NO FEELINGS INVOLVED: Just HORSING AROUND or CHEATING?

[redhorse1L]

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Pareha ra man ni ug ing-aneh nga pangutana:
"Unsay mas dili sakit, bunal o kulata?" hehehe

Probably, depende sad tali na sa effect sa imong partner.

If ang imong "real" partner faithful kaayo nimo, lisud kaayo na.

Pero na man uban nga partner nga ok ra gali nila mag-night club ila uyab. basta mobalik lang niya.

Either way, both are not good in relationships and has lifetime effects.

[annerhexian]

I don't think you got my point... Please read my orig thread...

I said don't take it against me, im only trying to come up with an intellectual discussion (tired of
reading all those nonsense thread)... Because whether you like it or not, its really happening.

As the bible said, "Let he who is without sin, cast the first stone"... don't be one of those
hypocrites in here... don't be all talk... it's easier said than done brother. Peace!...

wahehehe stop preaching brother..
HAHAHAHA! DO what you preach....

so please justify once... ur intellectuality beyonD what I do believe..

tell me? whats the difference of horsing around to the so called CHEATING?
applicable cguru nang mag horse riding ka sa uban taw if and only if dili ka committed
but if ur in a relationshep? back ride (in discreetly) ka sa uban total front ride btaw imo uyab?

HAHAHAHA
so par thats what i understand
but there is always an after effect to every act we committed..


Newton's third law: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
science ko karon.. waheheheh kay nag bibliya naka

[Amicus Curiae]

wahehehe stop preaching brother..
HAHAHAHA! DO what you preach....

so please justify once... ur intellectuality beyonD what I do believe..

tell me? whats the difference of horsing around to the so called CHEATING?
applicable cguru nang mag horse riding ka sa uban taw if and only if dili ka committed
but if ur in a relationshep? back ride (in discreetly) ka sa uban total front ride btaw imo uyab?

HAHAHAHA
so par thats what i understand
but there is always an after effect to every act we committed..


Newton's third law: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
science ko karon.. waheheheh kay nag bibliya naka

Non siquitor...

I think the problem is... either you don't understand my point or you just can't express
your own idea... either way you're missing the whole damn point for being unresponsive...

I'm not preaching... I'm only trying to differentiate the two, in my own opinion, and get
ideas from other istoryans... Why are you taking it against me? In fact, i emphasized that
both are unacceptable and not right... The fact that those words have different spelling
means they're not the same, technically....


Basic is the principle in criminal law that, "There is no crime when the mind is not criminal"!

[KASAAC]

You may not agree with me guys... but it is my personal opinion that if there's no
feelings involved, it is plainly horsing around... technically, it cannot be considered
as cheating...

There is a hairline (slight) difference between horsing around and cheating...
Sleeping with another person other than your partner is not cheating per se.
A typical example is one-night-stand, where there's no feelings involved (usually).
On the other hand, cheating is habitual... both parties invest feelings and stuffs
which is unfair to one's original partner... Technically speaking, horsing around
is one at a time whereas cheating is two-timing...


Disclaimer:
I'm not trying to justify something here, so please don't take it against me...
Just sick and tired of reading nonsense thread, i'm only trying to start a sensible
and intellectual discussion... (no offense to other TS, peace) hehehe

Great notion TS. As for me, horsing around is like cheating because when you horse around such of that example you take an unfair advantage at the expense of others (your partner) just to satisfy your personal desire and interest. Although no feelings are involved but one-night stand is an act of unfaithfulness, a violation to the standard rules of intimate relationship (depends of course on the boundaries defined), in other words if you act outside the mutually agreed boundaries of the relationship, then that's cheating.

[disomniac]

Great notion TS. As for me, horsing around is like cheating because when you horse around such of that example you take an unfair advantage at the expense of others (your partner) just to satisfy your personal desire and interest. Although no feelings are involved but one-night stand is an act of unfaithfulness, a violation to the standard rules of intimate relationship (depends of course on the boundaries defined), in other words if you act outside the mutually agreed boundaries of the relationship, then that's cheating.

verY weLl said coud'nt agree moRe....

