nlang iya sayup nakit-an... the family is overproctetive sa iyaha knowing she has a diabetes since child pa mau nga super pamper to d extent nga the kid is on her teens, she has to grow ... c daddy sad nya mulaag pud... wa rapud care naunsa iya anak... enough n nya ang kuarta, ihatud sa school ... D ba wala man g tudlo sa school ang things nga makat-unan nato with our parents... Sometimes gud, kids needs attention jud. sense of importance sa family... something he can do for the family to prove his worth. A simple appreciation narin in every little things he do...

Since, busy ka sa school nimo... try to ask your parents na maging visible cla sa bro nimo... A call every nyt... mg sun-sun para tipid... a talk kung kumusta na cia. He myt not yet realize ang understand sa iya situation karon pero at least m feel nya nga importante cia aside sa career sa imo parents. Depende man gud n sa character sa tao, hes a teen naman, he has a mind of his own... he wants to be guided, get inpiration from his family ... I have a friend pud nga medyo ng rebelde while at school... girl pud n cia... she used to be an achiever, an athlete at that, naging varsity ... pero her parents were not that open sa iyaha... Cge lang btaw mandar, dont do this and that... niabot jud ang time nga na feed up cia, ng barkada, ng frat nya wa nya n finish ang school. I just meet her after all this tragic days... Mau nga realization part na ako na witness niya.. GOod thing strong cia, wa jud nya gpadayun ang wasted lifestyle nya... its one thing nga ako n realize from her story nga iba-iba jud ang tao... karun, shes independent na, got plans na maski ng regret cia nga wa cia k finish school...

Ayaw lang jud give up sis... Kaya ra nagi na...

tnx!...well....we're okay right now....my dad sent him a new phone (since he broke his)......now they text each other na...............pro......mao ghapon...he dropped his history class...and...i asked him for his midterm grades....i'm gonna see it tomorrow...i told him i need it tomorrow......so....maylang ta if pasar tanan...
gi.bawasan sad nako ang iyahang baon..... kay tendency i smoke ra man o iduwa sa computer...
pero i decided gkapoy na ko ug badlong...
naa ra nya kung unsay ganahan niya buhaton sa iyang life....
i think...if it's the only way...then....i'll let him try na madapa....without our warnings...coz i think he's had more than enough..di man siya maminaw....basin diay....if lisuran na siya....marealize na niya tanan...
maybe he wants it that way....
pero it doesnt mean im giving up on him..i just think...kung di siya ganahan maminaw sa advice...basin mas magmature siya kung siya mismo ang makaidentify kung unsa'y gipangbuhat niya.....
pareha sa imuhang friend..now pa nya narealize na sayang ang school...
okay ra kaha??or do i need to prevent further insult to injury
i mean....mas labaw pa nuon na i.try nako pag,.usab niya

[8sme]

tnx!...well....we're okay right now....my dad sent him a new phone (since he broke his)......now they text each other na...............pro......mao ghapon...he dropped his history class...and...i asked him for his midterm grades....i'm gonna see it tomorrow...i told him i need it tomorrow......so....maylang ta if pasar tanan...
gi.bawasan sad nako ang iyahang baon..... kay tendency i smoke ra man o iduwa sa computer...
pero i decided gkapoy na ko ug badlong...
naa ra nya kung unsay ganahan niya buhaton sa iyang life....
i think...if it's the only way...then....i'll let him try na madapa....without our warnings...coz i think he's had more than enough..di man siya maminaw....basin diay....if lisuran na siya....marealize na niya tanan...
maybe he wants it that way....
pero it doesnt mean im giving up on him..i just think...kung di siya ganahan maminaw sa advice...basin mas magmature siya kung siya mismo ang makaidentify kung unsa'y gipangbuhat niya.....
pareha sa imuhang friend..now pa nya narealize na sayang ang school...
okay ra kaha??or do i need to prevent further insult to injury
i mean....mas labaw pa nuon na i.try nako pag,.usab niya

What if too late na if not your brother is n big trouble na nya wa pa jud nya na realize ang mga wrong doings nya... Can you afford to face your conscience knowing U could have done something for your brother? Never say never sis... its your brother bya na... tiring jud bya na cge buyag nya dli mgpatuo pero at least you are doing something. Be consistent as a big sis... basin pg mo undang ka pamuyag nya mka ingun cia nga napul-an ka nya... Let him feel nga whatever happens he can count on you. That he has a family in your presence. Its never too late to have a bonding with your bro. Bhala iba2 inyo gusto, just keep on trying...

You are lucky to have a bro... in time ma realize rapud na nimo... Basta for now, help your bro sa right path.

[harryperales]

i think you should seek out your parents help first, i guess maybe nagpabadlong lang na imo brother because he wants attention from your parents or something like that. I don't think though na he would kill himself as people who even do such things mostly dont say or announce that i would kill myself because it would spoil the fact nga maghikog cya. I believe that he placed that on the shoutout to get somebody's attention, it could be a family member or a girl whom he is infatuated to nga attention iya makuha. I can relate to your brothers actions as i was once a rebel child as you say your brother is, but i believe in due time and with proper attention from parents and the other siblings ma-tarong ra ni cya.

[Lamusika]

I'll be in my comfort zone,, magkulong sa kwarto ko ,,