UnsaY BaTi Sa SobRa Ka Bo-Otan? TurN-Off DiaY JuD Na? :-(

[xyrcler]

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i think momatter ang choice sa personality sa mama sa lalaki...in my case I grew up nga ako mama ang aggressive...so ang ako gusto is medU hinhin ug buotan...had enough of nagging na guro..hehehe...love you ma...hehehe

[DEMONOCIETY]

I had drinks with my friends last night. And LOVE has always been the staple of every drinking sessions, right? Then I became the hotseat since most of my friends are married and have gfs/bfs. They have all these conclusions that I'm too picky, too much of a workaholic and even too good -- all these reasons why I am still single.

What didn't sit well on me is the last remark,

"Bootan ra kaayo ka Bey. Ma-guilty magbinoang nimo ang laki nimo mao na dili nalang sila nimo."

"Pag minaldita lageh, tan-awa, dili ka buwi-an."

Toinks!

Ing-ana diay na? all the while I thought that's the usual benchmark for anyone if they are searching for their possible mates... At the back of my mind, I was asking who in the right mind would want for a really mean partner?

Or could I be wrong? what do you think guys? Are my friends right?

Turn-off jud ang bootan?

wala pa lang moabot imong perfect match TS pag post na lang dinhi sa istorya.net nga mo hire ka ug BF ibutang ang qualification unya pila sab kabook? bitaw happy hunting na lang nimo

[Gildas]

nge! mao sad diay pirmi ko mabiyaan og laki ky buotan sad kaayu ko...

[HyunChard]

as for me it all depends sa laki.... swerte lang gani ang gurl nga buutan kay gibuwagan kesa gamiton pajud.... at least makaingon mo nga dili tanang lake user,abuser, and always taking advantage.....

mas nindot man gud nang naay spice and bitterness panagsa gud...

kamo kunu kaon ug linuto nga puros ra asukar gibutang...... or much better cgeg kaon ug tam is diba dali raka pul an?? maong kinahanglan naa kay parat nga side silbe appetizer ba....

~datz ol tink yu..

[beyee]

Wow... reading through your posts was simply enlightening and
I agree to most of your views. In fact, I have gone through some
changes with how I deal with people around me but there's still
more of the good side in me sans the "doormat beyee" hehehe...

Medyo palaban na and dili na madali2x og ilad or i-bully
Hizuka, kaw ra jud tawn ako ghuwat... if pde ka

Thanks so much for all your inputs guys..

[HyunChard]

TO ALL OF US especially you TS.... i think you'll learn by experience... it'll mold you to cope with different personalities..... GL nalang... makaconfuse jud bitaw usahay... but your're on the right track man kay labaw paman kaha ang good side? ayaw lang pud wagtanga imong good side... ^___^

[yvonne6]

i think this has correlation sa akong permi isulti nga mga lalaki adto nuon magkugod sa buang2 nga babay, kanang mga biatch types mao na sila ang gukdonon sa mga lalaki. i think because men are more challenged to see if they can tame a woman like that rather than buotan kaau ang girl and they are assured nga whatever they do, magpabilin jud ang babay nga loyal nila. maybe they are not challenged at all. kapoi sad bitaw sabton ang mga lalaki. all i can say is be what you are naturally and dont try to be not what you are at all kay dili nana ikaw. dawaton ka sa lalaki not because unsa ilang gusto but because kung unsa ka. kamaayo ra anang buotan ah. unlike sa uban, makatalikod lang gamay ang uyab, tua na, nabuangna

[HyunChard]

all i can say is be what you are naturally and dont try to be not what you are at all kay dili nana ikaw.

But for me, we living things should adapt to our environment labi na jud sa character. I'll just rephrase this: "be the best that you can be" and learn to adapt/open-minded kung dili ka gusto masakitan. Learn to change kung unsay pagkulang nimo, I know it's not that instant but with practice it'll become your character. It's not being what you are it's just evolution. Think outside the box and you'll be the best that you can be. naa gani nakasulti naku "the worst advice you can give to someone is 'just be yourself'". Lol ni oppose jud akong utok ane aie... but after some time nakarealize man ko. Kung nagpaka ako palang ko sukad sauna.. mao rajud siguro gihapon akong dangatan in general ha not just sa lovelife.

[phoqscofield]

depende rana kung naay nakauyon sa imong kina iya TS or wala..

[quirkychinita]

I remember something...

My BF told me once that a woman left him just because "grabe ra kaayo siya ka-buotan"....

Yeah, he's really nice, VERY! Im well taken care of, I'm given the respect I deserve, treats me like a princess and gave me everything I wanted even though I wasnt asking for it but he knew what I wanted(which sweeps me off my feet!)....He makes me cry with happiness and he's killing me with laughter and gave me the best times ever!... and he surprises me with my favorite things every time we're together! Im becoming the envy of my friends and even my nieces wanted a man like him when they grow up, they once said after they saw how happier I've been eversince he came to my life(Im so LUCKY!) I see nothing wrong with him... Okay, maybe he gets a bit late on a few dates but I don't mind cuz I don't get bored waiting cuz I see a lot of things that I could get busy on that I just get surprised that he's tapping my shoulder just before I know it.

No one has a clue why a perfect man like my BF would be dumped/hurt by anyone... specially by a woman he once loved... Well, setting THAT aside, I'm still thankful 'cuz I have him in my arms already and Im keeping him!

Going back to the topic "Grabe ra kaayo ka-buotan"... In my opinion, it's a less offensive (but FRIGGIN' STUPID!) excuse to tell somebody. Who in the right mind would leave somebody who almost gave up his everything for you, gave you assurance and made you feel like to him, you are his whole universe?

If I put myself into the woman-who-dumped-him's shoes, the only reason why I could think of leaving him is because I'm not easily contented, I'm selfish, Imma numbskull that I ignored the obvious sacrifices and the gifts laid on my feet and because of my insecurities because I wanna be loved by a LOT of guys to prove that I'm attractive...which actually looks cheap for me... (A friend says, all CHEAP things have a lot of buyers! hahaha!).

Tsk! Why does this happen? Oh well, c'est la vie! Sh*t happens. It even happened to me once or twice or... I can't remember how many times hehehe! BUT Whoever she is, she just lost what she never had! Im still thankful cuz if it wasn't for her, my beloved man wouldn't find me. And I found myself a keeper.

BTW, nobody's perfect, but each people have different versions of beautiful and it's up to chemistry, compatibility and a person's understanding how he/she decides who to keep...

As for my end, I found what I've been looking for and Imma take care of him for as long as I could!



---Good Vibes!