Is being "hard-to-get" still in? or is it being "easy" ?

[hexo]

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at least show some resistance... hehe.

[JoyCeeMarie08]

hard to get is still in..
pag easy to get man gd, d kaau i-treasure ky wala man poy hago.. hehe
and ka notice mo pag easy to get, dli kaau respetohon..

just my 2 cents

[Klave]

Hahah great advice.

Im not asking for advice on being easy or hard.

I posted this thread coz i observed that girls like being easy coz boys like easy girls. It's like all the easy-to-get girls usually have all the guys swarming around them while all the girls who are pakipot are either single or left out.

So i wanted to see people's opinions here... let me just add this to the thread post so people will see it.

Ok, but doesn't this thread imply, you are bothered by your realization?
Para na lang ni sa mga langyaw nga nangasaag.

Hmmm...generally looking at younger generations, I would tend say the same. So dili na kaayo uso ang hard-to-get. But then the trends now have significantly changed, based on my observations sa akong younger siblings.

Because of the many social networking sites, it doesn't take a whole lot for anyone to know anyone. Plus, these same sites encourages that everyone promote an open environment, where everyone can just say whatever they feel.

So compared sa una, we wouldn't need to mingle as much as we already know a certain part. And for some, this truth applies to their very nature, so they are more open to anyone thus a facade of being easy to the unfamiliar. They, in fact, are just comfortable with what they know and would like to promote a open environment like how these social networking sites promote. So in turn, those who don't mingle as much are considered "Not In" thus the effect of being outcasts. So rather than being easy or hard-to-get, they are just sticking with the trend.

[ulyssa_marie]

Ok, but doesn't this thread imply, you are bothered by your realization?
Para na lang ni sa mga langyaw nga nangasaag.

Hmmm...generally looking at younger generations, I would tend say the same. So dili na kaayo uso ang hard-to-get. But then the trends now have significantly changed, based on my observations sa akong younger siblings.

Because of the many social networking sites, it doesn't take a whole lot for anyone to know anyone. Plus, these same sites encourages that everyone promote an open environment, where everyone can just say whatever they feel.

So compared sa una, we wouldn't need to mingle as much as we already know a certain part. And for some, this truth applies to their very nature, so they are more open to anyone thus a facade of being easy to the unfamiliar. They, in fact, are just comfortable with what they know and would like to promote a open environment like how these social networking sites promote. So in turn, those who don't mingle as much are considered "Not In" thus the effect of being outcasts. So rather than being easy or hard-to-get, they are just sticking with the trend.

True.. i AM bothered by my realization.
Personally, i respect myself way too much to just throw myself out there as easy bait. I had a friend tell me that my attitude isn't "uso".

I too agree with the fact that the generation now is quite dependent on the trend and its influences. i just never understood why it'd be so influential enough for people to lower their value just to be "in". Perhaps, i'm looking through a bias perception, thus the creation of this thread.

[Klave]

@ulyssa_marie

Well, it is not wrong to have a biased perception, your perception is your own after all.

And value of self is different for everyone, for some physical, and for others could be totally different things. For now, I could only introduce you to the possibility that what might seem true now, will not be true later on. Just be happy you are on the safe side, because their openness will often lead to recklessness. Transparency has its consequences, it may provide you with easy access to "fun" stuff but it also provides you access with other stuff. You yourself will learn to tolerate and accept some form of transparency, there you will mature and be able to distinguish wisely and have a less biased perception.

[ulyssa_marie]

@ulyssa_marie

Well, it is not wrong to have a biased perception, your perception is your own after all.

And value of self is different for everyone, for some physical, and for others could be totally different things. For now, I could only introduce you to the possibility that what might seem true now, will not be true later on. Just be happy you are on the safe side, because their openness will often lead to recklessness. Transparency has its consequences, it may provide you with easy access to "fun" stuff but it also provides you access with other stuff. You yourself will learn to tolerate and accept some form of transparency, there you will mature and be able to distinguish wisely and have a less biased perception.

Point taken... TY

I suppose i wanted to see what other people thought of it. It's not much of an issue, but one of those times when that little voice in your head starts asking "why?". Although i've got my own answer, perhaps listening to other people's opinions would widen the horizons.

Ty for you insight. Very enriching

[yiennahs]

i never went for someone who is easy, the problem is if i like the guy i tell him directly (who doesn't go for someone who is easy too) lol.

i guess i'm dumb when it comes to it ^^


why:
if i go for someone who is easy, he will love me but maybe it will fade or something, maybe it is not also love at all, just admire

next, walay challenge

and i am not attracted to them, muend up nya nga muhilak palang sila tungud naku, makagaba nya.

[Scott Bernard]

TS, I think lahi man ang rejection nga "atik2x lang", ug rejection nga dili jud ganahan ang girl (or in some cases, kami mga boys).

Mao na, ako, if ganahan ko sa girl, whether easy siya or pa hard to get ako jud apason. Naa man gud na signs, ambot lang sa uban ha... pero ako maklaro nako if palugit lang ang girl.

Pero if dili jud gani ang girl, then unsang dugayan diba? Lain man pod nang mamugos ta, abi palang Gold ang ilaha...

[Insanitarium]

If you dislike a guy, do not give them false hopes. If they are interested in you, they will find a way to be with you.

If you like a guy, it's up to you how to handle it. If ganahan ka i-level up ang challenge or whatever.

But note... show a bit of your bad side. If they can't handle you at your worst, then they don't deserve you at your best either. You'll find those worth keeping or letting go. You can't always please someone.

If a person likes you truly, he will disregard or ignore your bad traits. If not, then they will use that as an excuse to dismiss whatever interest they had in you or to end the relationship. Besides, you can't always go about hiding your true self in the long run.


Easy girls have guys easy jud. But those types of girsl... also have fragile relationships. Dali ra na sila mailisan usually, or sila dali ra mu-ilis ug laki. Girlfriend or Fubu material. Short term relationships. Not generally speaking, but you might want to look at the number of relationships and the length of time ana. Don't rush. Take your time.

And IDK... but sa akong naobserve sa akong mga laki nga friends, lahi ilang level of respect sa easy girls... mura ug menus ra kaayo. Pero depende ra sad na sa laki, especially kung unsay ilang tan-aw sa babae. Kay kung interesado jud ang laki to take the relationship further, they won't give a damn sa status sa girl.

[pboi]

depende ninyo unsaon ninyo pagdala. hehe