should you move on or should you just keep chasing pavements?

[Forever_alone]

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Taasa ui. I'll make it sh0rt "cool off" sa m0.

[quirkychinita]

let's put it this way, been living together for 4 yrs with her boyfriend,very happy in the first 2 yrs of the relationship, until complications came along the way and changed everything,because of selfishness, ego and pride. And in order to divert themselves from these complications, they do things just to get even with each other. And it came to the point na magkasikitay na not just vocally, emotionally but also physically, given the fact , naa ra jud gihapon ang selos.However, both parties are still trying hard to make the relationship work, but still same thing happens ga cge ra nuon gihpon og away, everyday to be exact. Which is obviously not healthy anymore especially in the case of having 2 yr old kid who could almost witness the everyday argument that happens.

Anyway, to cut this short, if you guys were in this situation, should you move on or should you just keep chasing pavements? considering the fact that you have a son.

WOW! sakita pud ani wui! but anyway, I've seen this in my sister and my parents....

Maybe these stories would inspire that person.

Imagine? I used to see my mother (when I was little) mopping the floors as she cry and my dad would always hit her in front of me almost every night... My mom was such a patient woman... Even though she knew my dad had more than 2 women in his life, she never gave up and nagpahiubos ra sya. wa siya nanimalus kay she knows my dad always come home to her every night FOR A REASON... Now that Im all grown up, I see them together growing old under one roof... I even caught them waltzing like a prom queen and king when I went home to cagayan de oro one time... I just stood outside the house and peered from the window as I watch them giggling as they dance, talking about their plans as they grow older... it was heart melting...

My sister on the other hand hs the same exact story as the person you were describing... My sister left her son to me and went to Manila to think things over... Akong bayaw nagpaka happy happy sa iyang other woman... Until he realized what mistake he has done and flew to Manila to get my sister back. My sister then was planning for a legal separation nd even went to the point of getting herself dunk and nagbaklaya sa Luneta while my bayaw followed her bisan galabayan na siyag botelya sa vodka and daghan nakakita nila... My bayaw said nagpahiubos siya kay kung pareho sila magbinalusay, walay mahitabo... In awhile nagbalik raman gihapon sila... Now they're making progress by managing a coffee bussiness together... dara nagbloom samut ilang relationship...


My point is, dpat naa jud isa sa ilaha ang mag pahiubos kay ang PRIDE, wa nay mabuhat...

AN EYE FOR AN EYE THEN THE WORLD GOES BLIND.





----Good Vibes!

[Control-X]

For me... LOVE is a very important factor in any relationship. Without it, everything else isn't worth fighting for.

[Wynna]

growing up in a broken family is never that easy,and I could attest to that based on my own personal experience. Let's say I am that person, murag dili man pud nako kaya makita akong anak grow up without a father to consider. Set-up has been made though, like weekends niya ang bata, weekdays nako but still it wouldn't be enough to be called a home.. On the other hand, staying would not only prolong the agony on both sides but also would make things more complicated . Yes, "maybe" we are still hoping for the best, and to at least "save" the relationship but right now, it's like as if I am staring at the sea, wondering kung asa jud taman.

[pinkpumpkin]

make it work.maybe they need time lang para sa ilang kaugalingon.

[Wynna]

WOW! sakita pud ani wui! but anyway, I've seen this in my sister and my parents....

Maybe these stories would inspire that person.

Imagine? I used to see my mother (when I was little) mopping the floors as she cry and my dad would always hit her in front of me almost every night... My mom was such a patient woman... Even though she knew my dad had more than 2 women in his life, she never gave up and nagpahiubos ra sya. wa siya nanimalus kay she knows my dad always come home to her every night FOR A REASON... Now that Im all grown up, I see them together growing old under one roof... I even caught them waltzing like a prom queen and king when I went home to cagayan de oro one time... I just stood outside the house and peered from the window as I watch them giggling as they dance, talking about their plans as they grow older... it was heart melting...

My sister on the other hand hs the same exact story as the person you were describing... My sister left her son to me and went to Manila to think things over... Akong bayaw nagpaka happy happy sa iyang other woman... Until he realized what mistake he has done and flew to Manila to get my sister back. My sister then was planning for a legal separation nd even went to the point of getting herself dunk and nagbaklaya sa Luneta while my bayaw followed her bisan galabayan na siyag botelya sa vodka and daghan nakakita nila... My bayaw said nagpahiubos siya kay kung pareho sila magbinalusay, walay mahitabo... In awhile nagbalik raman gihapon sila... Now they're making progress by managing a coffee bussiness together... dara nagbloom samut ilang relationship...


My point is, dpat naa jud isa sa ilaha ang mag pahiubos kay ang PRIDE, wa nay mabuhat...

AN EYE FOR AN EYE THEN THE WORLD GOES BLIND.





----Good Vibes!

kini jud pride lageh bah! .. but good for your parents and sister kay na overcome nila ang trials that came to their lives. Given naman jud nga naay complications, but too much of it would lead to disaster..

[Control-X]

This is my idea, TS: Like you said, them staying together would prolong the agony and it only makes things more complicated. Mas maayo pa siguro bulagon nalang gyud sila aron dili magsinakitay or worse things might happen, basin magpatay pa hinoon lol ayaw pud. I think both of them can keep the relationship going even if they're not staying together.
Ang anak didto na ibilin sa parent nga dunay work para sayon ra masuntentuhan. Or if both parents work, didto ibilin ang bata sa kinsay mas dakog sweldo nilang duha. Ibutang ta ang mama ang mas dako income kaysa income sa papa, then sa mama magdako ang anak whether the father agrees to it or not. Wala nay pride-pride diri nga magpaibabaw, ang future sa gamay'ng anak ang dapat sabton nila. (Parents should stay away from each other, pero dili nila putlon ilang communication kay basin diay maka-realize sila in the middle of the events, if you know what I mean.)

Kanang bata nga 2 yrs old wala pa man kaayo na'y buot, wa pa nay kalibutan unsa nang "broken family" matters. Wala ra na sa iyaha. Usually pagtungtong anag mga 5 yrs old, ayha naman na mangita ug mangutana'g asa iya papa. Mao ni edad sa bata nga medyo aware na siya sa mga things around him, nya kabalo na sab mangompara sa iyang mga nakita. Kamo na dayon bahala ug unsa inyong sakto buhaton kung ang bata gusto na mangita ug answers sa iyang questions. Ang kuyaw kay kung mangutana siya sa iyang mama ug "Ma, gusto nimo modako ko nga broken family pud?" hehe. In the end, it's all up to the kid's parents kung mopadayon ba sila sa journey padung sa path to a broken family or to mend broken things together as a complete family. [Pray together, Stay together lang unta sila...]

[spike412]

if the couple wants to make it work, you both love each other and respect is still there then i will recommend to work for it but if all these are not available in your relationship then it is time to let go.

[eezychair]

There seems to be something missing in the picture... Christ. That will make a difference, trust me.

[walker]

how can you chase a stationary pavement?