LOVE PROBLEMS ( post em all here ) READ FIRST POST...

[meOwkyU]

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yep, thats so true....try to hold your feelings....because it would be selfish to force her to lov u....i suppose she is in love with her ex....wat other reason could there be to go back to an ex?....dont worry...time will pass by, and so will how u feel (of course, depending on how much u luv her, it might not even die)...basta, ana jud na ang life, lisud

by the way, thanks diem, i never thought i was being overly involved with his pain....

[fingolfin]

.. EXs can be treated in two ways.

A. Disgust
B. Respect

.. but it depends on how you broke off that relationship. Choice A is prompted in situations when you are betrayed. While choice B is appropriate if you had proper closure.

.. its as simple as that. But no matter what the case is, you should be thankful to your ex coz one way or the other, you have learned something.

[jugs_06]

Is is normal?..

is it normal? no dude it's not.. tsk!! u need to see Dr. Phil.. kiddin....

seriously, believe me when i tell you this, there comes a time in your life that you would forget about her and move on with your current relationship.. nothing lasts forever and there's just no such thing as that.. time will tell, and eventually with time comes healing on your part..

you might ask me, how in the world will i forget her? DON'T THINK ABOUT HER.. do something worth your time..

if not, then i guess you're stuck with her.. damn, reality bites and it hurts.. tsk tsk......

[sheka]

.. EXs can be treated in two ways.

A. Disgust
B. Respect

.. but it depends on how you broke off that relationship. Choice A is prompted in situations when you are betrayed. While choice B is appropriate if you had proper closure.

.. its as simple as that. But no matter what the case is, you should be thankful to your ex coz one way or the other, you have learned something.

what if no closuree? where to fall?

[fingolfin]

what if no closuree? where to fall?

.. no closure then that means you didn't break up at all. It's hard to define your " no closure".

[diem]

[font=calibri]@sheka, fingolfin is right, its hard for others to define what is closure for you.. so better decide for yourself if a relationship is over or has yet to be resolved.

Please take in mind that relationships are more than just feelings... relationships are also about understanding, knowledge, thoughts and decisions that can lead to actions and consequences. Emotions can be prompted or arrested by mere Action.

For example, if you want to close the book on your ex, either you're feeling disgust or respect for him/her, just close the book, shut the door... the actions are merely the same no matter the feeling.. minimize contact or interaction, finding a hobby or habit to occupy your time and energy, or divert your time and energy into other people, other things, like family, career, friends, your self or a new love.

Emotions can be started or stopped by Decision or Action. It is easier said than done... but it can be done.

@meowkyu, you're welcome. Remember that the average human body is naturally resilient and has its own means of healing. He will heal, give him time. You could help him by cheering him up (w/o any reference to or about love), keep him positive... though love could be the greatest source of joy in life, it is not the ONLY source hear?

I think a man only needs one thing in life.

He just needs someone to love.

If you can't give him that, then give him something to hope for.

And if you can't give him that, just give him something to do.

- James Liddle from the film "Flight of the Phoenix" 20th Century Fox, 2004.

[fingolfin]

... but can i ask you people:

please give us your VERY OWN definition of.... relationship

.. so that we may be able to understand one another better.

[chad_tukes]

Naa koy problema sa gugma. Concerned kaayo ko sa usa ka taw unya wala ko kahibaw nga wala diay siya naka feel sa akong concern para niya. She thought of it as nothing. Kung sa binisaya pa, wala ra.

[ronna]

@tukes

nuh? cguro wa xa ka feel sa imong concernity. hahaha jowk sorry for the work.
are you sure you are letting her feel special? cos my gosh di baya mi insensitive friend.
if mura ra xag wala so meaning wala xa ka feel sa imong gustong ipa feel, so go! move to the next level.
make her feel extra special.
kabalo nman tingale ka kung unsay difference sa treatment sa friends lang ug sa naa kay pagnanasa diba? hehe bad word nasad.

dili baya mi managnag-an friend. di sad mi manhid.
pero naa mansad jud nuon uban gurls nga magpa-manhid2 if dili sila ganahan sa guy

post diri uban details para matabangan ka sa uban istoryans. :mrgreen:

[sinsiyo]

@chad tukes:

you said that she doesnt know that you showed her some extra moves. you know bro women are very sensitive they already know what are intentions before you took the act. that is how powerful they are.so its not that she doesnt know but i think she doesnt want you to notice her about your intentions. plan your next move...