[Blackjellybean27]

There's a lot to talk about actually... Horsing around is purely sexual infidelity
whereas cheating, generally, constitutes both sexual and romantic/emotional
infidelities. There's a big difference between the two.

Romantic/emotional infidelity occurs when the cheater is, so to speak, while still
in a relationship with his/her original partner plays beautiful music with a new
partner... FEELINGS is involved in this case. You are CHEATING because you
maintain another relationship with another partner.

On the other hand, feelings is inexistent in one-night-stands. Sometimes, when
people horse around they don't even reveal their true identities (names, address
and stuffs)... Its NOT CHEATING because you don't give a damn about the other
person other than getting laid...

As I said, horsing around is occasional and casual whereas cheating is habitual.

But wait... before you react, i know, in both cases, its wrong... but for purposes
of discussion, let's put it this way... Which is more hurting, your partner maintaining
another relationship with someone? Or your partner engaging someone else, just to
while away his/her time?

I get what you mean by horsing around TS, and I know there is also a huge difference between being loyal and being faithful.

Horsing around is just playing around with someone, no feelings involved and as much as i'd like to keep an open mind about it, it still hurts me knowing that my partner is "horsing around" with someone else. I bet he would feel the same way if i was doing the same thing...

Hmmm, maybe it also depends on what you and your partner talked about.. say for example, if you and your partner talked about "playing around with other people is okay, as long as you come home to me" then no reason to get mad because that's what you told your partner in the first place right??

as for me and my partner, we already talked about what's okay and not okay in our relationship. so for him to actually play around with someone else is definitely a no-no!

as for your question, either way it still hurts a lot... doing it with the same person means there is something about her, that's quite attractive (duh!) that keeps him coming back for more and it could lead to a possibility of several complications (he might just fall in love with her, he might get her pregnant, etc etc etc).. doing it with just any other chick who comes along hurts big time as well. Just the thought of him doing it with some random chick is just plain disgusting, and it could mean as well, that well s3x is just s3x for him... it could also mean he feels that way towards s3x with me... sigh, i hope you get what i mean...

[Peenut]

Hahah..I guess it goes the same T.S

[Amicus Curiae]

@KASAAC:
Exactly what i'm saying... it depends on the boundaries defined by both parties...

@Blackjellybean27:
I got your point, i appreciate your being openminded...

@annerhexian:
I still don't understand why you're taking it against me... to the point of calling me a jerk.
Do you have any idea what intellectual discussion is all about?

"ignorantia... non excusat"... (ignorance... excuses no one)

[butong101]

@TS, there's this very thin line in between the two. I can;t imagine my girl having *** with someone else may it be called horsing around or cheating.


OT: This is a very sensitive topic which involves emotion. No one will ever respond to this stimuli without considering his/her own. So, ayaw namo pg lalis. Nindot man sd ni na topic buh, lisod lang istoryahon..hehe just a thought..ó

[anjerika]

do you mean "horsing" is like cheating but without deliberate intention of involving feelings in a deeper level? lol


ok, kung ang one-night stand dili siya cheating,
how about FF's?
how about swingers?

mura tag mga hayop ani. unsay gamit sa commitment? ka klaro anang before ka ni start og one night stand it was a deliberate decision to respond to the call of nature para tugonan ang imong kalipay nga panglawas. lol.

unless you were raped, or nay point where you can't control your thoughts like influence of alcohol, drugs, or mental problem, that could be forgiven.

cheating or "horsing" around whatever produces the same feelings of anger. kaw kuno TS, ok ra nimo mag HORSE around imong partner? anyway it's still not cheating.

or maybe you meant something like murder vs. homicide? ang usa tinuyoan ang usa di, pero pareho rag ending, nakapatay ka. hehe.

just my ten cents.



P.S. TS, do u have a bf/gf?