how to come out as a lesbian..?

[cptn_star]

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my gosh...a girl is a girl and a boy is boy...

[lord]

hahah.. lesbian jud...

[naborbong]

Dont tell me bro.. ga duha2x nsad ka........ btw right timing lang dyud and accept what will be the outcome. Be brave and be honest to yourself and to everyone that sorrounds you. They will accept you ra for who you are....

Usahay gud sa balay mag sayal man sad gud ko....

[Maew]

"Nothing is 'good' or 'bad', 'right' or 'wrong' - only thinking makes it so", was a quote by some clever bloke I think......

Surely we are allowed to differ on what we think is right or wrong in society, or do we all have submit to your ideals and demands?

Unfortunately when "free thought" is aimed at dissident sexualities it all too often doesn't involve any thinking at all. Only a kind of inherited ignorance fostered by fear, hatred and conservatism that is in part the influence of the religions of the 'people of the book'.

[Mr. BrokenHearted]

this is a free country so ladlad dayon tanang style bsta panglalaki mao ra nanay buhaton sa panamit, pamarog, buhok, basta tanan, etc2x.......

[Maew]

Thank you very much Mr. Sandman for your sensible advice..I really appreciate it..it will really help a lot..

and I hope she can do it sooner..

and thank you for being broadminded and open-minded...

Hi, here's another way to do it (open first to your dearest friend(s)):

Tell your friend(s) casually, don't say it in a way where it sounds like a big deal. A lot of people don't know how to react when someone says they're gay. They just think...okay good for you...if they're not homophobes. They are your friend(s) for a reason, right? They will support you and, you can help her understand you and continue on as friends. Maybe drop hints, like you were talking to a lesbian the other day and were thinking what does (your friend) think of homosexuals in general? If she seems uneasy, give it a bit. You could even tell her right there that you are a lesbian and if she responds positively then it would be a good start to tell the relatives next.

Just go with the flow, good luck.

[curiousone]

you know what she doesnt have to be...hahaha....sayang au iyang beauty..heheh....pero kung dli mada...aw mugawas rna puhon2 oe...kung di jud matabang..hahaha....i really have a thing for some lesbians though....sayangan lang ko sa ila kagwapa nya maparehas ra diay nko.....ngyek...hahaha

[cesski]

you are absolutely right, gurl..it is easier said than done..daghan pa jud kaayo dili open sa gay community diri sa pinas that is why she's still afraid to reveal her true colors..not like in other countries..

well i suggest telling her closest friend/s first. that's what i did. then i told my cousins who are like my sisters. i think all of my friends know by now. ang kuwang nalang akong parents. but they already have a clue i think, it's just a matter of confirmation nalang jud. i'm not ready to tell them yet, financially and emotionally. i'm still waiting for my "right timing".

it was pretty easy telling friends. most of them were accepting actually and pretty shocked. some of them treated me differently. some mura kog gibastos and discriminated me. some who looked up to me, now look down on me. pero it was all worth it. it only goes to show that the ones who truly loves me and thinks of me as a true friend, accepted me for whoever i am.

it doesn't change my attitude, my views in life, i'm practically the same person as i was before. the only thing that has changed is the genders i want to be in love with. people man gud in the philippines or in southeast asia in general, are used to LABELS. i hope your friend can read this so she may find a bit of peace in reading a part of my coming-out story.

[ashley85]

well i suggest telling her closest friend/s first. that's what i did. then i told my cousins who are like my sisters. i think all of my friends know by now. ang kuwang nalang akong parents. but they already have a clue i think, it's just a matter of confirmation nalang jud. i'm not ready to tell them yet, financially and emotionally. i'm still waiting for my "right timing".

it was pretty easy telling friends. most of them were accepting actually and pretty shocked. some of them treated me differently. some mura kog gibastos and discriminated me. some who looked up to me, now look down on me. pero it was all worth it. it only goes to show that the ones who truly loves me and thinks of me as a true friend, accepted me for whoever i am.

it doesn't change my attitude, my views in life, i'm practically the same person as i was before. the only thing that has changed is the genders i want to be in love with. people man gud in the philippines or in southeast asia in general, are used to LABELS. i hope your friend can read this so she may find a bit of peace in reading a part of my coming-out story.

Thank you very much for sharing your story..yes, you are right..she should start telling her close friends/colleagues..but..what if I say she's living in a Muslim country? will it be okay to still reveal her true identity or she will just wait until she will leave the country..

[tobeymaguire]

well i suggest telling her closest friend/s first. that's what i did. then i told my cousins who are like my sisters. i think all of my friends know by now. ang kuwang nalang akong parents. but they already have a clue i think, it's just a matter of confirmation nalang jud. i'm not ready to tell them yet, financially and emotionally. i'm still waiting for my "right timing".

it was pretty easy telling friends. most of them were accepting actually and pretty shocked. some of them treated me differently. some mura kog gibastos and discriminated me. some who looked up to me, now look down on me. pero it was all worth it. it only goes to show that the ones who truly loves me and thinks of me as a true friend, accepted me for whoever i am.

it doesn't change my attitude, my views in life, i'm practically the same person as i was before. the only thing that has changed is the genders i want to be in love with. people man gud in the philippines or in southeast asia in general, are used to LABELS. i hope your friend can read this so she may find a bit of peace in reading a part of my coming-out story.

Congratz!..You made it..Job well done...