Are you dissapointed being the bread winner sa inyong pamilya?

[Missmary]

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This is a very good discussion amongst us Filipinos because we are expected to help the family. In my case, I was lucky enough to migrate to England, studied and qualified as a Nurse. In my first few years here, I sent most of my earnings back to my family. But it was never enough for them. It's as if they've developed this mindset that because I am earning a foreign currency, I must shit money here. Then there were lies and emotional blackmail from my mother. I found out years later that my Mum would lie about medical emergencies just so I'd send money. Fast forward 20 years later, I found out that the house that paid for for my parents is being given to myolder brother. Then my own father scammed me by selling me land that was not his to sell. Then recently, another sister tried to sell land that I already paid for.

There is nothing wrong in helping. I think it is an honorable act. But if you expect your family to help you when you need help in future, be prepared for dissappointment. I hope am wrong. But I'm just sharing my personal experience here, so hopefully you can learn from my experiences. Not all Filipino families are the same. But there's a lot of families out there that are like mine.

[redhot itlog]

This is a very good discussion amongst us Filipinos because we are expected to help the family. In my case, I was lucky enough to migrate to England, studied and qualified as a Nurse. In my first few years here, I sent most of my earnings back to my family. But it was never enough for them. It's as if they've developed this mindset that because I am earning a foreign currency, I must shit money here. Then there were lies and emotional blackmail from my mother. I found out years later that my Mum would lie about medical emergencies just so I'd send money. Fast forward 20 years later, I found out that the house that paid for for my parents is being given to myolder brother. Then my own father scammed me by selling me land that was not his to sell. Then recently, another sister tried to sell land that I already paid for.

There is nothing wrong in helping. I think it is an honorable act. But if you expect your family to help you when you need help in future, be prepared for dissappointment. I hope am wrong. But I'm just sharing my personal experience here, so hopefully you can learn from my experiences. Not all Filipino families are the same. But there's a lot of families out there that are like mine.

I am so sorry for what you've been through. Kahilak gyud ta'g lansang ani sitwasyona. It's easy to forgive but its not easy to forget. But what can we do, we have to move on. Alangan naman imong ipapreso silang tanan, you can't right? Padayon sa imong support nila but kanang igo igo nalang gyud. Ayaw na pailad ug hugti na imong bakos. Learn to say "NO".

Save some for yourself coz you're not getting younger. Gob bless!

[cartoner]

Its quite ok raman dili raman maka disappoint kay malingaw rako sako anak.

[redhot itlog]

Shout out sa mga bread winners diyan, hahaha. Kumusta namo? sige pata? I am still doing it but less nalang kay ang duha nag work na although once in a while mohirit gamay. Yeahhh! Hapit na gyud ni mahuman.

[jerzx777]

This is a very good discussion amongst us Filipinos because we are expected to help the family. In my case, I was lucky enough to migrate to England, studied and qualified as a Nurse. In my first few years here, I sent most of my earnings back to my family. But it was never enough for them. It's as if they've developed this mindset that because I am earning a foreign currency, I must shit money here. Then there were lies and emotional blackmail from my mother. I found out years later that my Mum would lie about medical emergencies just so I'd send money. Fast forward 20 years later, I found out that the house that paid for for my parents is being given to myolder brother. Then my own father scammed me by selling me land that was not his to sell. Then recently, another sister tried to sell land that I already paid for.

There is nothing wrong in helping. I think it is an honorable act. But if you expect your family to help you when you need help in future, be prepared for dissappointment. I hope am wrong. But I'm just sharing my personal experience here, so hopefully you can learn from my experiences. Not all Filipino families are the same. But there's a lot of families out there that are like mine.

Its a sad truth that there are Families making their OFW Family like a FAT Cow !, they will asked supports and expensive gifts without knowing how difficult the life as an OFW to earn money. . I think the best way for you is to limit or stopped your support to your relatives except for the support to your parents, save something for yourself and enjoy life, it is better to forgive and forget.

I'm also part of millions working outside our beloved Country, but I'd never experience from my family the things that you've had. .

[bahiista]

di lalim labi na ug layo sa imong pamilya ug bread winner pa gyud ka. mag sagol sahay ang kakapoy ug kamingaw..resulta kaluha ka.
bisag unsa pa ka dako imong ipadala kwarta sahay kulangon gyud ug sa akoa ang effect maka luya...but at the end of the day pag makita nimo nga happy sila tanan nga kasakit mawala ra

[redhot itlog]

dili oi labi nah!! single ka unya naa lapas na sa kalendaryo imong edad nya ikaw ra gisaligan sa imong pamilya!!!

dili lalim gyud no! 1M claps for you and to all breadwinners diha. lalo nasa malayong lugar pa. don't stay single, do find one.