Cant get over his previous long term relationship

[quirkychinita]

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I dont want to start a thread sana hehehe obyus man gud kaayo ug dali ra mabasahan ni ehem.. istoryan baya sad to siya but i guess i just need to air this out and crossing my fingers and toes that he may not be able to read this.. kay kapoy kaayo dala dala ani ug kapoyan ko maghunahuna sige..We just started lang and he was from a long term relationship.

They were together for 7 years so imagine that time compared to us which of course gasugud pa... i guess, im a guilty party too since I was looking for a relationship then and was just trying to change my status from single to having a bf because it has been a long time since i had one and mejo, hehehe i was thinking with my biological clock in perspective ( mao ni ang makuha basta arte kay ka sauna ) so i did not dwell into details, i just plunged my way ahead and right now im being bothered by the details which I should have checked, way before i got myself in relationship with him.

I dont know why but the length of time that they had together really bothers me now and even with the recent fact that ive learned mejo kabalo ko nga red signal ni sha when we got together he was just in 6 months of recovering from his heartache (it was the girl who decided to end the relationship and based on what he said he did his best to win her over but no such luck) it bothers me to know that he was not even fully recovered (guro, im speculating bec based on what ive read, if ur in a long term relationship, you need to have at least a year to recover) when we became an item..

I feel unsure on what i placed myself into and even thinking, choosy kaayo ko unya ngano man ing ani akong nasudlan? I was tempted to walk out nlng but certain situations happen and dili man gud ko ganahan ug complications sa life so basta feeling nako sobra na or drama na, lakaw nalang ko but i know its not the right way to deal things.

Im not so sure if Im making any sense and also if you guys can relate anyway nauwaw baya ko ani pero sige nlng pra makagaan sa feeling hehehe.. thanks for reading this and mejo long sha sensha hehehe

Hi langga! I do hope you're okay na kay murag dugay dugay na pud ni nimu na post and I bet ur okay na or maybe settled... I think Im on the same state as you are cuz its been a while since me and my BF broke up. sonce may 2011 and until now Im single... weve been together for 4 beautiful years and we broke up cuz of long distance relationship, hes at cagayan de oro and im here at cebu. secondary reason na ang 3rd party but im cool with it cuz expected na na nako. i canty blame him. he has needs.... ... anyway, im still single for now cuz im not rushing into looking for myu next guy. if ever man gani wala najud mupatol kay di man ko gwapa then back up plan nako ang mag adopt ug baby or maybe if ever maburos ko na walay amahan, its okay. at least naa koy anak to love and cherish....

all i could say is that whenevr you feel lonely, just find a way to not think of that stuff that make u unhappy... i for instance either I blog or watch youtube, reprogram my android, jog or hang out with my friends... kana ra...


i do hope your okay, i really do.

good vibes!!!!

[jhanjhan]

hello peeps thanks sa advices I feel the love gyud hehehe... murag emo lang gyud ko anang panahuna nga gabuhat ko anang post pero at least it would help out others nga nagexperience sa pareho nako nga giagihan.. yup, we already talked about it as in murag nagbalik balik ug nag world war 3 ako nagsugod sugod hehehe but when the dust settled, it just made me realise how childish I was with the way I was treating him..

mejo nauwaw ko sa akong self ug kita man sad nako lab man ko ni ehem hadlok man sad to siya magbuwag mi (confident!) kay kabalo ka sa babaye basta emotionally charged mawagtang usahay ang logic siya kalma ra man ug mao ang ni understand till i was able to see na we are starting a new relationship here and I shouldnt be bothered about his past.. anyway, the road is long and lisod gyud but at the end of the day, its still you who would decide whether ur ok with it or not

So ok nami ron, kalooy ni Papa God and thanks again everyone for sharing (nauwaw ko gamay :P)

[adz]

Hi jhanjhan! hmmm medyo ka relate ko ani da 6yrs lang nuon to akoa...sa imong part medyo alanganin kay basin ma rebound girl lang ka..but there's no harm in trying basin mo work out diay inyu relationship but it won't be easy jud especially ingun ani pa jud ka fresh ilang panagbuwag...

[-]chong<3]

kabahin ani sis ang ako lang masulti kay pohon kung naa na ko'y bagong higugmaon, whatever my shortcomings were sa previous maningkamot gyud ko nga dili na mausab sa new rel nako. basig ingani pud ang mindset sa imu bf. heheh.. :>

[sushikandi]

Thinking twice about your relationship is a red flag itself. You need to re-evaluate your relationship dear. But hey! Its still the adjustment stage, get to know him more and take it from there! Good luck!

[jhanjhan]

hey adz and joylove miss nako kuyog sa GH da.. hehehe sunod nga event basta kaya see yah! thanks for the advises ladies

hehehe my philosophy now is to enjoy the present.. if it works out it will work out and if he is still pining for his ex and he wants to go back to her, its his decision , dili baya mapugngan ang usa ka tawo sa ilang buhaton.. I dont want to live in that particular shadow for the rest of my relationship with him and might second guess anything that he is doing. I was very direct in telling him that if he wants out, he just need to man up and tell it to me directly, no pretensions and bulls**t .

Id like to think Im mature enough to handle it and aww catch baya ko hahaha! (bagag nawong ) bitaw seriously, I know my worth as a person and at least I gave it a shot if it did not work out then, its not meant to be. Its a bit risky but since Im in this na, lets just wait and see